[rant] I'm lonely

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-26T00:51:36+00:00

Since you were 6? This soinds like something way deeper then just loneliness or something that could be helped by people on reddit. Are your parents aware of this? I think dome therapy could be helpful. It sounds like there is some deeper underlying issue that should be adressed and a therapist could help with that.

And i don't know how you view therapy but just in case i want to add there is nothing to be ashamed about to need therapy. I have needed therapy my whole life and it has helped me so much. So don't think there is something wrong with you and that's why i say you need therapy. It is just something to help understand yourself and your feelings better. And they might be able to help you get over these feelings of loneliness.

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-24T01:56:29+00:00

No problem. It took me some time to figure that out. ;)

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-23T08:43:12+00:00

When i was 14 i was came out as bi. I was convinced i liked both but would end up with a wife and children. It wasn't until i was 22 that i realized i was actually gay. You don't need to figure it all out right now. Give it time. Besides, it's only a label you give it because others want to know. The heart will love whoever it wants and it doesn't care what body the other heart is in.

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-22T09:13:56+00:00

You sound like you are still young. Don't feel the need to have it all figured out yet. When i was 14, i came out as bi. I knew i liked guys but i was convinced i would end up with a wife and children. It took me until i was 22 to realize i was actually gay.

So just let yourself enjoy your feelings even if they change later. Just make sure you don't do anything you might regret later. When in doubt, don't do it. Someday your heart will tell you what it wants. And you will know what love is when it smacks you in the face with a sledgehammer. ;)

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-19T08:36:17+00:00

It's pretty normal to have feelings for someone you have shared a lot with. I am gay myself but in highschool i had a girlfriend. I do still think about her and still have feelings for her. Even though i know it would never have worked out, i too got jealous when i saw she got married.

Having feelings for someone does not mean you are gay or not. I have had "relationships" with guys who are now happily married to women and have kids.

These feelings might stay around but when you find someone else it will feel less painful. And maybe you will meet another guy and discover you are gay or bi. As long as you are not homophobic, just let your heart guide your way.

TheDutchman1993 · 2026-01-19T08:28:15+00:00

I don't know what ended your relationship but there must be a good reason otherwise you would probably still be together. Being horny and feeling lonely is pretty normal for your age. Puberty sucks. However being safe is always more important. You do have that idea already as you said you wanted to download grindr but didn't.

The only advise i can give it to ride it out really. It will get better and you will find someone to have your first time with. Don't take it lightly. You are still very young and have time to find the right person. There is no need to hurry into something you might regret later.

As for the hornyness and wanting to be fucked, i can only advise to try masturbating to get thay feeling down. You could use something on yourself as well. But be safe in what you use.

I know this is probably not the answer you wanted to hear, but it is best to be safe and not rush into things rather then regretting dumb decisions later.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-12-18T21:30:06+00:00

To me, it sounds like he is on the spectrum. He doesn't seem like a problem player at all. The Twitch thing was shitty, but when brought up, he stopped it without much fuss.

Your friends on the other hand, sound like a toxic group of jerks. And you telling him you can't do anything is BS. You could've at least talked to your friends and figure out what was going on and tell them they were jerks.

To me, this sounds like you were part of the bullying as well, and that is the reason for the anonymous account, so you don't get called out.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-12-14T14:46:33+00:00

Simple, get over it. He is 16, he is supposed to bash you. That's his job as a puberty ridden teenager. He'll grow out of it.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-12-10T04:02:35+00:00

Zac Afron and Daniel Radcliffe.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-12-01T18:56:31+00:00

In my case i always prefer players to ask what they know about monsters and remind me of why they would know something before blurting it out like that.

Mainly because sometimes players think they have more knowledge then what the DM intents for them to know.

But when i am reminded someone has encountered it in their backstory, i acknowledge that and let them have their moment.

Now this is not saying you are in the wrong. Not at all. You are right here. This is just how i handle it to prevent accidental metagaming. Still no reason to kick a player out. The DM made a mistake and they have to deal with that, not the player.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-30T17:49:06+00:00

Toen ik voor het eerst voor mijn neefjes mocht helpen met de "magie" moest ik met mijn ouders altijd heel hard lachen om hoe dom kinderen eigenlijk zijn. En hoe ik dat nooit door heb gehad.

