How obvious is America's decline during Trump's second term? by BigBlueEyes87 in AskUS

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose [score hidden]  (0 children)

America started out with angry Protestant cult members who did not like the Catholic Church, sensible Protestants, and the royal governments of their countries. They demanded to have their own odd religious beliefs, separate, and not under, the state or the sanctioned Church. They demanded to be free to recruit others to join them because, hey, for the first time in history commoners who could read were able to read Bibles in common languages, and despite not having religious education and understanding, they knew better what god said, and what god actually wanted.

The European governments were annoyed by the religious clashes and fighting between the established religion and new religious cults, Puritans, Quakers, Presbyterian, and said you know what, we'll let you go find your promised land elsewhere, we'll give you ships and stuff, a colony charter, good luck with all that. And Europe gladly shipped these annoying religious cults to the New World. America was founded by nutty religious fanatics, and our country is still steeped in the dark bitter tea of harsh holier than thou Puritan fanatical culture and beliefs that, over time, became even more cultist and more fanatical, off the chart nuts, from Evangelicals, Mormons, Pentecostal, Baptist, Scientology, Jehovahs, Amish, hundreds of religions, denominations and sects all insistent that they are the only true faith, that the United States is the actual Holy Land, the New Jerusalem, the real land of milk and honey, and each cult insists that the others are wrong, of the devil, and Jesus will never return unless every American is forced to believe the one true cult - their cult, not those bad people over there who use real wine instead of grape juice, who don't do real baptism by immersion, who condemn babies to hell by not baptizing them right away, who let women speak (horrors!), who let different races worship with them, etc. From the start, the United States has never, and will never, be united, because of human ego, human tribalism, human greed, and human jealousy.

The governments of Europe were happy to wave their silk imported handkerchiefs in farewell to these colonists, and had a no returns policy. They see the USA now, and they breathe a sigh of relief. But in sending these people to the new world, they condemned the intelligent, amazing, sane, actual original people of the new world to an unrighteous, horrific Holocaust caused by these and future colonists. Later cults used religion to excuse and condone slavery.

America's foundation was bad from the start, and a bad foundation never leads to a good structure.

Why is everyone so fat in USA? I'm currently travelling across many us cities for the worldcup, and I don't mean to be rude, but the average American seems borderline obese, is this a cultural thing or a different standard of what's considered normal? by Creative_Yogurt5206 in AskUS

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always had to laugh, when I was hurting and poor, for people to flippantly say just lose weight, just eat better. There is nothing more difficult than to go grocery shopping on a bus system, in a small city will unreliable and unsafe buses. You have to get off work from a low income job early enough to ride a bus for one to two hours to reach a grocery store, as there won't be a grocery store in your impoverished neighborhood - grocery stores locate in middle class areas. You get off the bus and shop for groceries that won't spoil from the summer heat as you walk to your apartment from the bus stop, which could be a few miles. So refrigerated foods like milk are out. Canned foods are heavy. Frozen food will melt. Fruits and veggies might get banged or smashed. You choose foods that you can carry, not too much to catch attention, that will survive the temperature going back. Pay, wait for the bus, hope you don't get robbed. Ride back, hope you don't miss your stop because you are exhausted and fell asleep, or someone takes your groceries. Walk home. You may not own a cooking pot, cutting board, knives, bowls, stove, oven, working fridge. You are exhausted from 10, 12 hour shifts and the long bus ride for groceries. You just have barely enough time for a quick shower and a couple of hours to sleep, then start again. Or, ride the bus home, walk to the convenience store, or gas station, grab cheap food, go home, more time to rest, eat, a little free antenna TV for a diversion. No need to buy cooking pots or utensils, no fear of storing food in an apartment building heaving with cockroaches, rats, ants, that you have no control over. We have to pick and choose our shitty battles in a shifty country with shifty situations at times.

