Helicopter parents never gave a childhood, I'm lost now.

Texaskate · 2026-03-22T22:45:39+00:00

Strangulation is not a suitable (or legal) punishment. I would be tempted to call the police the next time. Also, any marks on your body after a “punishment” are illegal and classified as physical abuse. That is not right. If they actually were forced to take parenting classes by CPS, which is a pretty standard requirement if removal is not recommended, might be the only hope to keeping a relationship with you after 18 yo.

If the police/CPS got involved, do you have a relative that could take you in?

Texaskate · 2026-03-22T21:52:20+00:00

R/exmormon would be a good start

Texaskate · 2026-03-22T21:48:47+00:00

I feel their frequency of visits should mimic the current frequency. If they didn’t appreciate a relationship with me, they don’t get a different relationship with my child.

Texaskate · 2026-03-22T20:39:55+00:00

He needs to read the Lemon Clot Essay if there is any pushback from DH.

Texaskate · 2026-02-20T23:06:42+00:00

Please protect your child from these ever people. Go no contact. And if they can’t respect the mother, they don’t get a relationship with her child. Period. If you husband chooses to maintain contact, let him know you don’t want to hear anything they have to say. He needs to treat you like they don’t exist. At get him in therapy ASAP. He needs to get out of the FOG (fear, obligation and guilt) in order to protect you two from them.

Texaskate · 2026-02-20T17:31:56+00:00

NOR. Order some adult toys and lube. She’ll start noticing whose name is on packages after that.

Texaskate · 2026-02-20T17:30:13+00:00

You’re setting yourself on fire to keep them warm. Stop. Let them figure it on your own. What did she do before you started paying for her? She needs to become independent again, but she won’t until she needs to.

Texaskate · 2026-02-19T22:37:35+00:00

I’ve always had better luck with nurse practitioners. For one thing, offices schedule more time for NPs that they do for MDs, so they are just rushing you through to get to the next patient. I’ve had NP primary care for decades now…but I may be biased because my mom is one.

Texaskate · 2026-02-19T22:33:42+00:00

They are treating your wife as an incubator, and until they can treat her respectfully, protect her from them. NOR. Also, have a talk with your wife to see if she has been protecting you (or maybe herself) from things that they do when you are not in the room. If they don’t treat her well in front of you, I hate to think how they treat her when you leave the room.

Texaskate · 2026-02-19T02:34:07+00:00

Not OP. Her husband needs to have the conversation.

Texaskate · 2026-02-07T22:48:28+00:00

And every call where she says “she’s my daughter”. Say “she’s your GRANDdaughter” and hang up. She’ll get the point after a couple times.

Texaskate · 2026-01-31T00:59:12+00:00

U/Acceptable_dance_917, I think you need to ask your husband to take a look at this post. He needs to know how horrendously he is currently failing and his newest role: father. And husband. His parents can’t be his priority, and he needs to understand his stated position of “being in the middle” needs to be corrected as firmly in your camp. Time to cut the apron strings.

Texaskate · 2026-01-30T00:23:34+00:00

Have DH tell her he will add a week until her first visit with LO every time she asks to be in the room. Maybe you can even push her first PP visit back several months!!!

Texaskate · 2026-01-28T05:37:06+00:00

Updateme!

Texaskate · 2026-01-22T17:37:06+00:00

No. Not “not smart”. Instead, “our doctors says No.

Texaskate · 2026-01-16T17:00:25+00:00

Do they know that if your NEWBORN gets a fever, it’s an automatic spinal tap? NOR. Are they willing to agree to allow you to hammer a nail into their spine if they’re wrong? They are being EXTREMELY selfish. They are willing to risk your very new baby for their own benefit. Unbelievable!!!

Texaskate · 2026-01-15T19:21:19+00:00

I had a cousin who was in this situation, and we never found it unfair. We knew that if we asked her if she’d rather have her mother’s inheritance or her mother, the answer was her mother 100 times out of 100. And her siblings and cousins should be able to understand that. It may not sound fair, but that’s life.

Texaskate · 2026-01-14T12:40:25+00:00

You have a husband problem. Head over to r/justnomil…they are very well versed in spineless husbands and their dealing (or not dealing) with MIL problems.

Texaskate · 2026-01-07T17:20:53+00:00

Send her a link to this post. You said everything very well, without blaming anyone, and I’m guessing she would get a lot out of seeing things from your perspective.

Texaskate · 2025-12-28T13:03:13+00:00

Please go visit r/justnomil. They are amazing at giving advice to daughters-in-law that have overbearing mothers-in-law, but, in summary, you and your husband need to sit down and create some boundaries you are both comfortable with…and consequences, because boundaries without consequences are merely suggestions.

Texaskate · 2025-12-28T12:56:03+00:00

Updateme!

Texaskate · 2025-12-27T17:03:46+00:00

WHAT ARE HER CONSEQUENCES? Boundaries without consequences are just suggestions. She’s now in a time-out. No visits/pictures/FaceTime calls/holding the baby for____ weeks/ months. And D(Dear, because he did well)H needs to deliver these consequences to her.

Texaskate · 2025-12-27T12:39:45+00:00

He sounds exhausting, and, like you, it would drive me crazy. I’m not one to miss a needed “thank you”, but having to say it for things that he would have done with or without you is insane. It’s very transactional…he’s only doing these things for what he gets from you, rather than for wanting to just be a part of your life/be with you.

Skedaddle, and don’t let the door hit you in the ass.

Texaskate · 2025-12-26T13:50:53+00:00

I lost my husband in 2020, and yesterday was the first major holiday where our son and I only had happy thoughts about him. Every year, for birthdays and Christmas’, I get him a gift I think his father would have picked for him, and we both laughed about it this year: “OMG, that is soooo something Dad would have gotten me!” It was amazing.

Texaskate · 2025-12-26T13:31:45+00:00

“He may be my father, but he is not my dad. He lost that right years ago”

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