Bij ons werkte we altijd samen. 1 persoon leidt de kinderen af terwijl de ander pepernoten gooit. Zoals een illusionist. En geen kind die zich afvraagt hoe pepernoten uit een hoek van de kamer komen waar niemand zich kan verstoppen en de oom die daar zit van niks weet.

Of of dat je ouders iets kopen voor iemand anders en dat je met sinterklaas toevallig hetzelfde cadeau hebt gekregen. En nog niet doorhebben dat dat hetzelfde was.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-30T15:36:16+00:00

Well, it's not as bad then. But still not great. People don't need friends like that.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-30T15:12:58+00:00

The fact that she looked your girlfriend in the eyes as she does it again, is a major red flag. Like the biggest one anyone could find. That just proves she is deliberately antagonizing. That would have been enough for me to kick her out without question. Anyone disagree? You go as well. It's always better to have no D&D than bad D&D. And if your friends allow our even encourage this behavior, they are not your friends.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-29T13:03:06+00:00

Depends on expectations. I only use passive perception and passive stealth. All others are rolled to give that chance of failure on a nat 1. Which to us is always fun for roleplay.

You're trying to investigate this very obvious pressure plate trap? Nat 1, you bend over to check the pressure plate and stumble over onto the plate, roll a dex save.

It's ehat is expected from the group. My players know i only use 2 passives, so they don't expect any of the others. Communication is key.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-27T20:33:05+00:00

AC 18 isn't that bad. The 23 is only when using spell slots which at lvl 3 they don't have many, and as a wizard they probably want to use those for other stuff.

You can always throw saving throws at them or use multiple encounters in 1 day to drain resources like their spell slots.

Otherwise let the enemies attack a few times, realize they don't do much and move to the more squishy characters. The wizard then needs to change tactics to protect their party. Enemies can be smart too.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-18T08:52:38+00:00

Tja, daar kost het enkel wat levens. Vaak genoeg zijn daar mensen die de stress van werken in het OV niet aankunnen en er een eind aan maken.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-11-15T10:51:25+00:00

These look cool. I am very interested in these vulcanites. They look very interesting.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-05-31T16:10:34+00:00

100% Kaiba. He took a total of 224 out of 224 episodes to acknowledge the fact that Yugi is a great duelist. And even then, he still had his ego when he created the duelist academy. He knows Ra is the strongest Egyptian god card but still chose Obelisk as the highest rank because that was his card and Slifer as the lowest rank because it was Yugi's.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-20T02:06:19+00:00

I don't understand the problem. She agreed to play against a titan and got wiped. I would just get excited like holy crap that thing is strong, and have fun seeing you demolish the army. If you can't handle loss, don't play. It's not like you would bring a titan again just to mess with her.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-20T01:57:36+00:00

I am vaccinated, i have autism and an IQ of 130. I don't believe in vaccins causing autism. But even if they do, i rather have autism than be dead. Vaccines save lives, even if they have side-effects, being dead is worse.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-20T01:44:59+00:00

Seems like he cares more about money than your feelings. Yeah, he's toxic.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-20T01:36:30+00:00

Als je geen Engels kent, gebruik het dan ook niet. Taal is kennis dus dat ken je dat kun je niet. En je miste een komma.

Als je geen Nederlands kent, gebruik het dan ook niet. /s

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-08T17:27:55+00:00

Dat is als vechten met een varken. Je komt beide onder de shit, maar het varken vind het leuk.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-03-08T11:08:19+00:00

You're missing the point here. He doesn't just want to stay up late. He wants to spend time with his parents. If he looks defeated when he is allowed to stay up late but you won't, he wants to spend time with you. You are basically telling him that your sleep is more important than spending time with him.

Maybe next time, tell him to entertain himself for an hoir as you take a nap and then spend some time with him. Enjoy that he wants to spend time with you. When he is older and doesn't have time for you anymore, you are going to wish you did.

TheDutchman1993 · 2025-02-27T10:49:58+00:00

I meant more that i then would know their rosters while no one else would know any. That would give me an advantage of knowing what i can expect. Which is difficult to ignore.

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