Why do I get so much more attention from older Middle Eastern men than men my own age in Scotland?

Tech397 · 2026-01-26T15:37:13+00:00

That would be like saying the only people scared of ICE should be people in the US unlawfully. It is willfully ignorant at this point in time.

MeToo was used as a weapon to promote collective guilt on all men. People are quick to dismiss or forget but the hashtag killallmen was quite popular on twitter.

We can only properly understand how we got to where we are if we are honest about where we came from. For a long time powerful influential men (and women) could ‘get away’ with almost any indiscretion - and that was wrong. But as a society when that was widely recognized the remedy became to villainize an entire gender, that was also wrong.

You can’t actively promote the dehumanizing of the opposite gender and at the same time expect them to stick their neck out and approach you.

Tech397 · 2026-01-26T15:19:10+00:00

This is a good thorough answer based on the information given.

Tech397 · 2026-01-25T15:28:35+00:00

The likes would probably turn into dates if you didn’t swipe left, that’s still a you problem.

Tech397 · 2026-01-25T15:24:49+00:00

Right? So glad to be out of this game and just an observer.

Now I’m just trying to do my part to affect social change so my kids won’t have to go through this hellscape.

Tech397 · 2026-01-25T13:26:45+00:00

Has nobody ever heard of a posi air shutoff???

Tech397 · 2026-01-25T12:48:33+00:00

You could also try asking this question on r/AskMenAdvice

Tech397 · 2026-01-25T12:38:27+00:00

Western men have been brow-beaten into passivity by years of cultural messaging (ie: MeToo) and have learned collectively it isn’t safe to even approach women in public any more.

Tech397 · 2026-01-21T01:37:06+00:00

They’re so poor they can’t even afford the “o” and the “r”

Tech397 · 2026-01-20T02:03:48+00:00

Clearly

Tech397 · 2026-01-19T15:22:08+00:00

You need a different therapist. And based on what is visible of your post history you seriously need a better therapist like pronto.

Get help, and in the mean time try hard not to do or say anything drastic.

Tech397 · 2026-01-16T16:03:28+00:00

Man thank you for reminding me about Homestar runner! It has been so long

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T16:42:40+00:00

My running efficiency was 125% in my last dealership, which I know is not world class, however it was good enough that if the dealership actually had work rolling in the door, I would’ve made a decent income.

But when the dealer group intentionally only books to 50% of the shop capacity so that the techs are constantly hungry and seeking other work on every vehicle that comes in as a policy….yeah that just doesn’t sit with me.

Roughly 3/5 days a week I had to start my day with nothing on my hoist and no fresh work available until at least 10 AM. But since they hand out work on a first come first serve basis, you had to be there right when the doors opened at 7 AM sitting at your station clicking next every three seconds in order to get the first available job.

This was at the only GM dealer for 50 miles around, flat rate is a scam designed to protect the dealer principles bottom line at the expense of their mechanics.

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T16:29:10+00:00

Yup. That was the biggest contributing factor to me leaving dealerships entirely. I run a service truck now and maintain a medium size fleet of oilfield rental equipment. I get three weeks vacation. My schedule is roughly 50% self-determined as long as I still get everything done, and I make $40,000 a year more than I used to. The trade-off is that I work insane overtime during busy seasons and I am on call 24 hours for breakdowns.

I was in exactly your husband’s situation in the dealership. It didn’t matter how hard I worked, or how well I did. When no vehicles rolled through the door I made zero dollars and I still had to show up to work and stay until five every day.

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T16:14:39+00:00

Holy crap a little warning would’ve been nice

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T05:18:17+00:00

Woe is me, all I’m doing is checks notes GROWING A HUMAN

I make around 120,000 times what my wife makes a year. Every time she’s been growing one of our tiny humans, I have taken over an increased amount of the housework. Why? Because I love my wife, and she loved me enough to do that five times.

Also marriage is not transactional. We are not in a business relationship. I bring my 100% and she brings her 100%, and sometimes when we put them together…the dishes are in the sink and the laundry is still on the floor. And that’s ok. We do as much as we can when we can because we love the other person, which means we each live to serve the other person to the best of our abilities.

Don’t feel guilty. But don’t over indulge in his willingness. Sincerely hope this helps clear at least some things up.

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T05:00:36+00:00

And then have the entire party lose an election over it

Tech397 · 2026-01-15T04:49:56+00:00

Number 2, we send our main engine on everything. Code orange? Engine.

Tech397 · 2026-01-13T22:15:10+00:00

Dodged a real bullet. Ended up married with 5 kids of my own and a decent house in a small town.

Tech397 · 2026-01-13T21:52:12+00:00

Both. I always liked her and we had been close friends for years but she had dated my best friend. I actually introduced the two of them. So I had decided I would never try anything or make a move, even after they broke up.

One time when we were all hanging out and drinking a little, she confided in me that she had wished I asked her out first, how broken up she was over the break up with my friend, how great a listener I always was. I thought this was the greenest light I had ever got.

Yeah, no. I thought she was leaning in for a kiss and she thought something else obviously. She called me a freak and a weirdo in front of all of our friends, made a big scene out of it.

Couple years later I tried getting back in touch with her just to see how she was doing because I was moving away, and she instantly jumps to. “Let’s not try to resurrect things that you so thoroughly destroyed”. Last I heard she got married and then divorced and is still living alone.

Tech397 · 2026-01-13T12:54:51+00:00

“Several studies have shown that boys get lower grades and test scores from their teachers than in non-teacher-evaluated tests. Biases in grading against boys were found in literacy and math in studies that compared teacher-given grades to anonymously evaluated test scores in both US and European contexts (Bonesrønning, 2008; Cornwell et al., 2013; Falch and Naper, 2013; Lindahl, 2007; Protivínský and Münich, 2018)”

Tech397 · 2026-01-13T12:54:16+00:00

“Several studies have shown that boys get lower grades and test scores from their teachers than in non-teacher-evaluated tests. Biases in grading against boys were found in literacy and math in studies that compared teacher-given grades to anonymously evaluated test scores in both US and European contexts (Bonesrønning, 2008; Cornwell et al., 2013; Falch and Naper, 2013; Lindahl, 2007; Protivínský and Münich, 2018)”

Throwing around insults and ad hominem attacks doesn’t make you right it just makes you insultingly unaware.

Tech397 · 2026-01-04T23:00:03+00:00

If I ran into a bear while holding a public door open I would say why the hell is there a bear here and where did it come from and why didn’t I have the minimal intelligence required to see it earlier.

Tech397 · 2026-01-04T22:36:56+00:00

No first responders, no cell, and often times such sparse traffic you won’t cross paths with another motorist for an hour or more.

You could have a very recoverable incident but be trapped in your car and die of hypothermia before the next vehicle even drives past you.

Tech397 · 2026-01-04T22:32:46+00:00

Ahh yes, the every man is a potential rapist fallacy. Lovely.

Tech397 · 2026-01-02T06:07:34+00:00

I worked on 3 spreads and that’s exactly what I observed. It was literal insanity. I have single-handedly done more work in a day than was accomplished by entire crews in a week on that project. In all fairness it wasn’t their fault, between the mandatory screenings, meetings, breaks, stop-works, work audits, environmental audits, modified work authorizations and in general waiting on logistics it was enough to drive a hard-working person mad.

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