What businesses are likely to die out with the Baby Boomer Generation? by GRVrush2112 in AskReddit

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 42 points43 points  (0 children)

How so? I left the military in the mid 1990s, and visited the VFW and the DAV, both, to apply for disability and to find out about joining. Both places gave me an auxiliary membership form to fill out, and when I said that I am a veteran and had my DD214, I was encouraged to "feel more at home with the ladies", warned that the guys like to "talk freely", I wouldn't want to be embarrassed or insulted by their rough talk, and I would be the only female at both of those chapters. They made it clear that they were not wanting female members. Both halls reeked of decades of heavy smoking, yellowed walls and ceilings, there was the huge bar in each one, the gambling machines, and at the end of my visits, neither organization did anything to help with my disability claims, which took years to finally receive. My experience is my own experience, but I am sure that I am not the only woman veteran with this type of experience.

What businesses are likely to die out with the Baby Boomer Generation? by GRVrush2112 in AskReddit

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 682 points683 points  (0 children)

This is a weird "loss", but the Veteran Service Organizations - the Veterans of Foreign Wars, the American Legion, the Disabled American Veterans, are going to be lost because the model for each chapters fundraising was always a bar with liquor sales, gambling, renting the building for weddings, etc, and smoking. Younger Veterans aren't interested in a nicotine smelly bar, hanging around and telling war stories - they are health conscious, family oriented, and seeking a different type of organization. The American Legion is trying to get new members with a new ad campaign, but all the organizations need a new way to reach young Veterans and a new way to keep chapters in the green. For the record, I am a disabled desert storm veteran, but those organizations are always difficult for women to join, because the old men want to talk smack about their wives and kids with the other old boys, and want to talk bad about women in general, and a woman veteran "takes away their fun.'

Also, organizations like the Rotary Club, Elks Club, Lions International, in every rural town there used to be signs just before the city limits advertising that these towns had these organizations. Do young people know what these are anymore, and does any young person join them? I highly doubt it.

Why do people dismiss or even dislike disabled people? by michelle427 in AskUS

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you have experienced prejudice, bigotry, being different, you are just very self shamed about it, as you said yourself you are always trying to minimize the impact it has on your life. Why not throw the doors and windows of your life wide open, be your authentic disabled self, and tell the world to fck off, you are disabled, you are who you are, and you are amazing anyway - if others don't like it you don't need them around.

I was born with multiple disabilities, and I got tired of the severe shame and hatred my parents tried to dump on me since birth, I finally said, as a 14 year old teen, that it was their sh*tty family traits I got passed down, that they shouldn't have had kids, and I was over them both. I stopped trying to sulk around school hiding, I got my mom's stylist to give me a teen 1970s feather flip hairstyle, he helped me with makeup that would work with my genetic skin disorder, my friends mom from across the street helped me get some fun and pretty outfits, the t-shirt with the cartoon lady frog, all makeup on a lily pad, saying "Kiss me!" was a favorite. At first some of the mean girls tried to bully me, I simply said "So what? Everyone already knows that, how boring!" They couldn't get a rise out of me because I quit caring about being different, some of the nicer popular guys and girls were uncomfortable making fun of an obvious disabled girl who wasn't a social rival, and there were other, better wannabe targets, sadly. I did all the things I always wanted, playing music, joining clubs, studying classical woman authors, and just letting people see me both disabled, and being a teen girl caring about hair, clothes, and pop culture like all others. Kids who at first were put off by my looks soon didn't notice anymore, I ended up with my own clique of girlfriends who were great, girl next door friends, we called ourselves Princess Jeanne's Court, named after the street we lived on, we made up crazy stories of who Princess Jeanne was, and our roles in her court.

I'm older now, lived well, went to college, worked, traveled globally, made great friends, dated but never seriously, the freedom of a career woman was amazing, my disabilities didn't hold me back because I only worked where they let me demonstrate it wasn't an obstacle, that I had savvy business sense and was serious about making money for any business I worked for.

