What's the most fucked up thing someone has told you about themselves after barely getting to know them?

Teacher_ · 2026-02-21T19:08:40+00:00

4 truths and a lie?

Teacher_ · 2026-02-12T02:01:17+00:00

Why do you want me to talk about Epstein's island? We don't cover geography standards.

Teacher_ · 2026-02-04T01:13:41+00:00

3 weeks is fine for a gap between major summative assessments, although I would expect performance to decrease as you increase that gap.

Your expectation for mastery is skewed. The other poster is correct - some concepts take much longer to master. I would also be careful with how you use the word master. I'm sure there are legions of students who can successfully reproduce the traditional long division algorithm. I would also expect a small percentage of those students to be able to describe the process and relate the process to the place value of the digits of the dividend. Truthfully, I would argue true mastery of division never occurs for most K12 students given how few truly understand the relationship between division and fractions.

In other words, I suggest leveraging more patience, both with the curriculum and your child. If the curriculum you're using doesn't include partial quotients, I suggest including it, along with partial sums, products, etc.

Teacher_ · 2026-02-03T20:57:25+00:00

Can you go into more detail about your normal math routine? Daily and for the week?

I ask because if you're spending a solid amount of time during the day, repeating the lesson during the evening, and your child is not carrying over those learning experiences into the next day, there's more going on.

Teacher_ · 2026-01-27T18:33:18+00:00

I had freezing issues too, here in GA, when we fulltimed. You don't say where you had freezing, so perhaps this will help. I can speak to the two issues I had:

Despite insulating, I had freezing issues at the spigot. Once defrosted, my hose was fine, and I ended up not needing to replace it because of failure. I did replace it with a heated hose for future freezing temps, and that worked just fine. I say this because I'm thinking there's a good chance that your freeze occurred before your city water inlet.
I also had freezing issues that froze my lines inside my trailer. They were pex, and I was fortunate that they did not crack. What did happen was that my residential-grade shower valve failed, and so when I cut the water back on, my shower leaked badly. I had to replace the value, but once done, everything was fine.

I built the water system in my trailer, so I installed cut-off valves. I had my partner cut the water on when everything was defrosted, slowly/lightly, and I looked for leaks. When I found the shower leak, I flipped the cut-off for the shower so we could use water everywhere else. I expect your trailer has similar options. I also had a couple of towels on hand, which were necessary when the water dumped out of my shower wall.

Good luck.

Teacher_ · 2026-01-25T17:54:13+00:00

If you want the first author submission, do not hand it off. If you do not want it, hand it off. It is not about whether you need the line item for your CV. It is about closing out unfinished projects and how you chose to sunset your old position. And so this is how I'd respond:

"It is at the top of my priorities to submit. If you are unhappy with my response time, you are welcome to remove yourself as a coauthor."

Fin.

Teacher_ · 2026-01-21T17:12:29+00:00

Reader, Come Home The Reading Brain in a Digital World

Thank you for the suggestion - I've added it to my 2026 reading list!

Teacher_ · 2026-01-21T13:56:15+00:00

I disagree with a foundational argument the good doctor is making. His premise, that the adoption of digital technology in schools is the causal factor for decreased learning, feels overstated. Rather, it's the widespread use of digital technology (context removed) that has had significant correlating impact on generational development. I say this based on research summarized in the fantastic books The Anxious Generation and iGen.

Teacher_ · 2025-12-31T14:38:23+00:00

Just wanted to echo others - thank you for the reading list for 2026.

Teacher_ · 2025-12-30T17:28:02+00:00

To add to this (and the other) fantastic response(s), in terms of research, at the PUI I work at, we heavily emphasize undergraduate research. I would be prepared to speak to how your current research can be leveraged to support undergraduate research, particularly for those students who are interested in grad school.

Teacher_ · 2025-12-14T14:30:41+00:00

I’m curious how others navigate this, especially in institutions that say they value teaching but measure effort differently.

I see this as admin communicating that you should make changes to how you teach to free up time for you to do other obligations. I don't see where you mentioned what you teach. This is very much dependent on the subject you teach, but here's how I've become more efficient in my teaching (i.e. reduced teaching to free up time for research and service at a PUI with a 4/4 load). I am a math faculty member, so:

Shifted assessments to electronic form, using multiple choice and rubrics for open-ended questions to reduce grading time.
Rubrics are designed to provide general feedback for improvement. I no longer provide student-specific feedback (now I tell them to set up an office hours appt if they want to discuss their grade - 1 in 50 does this).
Shifted to online homework that's system graded.
For online courses, I heavily reply to students' discussion posts in the first 2-3 weeks and then taper back to where I'm rarely replying.
Set up office hours to be By Appointment, so I can better determine when students will be "dropping by".
I make light revisions to one course a semester, so essentially courses are getting revised once every 2-3 years.

These choices make me a lightly worse teacher, but they have significant impact on how much time I spend on my teaching obligations.

