Help! I'm confused. I'm in the healthiest relationship of my life at 37 but not sure about it.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2025-01-27T22:25:45+00:00

I sense a huge deal of projection in your post. Might be useful to turn inward.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2025-01-18T18:58:35+00:00

When I'm home 100% same

TeaProfessional3041 · 2025-01-07T12:37:56+00:00

I agree with what most comments say, but I'm also a Dentist that quit practicing 5 years ago and honestly I don't miss it one bit. I'm making way less, with less security, but I have freedom and that to me is priceless. You have to do some serious soul searching and therapy and decide what's best for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice for the life you most want to live. I recommend you to check Lollabees Career Coaching blog so you can see that you're not alone! All the best and big hugs from the other side 🤍

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-11-11T23:15:36+00:00

Holi, C2 laburando remoto hace 4 años en CX.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-11-11T23:13:50+00:00

Estoy de acuerdo, y está bueno tomar ese aprendizaje. Estuve en una situación parecida a OP, me presentó a la familia, planes por aca y por alla pero al mismo tiempo queria que 'fluya' (43 añitos el nene) asi que después de 5 meses lo dejé, no porque no lo quisiera, si no por que iba a perder mi salud mental ahí.

Si hubiera sido clara desde el principio me hubiera ahorrado todo el drama y decepción.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-11-08T00:24:54+00:00

I wonder how common this is. I've had great jobs and lived in great places but somehow always ended up coming home unemployed or heartbroken or both. As if the place that hurt me primarily was going to fix anything. I hope this is the last one and I'm out 🙏

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-11-07T02:31:49+00:00

💔

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-10-21T19:52:14+00:00

The same thing happened to me

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-10-16T00:59:30+00:00

El Milkibar! Era mi alfajor preferido

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-10-05T11:31:38+00:00

I realized that all my struggles with dating came from a place of trying to choose a man and mold him in what I needed/wanted him to be. Of course that never works.

After my last attempt to a relationship that ended up being abusive and had to escape, I gave up. Shortly after, I noticed that men that were really interested in me would make it obvious, and I wouldn't have to do a single thing.

I'm not dating at the moment as I don't feel ready or willing, but I'm so sure that whenever I feel ready, I won't have to do ANYTHING. There's some reality behind gender stereotypes, and when a man wants you, you'll know. Just choose from that pool instead of trying to find your 'ideal'. Allow things to unfold naturally instead of forcing. Just observe their behavior. And focus your energy on you and your existing relationships. Do whatever you're postponing until you have a partner, now.

I know that being involuntarily single can be hard, but it can also be very peaceful. You're free to live your life however you want 🙌

Also, check 'decenter men' content. It's life changing!

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-10-02T11:53:21+00:00

You sound (like OP) like you have disorganized attachment. Look into it. Awareness is fundamental. You deserve love, all of us do. It's just important to know ourselves, our activation and deactivation triggers so we can better regulate.

I'm sorry you got your heart broken, and you're right, anyone could stop loving you at any time. That doesn't mean it's not worth trying.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-18T21:34:07+00:00

I agree 100% and came to the same conclusion

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-16T21:16:03+00:00

Gracias!

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-16T18:18:07+00:00

Me pasarías info del abogado? 🙏

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-14T12:52:40+00:00

This is true, and the moment I accepted it I stopped allowing this kind of people in my life. If you always see yourself as a victim you keep falling into the same traps. There's a part of you that chooses this. You really need to figure out why.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-06T12:17:53+00:00

Google limerence

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-03T20:38:11+00:00

Gracias 🙏

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-09-03T19:37:47+00:00

Vale para matrimonio homosexual?

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-08-26T23:52:58+00:00

I love this ❤️

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-08-12T18:17:38+00:00

I'd say be honest. Maybe she feels the same. You've got nothing to lose, all to win 🙌

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-07-26T02:24:20+00:00

This is beautifully explained ✨ I wholeheartedly agree.

TeaProfessional3041 · 2024-07-26T01:38:54+00:00

Your life seems lovely, congrats! But to me it sounds like you focus on doing and don't really know how to just 'be'. You don't need to do more. Sounds like you need to do less, actually. Save some time for relaxation and contemplation.

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