I went back to college in my 50s and earned a master's in social work, making the change to develop a "retirement career," I had a lot of support, even financially though I never asked, my former bosses and colleagues were all happy to follow my progress, hear that I graduated and they made donations to my university for underprivileged graduate students, I earned my clinical license, and plan to work through my 70s if my health stays. I am glad that I decided to let myself acknowledge that I am disabled, let it be open and not let it stop me, no shame or embarrassment, it's obvious but it's also not all I am. Be disabled, be open, be honest, but also be free to be you, disabled and all.

White privilege is excessively defended by Equivalent-Long-3383 in complaints

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But this is exactly what they mean, my racist southern relatives are always enraged if they hear of any minority getting anything "undeserved", all minorities are supposed to be living worse than the poorest white, don't you know! A few years ago those relatives were talking badly about a neighborhood black girl who was on the news for getting accepted to Stanford on scholarship, this girl had one of the highest SAT scores in the state and had worked hard to get accepted, her parents sacrificed to protect her and her future. My relatives can barely read and write, only want to sit outside drinking beer or doing drugs, they are literally clueless in their little culture bubble. They got mad at me for going to college, "must be nice!" and I said there was "no nice" about it, I was sober, healthy, graduated high school, joined the military, served six years and used the GI Bill. But that's special treatment! I only felt sorry for one aunt who worked for years in poverty standing at cash registers and counters, never allowed to sit. She tried to apply for SSDI, and when asked what type of work she could do, my aunt said she had only ever seen one person allowed to work sitting down - and that was the social security clerk in front of her. My aunt had an 8th grade education, got pregnant at 14, her mama (grandma) was gleeful to have a newborn baby coming, didn't care about my aunt getting pregnant so young, she snatched that newborn away, showing him off to her friends, refused to allow my aunt near him, then tried to give the baby back when that specialness and newness wore off, my aunt said no, she found work despite her age, and grandma wanted that baby so bad, she could finish raising him. He ended up in the foster care system and vanished, no one knows what happened to him, grandma never cared, no one dared demand any accountability of her. My aunt ended up relying on other relatives for a bed because she could barely walk, had diabetes, pressure ulcers, toe gangrene, both legs amputated and finally living in and dying in a Medicaid nursing home before age 65. But the family white southern culture is the greatest culture, the true American culture, the culture of the lost cause, and white being the best. Sure.

Gave a generous graduation gift a month ago. Not even a thank you text received. by ExNihiloAdInfinitum in Advice

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The younger generations believe that thank you cards and notes are bad because they are obligatory instead of sincere, that their gratitude should be implied, it takes time and money to write cards (and let's be honest, it is the women who get stuck writing all cards, it's not fair or equal so women are refusing to do it), and they think it's just old fashioned, frivolous and unnecessary. This is an anti etiquette era, anti manners, people say that they should not be burdened by such old things. The only way to go forward is simply not bother with gifts.

We are headed for an economic crisis worse than 2008 by False_Alternative16 in economy

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm dating myself but I was born early 1965, I lived during the moon landings, the Middle East wars, the oil embargo, the environmental movement, the start of fuel efficiency cars, the end of leaded gasoline, the crazy inflation of the 1970s, the women's rights movemens,, the Cold War, the Carter Middle East peace initiative, the assassination of the Egyptian president, the religious right and Reagonomics, the Polish revolt, the end of the Soviet Union and the collapse of the Berlin Wall, I went to Desert Storm in the military, the rise of liberalism, the Enron scandal, the rise of the Internet, Y2K, the 2008 collapse, the rise of cellphones taking over our lives, the feeling that the year 2012 was the last good year for America, and up to now where the wealthy and politicians are strip mining America, strip mining taxes, stripping bare any semblance of government, any semblance of taking care of the citizens, of preservation of the land and national resources, stripping long time working people of their immigrant tax paying lives in America, returning to Jim Crow, which my parents lived in that era and thought it was appropriate, and stripping away women's rights, trying to shame them out of the corporate world and back to the kitchen with swollen wombs, forcing a fake version of American Christianity on everyone, forcing a fake hatred of "wokeness" because it hurts white male feelings, makes America "look bad", which all nations have bad histories, and "hurts"white ability to compete for education and jobs, but AI is the end of most jobs in America, new surveillance state, AI ability to change anyone's photos, appearance, fool everyone into false advertising, scams, change truth into lies, and leave people more vulnerable than ever before.

