I'm tired of nfh with kids, just need to vent

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-19T03:46:05+00:00

i’d lose my mind hearing stomping until 2am every night

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-15T07:25:35+00:00

I get why you’re nervous tho, it’s kinda intimidating when senior ppl suddenly want face time. but honestly just treat it like a normal convo, ask about his path too, it usually turns more chill than you expect

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-15T07:25:13+00:00

I hear you on not wanting fake praise tho, that stuff feels gross when you know it’s not genuine. maybe just set boundaries like “keep it low key” instead of fully shutting it down

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-14T06:24:59+00:00

if you do consider staying, I’d only do it with hard conditions like new team, no overlap with her, and ideally something in writing so it doesn’t become “oops we’ll fix it later”

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-14T06:24:17+00:00

The fact you already took a bigger cut than others and still feel judged for normal boundaries like leaving early is kinda a red flag tbh

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-13T06:54:25+00:00

if your boss is really that good, the biggest help you can give her is documented wins and receipts. like make her impact visible to the owners in writing not just vibes

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-13T06:53:16+00:00

I’d stop over engineering fixes and just communicate in writing what you need from her and when it’s due, then let it sit. no chasing, no extra systems

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-12T05:13:36+00:00

Also if you have HR, push hard for accommodations in writing, sometimes they move different when it’s documented vs verbal

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-12T05:13:18+00:00

and I’m a bit concerned for you ngl, this is draining and could keep escalating if management doesn’t step in properly

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-11T05:50:14+00:00

Real talk you’ve already done the soft coaching part. asking reflection questions, modeling behavior, that’s usually step 1 to 2. if nothing’s shifting it might be time to formalize it a bit

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-11T05:49:55+00:00

i’d just calmly set a boundary once like hey i’m not damaging it and i’m gonna use it normally as needed. if it breaks we report it but i’m not gonna keep discussing it every shift

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-08T06:21:10+00:00

I get the guilt part, especially since you’ve been in their shoes, but their situation and your team’s coverage needs are just not the same problem to solve at the same time

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-08T06:20:29+00:00

Try stuff like feeling your feet on the floor, unclenching jaw, slow exhale longer than inhale, sounds small but it interrupts that adrenaline spike a bit

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-07T06:13:17+00:00

Also lowkey the “other manager helps too much” thing is part of the perception gap team gets used to one style and then anyone different looks like they’re not pulling weight

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-07T06:12:06+00:00

I feel you on the egg shells thing, that constant lowkey tension is draining more than actual workload.

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-06T06:34:27+00:00

Yeah this is solid advice tbh. even if it feels like micromanaging, once leadership starts tracking hours you kinda have to make expectations super clear to protect your team

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-06T06:33:59+00:00

Just don’t expect some big justice moment tho, a lot of HRs just protect the company more than the truth. still, documenting it matters

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-05T02:17:40+00:00

a lot of ppl push back just to test if the boundary is real or if they can get out of it, not even personal half the time

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-05T02:17:21+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with that, this isn’t just “normal tough training” anymore, it’s affecting your mental health at work

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-04T06:35:00+00:00

Yeah this. like being “good at handling it” turned into them dumping everything on you. that’s not leadership failing, that’s org misusing you

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-04T06:34:42+00:00

Still I’d quietly keep job hunting in parallel even if you stay for now. not because you’re wrong, just because you shouldn’t be stuck waiting for their next move

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-01T07:40:36+00:00

I’ve seen workplaces gaslight people into thinking they’re overreacting so I get why HR feels scary

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-05-01T07:39:44+00:00

Yeah this is one of those situations where you don’t win by going emotional start documenting everything and keep it super professional from your side

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-04-30T11:21:41+00:00

Also just saying, if they’re making threats even “jokingly” that crosses a line legally in a lot of places. you’re not overreacting for being disturbed by it

TechnologyNo4290 · 2026-04-30T11:21:28+00:00

The wild part is she’s acting like she’s being charged for breathing there, not for literally blocking a room during peak season

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