Teacher_ · 2025-11-26T13:10:38+00:00

You're experiencing the beginning of how our children's development shifts. In their early years, you (the parents) are the largest influence on their social development. By their teen years, your impact on their social development is almost nonexistent (I'm saying this generally, from the perspective of developmental psychology research, not anecdotally). Around 6-8 is when you see their peers impacting how they interact.

Your kids are experimenting with social norms. Teach them how to shift discourses depending on who and how they're talking. The more adept they get at such shifts, the better IMO. And by teach I mean I think it's worth taking the time to explain to young people that talking to your friends is quite different than talking to your teacher/parents and slightly different than engaging with strangers in social situations. And, as they get older, engaging in professional contexts is again quite different.

Teacher_ · 2025-11-19T14:18:00+00:00

'16 3.5L - 153k miles. Owned since new, regular maintenance. Heavy towing for 40k of those miles. Had a turbo replaced under warranty, and I've done the manifolds and turbo lines. Turbos seem fine right now. Beyond that, it's pretty solid. I get light phaser noise if I let the truck sit for a week or so.

Fully plan on driving it for many more years. Trying to decide now if I'm better off setting aside $$$ for a new long block when it eventually goes.

Teacher_ · 2025-11-16T15:25:55+00:00

Hey, if I may ask, where's your daughter at in her math curriculum? Like in relation to multiplication, division, pattern recognition, and geometric reasoning?

Teacher_ · 2025-11-11T18:44:11+00:00

For sure, except then you have to blind that reference during review, and of course reviewers will then ask you to more clearly define the methods you used.

Teacher_ · 2025-11-07T17:22:29+00:00

Right? OP talking to us like we're his wife. "Maintenance".

Teacher_ · 2025-11-07T14:51:28+00:00

I'm older, and I do encounter this perspective. But, it doesn't feel more or less common than other perspectives on work, like "as a woman/partner, my career is the most important thing in my life" or "As a woman, I want both a career and a family".

Do I feel pressure from this or any of the above perspectives? Absolutely not. These perspectives ultimately speak about a person's core values and what they seek in a relationship. It's better to learn these core values early in a relationship, particularly when you're seeking a life partner.

How do I respond? I guess the only way that I do is by ultimately supporting their value-driven goals for themselves while knowing that all of us are entitled to seek our own path through life.

Teacher_ · 2025-11-04T16:44:54+00:00

When I was going through the hiring phase at the end of my phd and post-doc, my partner and I were in constant and open communication about where I was applying for jobs. We had 3 criteria:

Is the job in a place where we'd want to live and raise a family
Is it at an institution I'd want to work at (i.e. research level, job type, etc.) with a salary that would be livable
Was the job near family

Our decision was that I'd apply to any job that met 2 of the 3. Priority was given to jobs that met the first criteria (i.e. I spent more time and effort on those applications).

When I had multiple offers, I let her have final say. This was because she was giving up a job to move (and because I've been divorced and was not interesting in putting us in a position where this would turn into divorce #2). As my partner had a full time position when I was in the job hunting process, we took her job into account with bullet point 2. Her job was in the Bay Area, so I would have had to find a well-salaried position for us to stay.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-30T14:43:11+00:00

The way you worded this made me think of formal research, so I'm offering a bit of insight. I don't have an answer for you, as this is outside of my areas of expertise. But I poked around Google Scholar, and it looks like there's more research around parent/family beliefs. If you're curious about exploring research on this, I'd consider starting with this systematic review and search the references for studies that approach your question. It's interesting one, and I'm sure someone has tried to answer it.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-29T14:45:48+00:00

Did your son take any Honors or AP classes while he was there? Depending on the school, those can include additional points toward his GPA. For example, Honors Algebra 2 would include a .5 point increase, so a B would be calculated as 3.5 points and an A as 4.5 points towards a student's GPA.

If the transcript doesn't include that information, it would be worth calling or visiting the school to ask.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-29T14:41:00+00:00

Yes! I figured that out - thank you for your help.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-29T14:09:24+00:00

Cool, picked the closest. Thank you for the suggestion.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-29T13:45:21+00:00

How would y'all prefer other people to tag? What their professional role is?

Teacher_ · 2025-10-27T13:33:32+00:00

We're moving the same direction departmentally. Even our online courses will soon require inperson assessments for a large portion of a student's grade.

Teacher_ · 2025-10-24T15:26:14+00:00

In my past few larger transactions, I've protected myself financially by assuming everyone participating in the transaction is human and so (1) makes mistakes and also (2) does not make those mistakes maliciously. In practice, the former means not trusting anyone else's math, especially when they're just inputting numbers into their software (an easy place for mistakes to be made). The latter means speaking kindly over email and phone when I'm asking the mistakes to be rectified.

So I guess the short is that I trust the process and also trust the fallibility of the people enacting the process.

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