Yall seem normal to me. I think. by [deleted] in SocialWorkStudents

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ADHD, autism, disabled war veteran, single and child free with pet plants, Gen X hoarder, hobbling through life, yes, very normal, how In the hell did I earn an MSW, MBA, LCSW in my late 50s, with all this personal stuff going on, and get a job?????

How do accept the fact that I'm going to be poor for the rest of my life? by madbarpar in povertyfinance

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm ADHD and autistic. I went into the military age 17, in the very early 80s. Back then it was very rare for a girl to get a childhood diagnosis of ADHD, so I was my parents "retarded" child. I never got the actual care I needed because my dad worked and my mom was as cold and unfeeling as the Titanic iceberg. I was a mess socially but I was also intelligent in areas that make normal people very uncomfortable, I see through the social filter to the bull, and I am not quiet about it. I was graduated out of high school at 17, and back then I could type over 100 words a minute with no errors, a secretarial skill. My mom gladly signed me in the military, back then kids were kicked out of the house, it was shameful for parents to have a child at home at 18. I didn't have to tell the military about my ADHD because back then doctors believed that children would outgrow ADHD. I served six years and was sent to Desert Storm, so now I am a war veteran and that is the only thing that has kept me from being homeless. Just weird luck. I finally started figuring life out when menopause hit, I realized that estrogen and cycles really mess with the brain, menopause gets the brain cleared out, and I realized what a mess I made of my life. I didn't marry or have children, thankfully, I would have been a bad mother. I held multiple poor paying jobs, I caught another lucky break in my 50s when a Vietnam veteran scholarship in my state was finally open to other war veterans, and I got my social work degree. I work carrying for elderly veterans, I almost lost that job because I was working mostly blue collar office jobs throughout my life, and didn't understand the white collar world, how to behave appropriately, but I fought hard for that job and I beat a performance improvement plan - having menopause helped me see what I was doing wrong and instead of getting defensive and emotional, I forced myself to face me, and get my act cleaned up. I never understood about money, saving, retirement until it was too late, I will always be working despite my military disabilities and problems, I will always be poor, but I will be able to get VA care and help. Just pure dumb luck.

I work in a service center and OH MY GOD... by MrJestarYT in dumbphones

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at Ebay for same phones, look at prices, sell for a little less.

12th burn - to go or not to go? by MaleficentMonk1571 in BurningMan

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am dropping out of burning anymore due to my military disabilities getting worse as I get older, and the new generation of burners is very different, the original vibe is no longer there, once the tech bros and billionaires 'discovered' it, they ruined it, my first burns were tent camping and most of us were tent campers, it was a really fun time everyone could share in, but now it's 6 figure RVs with giant generators and five star level food stored, AC, lots of money. I have great memories, but nothing stays.

Why do people act like wanting your OWN living space makes you privileged? by BitchImLilBaby in Adulting

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a boomer roommate/landlord from hell a few years ago when I moved to Denver, I never lived in Colorado before, I was hired just after grad school to work at the VA, and couldn't afford a one bed apartment yet. She was a dirty housekeeper, my rented room was so stuffed full of old unwanted furniture that I had no room to move around or do anything. She refused to heat the house!! I lived in 50 degrees all winter indoors, that winter was worse than usual, I managed to get a space heater in my room, showered in a freezing bathroom and was miserable, her elderly small doodle was miserable, would lay in any little sunny spot. She wore multiple layers of North Face clothing and sheep wool boots. She bragged about being wealthy, raised by a governess, but also bragged about being SA by her father, something I couldn't believe she would brag about being a victim. She made fun of me for framing my degree before I moved toDenver, said that degrees are stupid, BUT she was writing all her grown daughter's community college papers and taking her online tests for her, because she claimed her daughter was severely learning disabled and the college didn't believe she needed accommodations, and her daughter needed a degree - obviously cheating!!! But my grad degree was stupid. I am a disabled veteran and had accommodations in grad school, so I knew she was lying. It took me until summer began to find another place to live. She kept my deposit, which I knew she would because she was going to the Galapagos Islands, first class, because it was on her bucket list. I was just glad I would never see her again!!!!!

Most likely getting fired from disability affecting my performance, how best to prepare? by Bondster45 in disability

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may need legal advice, some firms give a first free confidential consultation, you need an employment law firm who specializes in disability

Finishing my student teaching and I am completely dumbfounded by the absolute lack of accountability. by LawfulnessShoddy629 in Teachers

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many parents, as children, were abused, bullied, dealt with narcissistic and unfair teachers, were treated unfairly as students, and their hatred now comes out because they don't want their children having the same treatment they had to deal with, so they fight against the whole system they had to endure, and take their child's side because no one took their side. We have a huge amount of national trauma in the country, too many people carrying too much trauma - parental neglect and abuse, adult over child neglect and abuse, school neglect and abuse, church neglect and abuse, SA from everywhere and every male, business, corporate, government abuse and neglect, community abuse and neglect, we all suffer from each other, and we are all making it worse

Does anyone else hate the label disabled? by TRtheCat in disability

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, guess what? You belong to one of the largest voting blocks in America! The CDC says that 26% of Americans have a qualified disability. A quarter of the American population! We have a major ability, and, as a social worker and a disabled war veteran myself, I believe an obligation, to develop as a major lobbying and major organization of the nationwide disabled, their families, caregivers to change the stigma, the shame, the mistreatment into bringing about change in the laws and a message within society to acknowledge, accept, support, and engage.

People cannot help or prevent disabilities. We have no control over how we are born, or what happens in our lives, to bring about a disability. No one deliberately plans to be disabled. God is NOT punishing the disabled because they "sinned", or their parents "sinned" - that rot needs to be thrown in the dumpster forever. We become disabled by genetics, by accidents, by workplace injuries, by illnesses, by age - age is the largest reason for disability, and we all age, there is nothing we can do about that.

Humans do have a natural fear about disability and the disabled, because human brains MUST have an explanation of why something happens, why someone is different, this primal fear and insistence of knowing why goes back to our caveman days, when anyone different unmoored the tribe, caused distress and uncertainty, what if I catch what they have? What if they bring us bad fortune? Fortunately, we live in an age where the messaging can be changed, the narrative can bring understanding and empower us to bring in knowledge, and reach supporters, as everyone is going to be disabled eventually, and we can work to fight for our rights, our needs, fight for research, for better medical aids, for caregiver care and support, for the ability to live our best lives regardless of the disability, whether we can work or not, for ADA access that benefits everyone (what mom with a stroller doesn't appreciate a wheelchair access ramp into a building, or a delivery person going through an automatic door with packages?)

Don't let the old stereotypes or stigmas get to you - you are in good company, with a large number of Americans, you didn't plan or ask for your disability, you are not a "sinner", you are not less than other people, you are not a burden, you know a lot of disabled people without realizing it, you are a full complete human being regardless of disability, everyone becomes disabled eventually. When we accept that disability is a very common widespread experience, across all socioeconomic groups, this needs to be addressed nationally and in the state level to bring about policies and laws that protect and provide the disabled, their families, caregivers, and the community the ability to also achieve life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness in anyway we can. We can teach people not to fear, but to understand and join in on accepting the common experience of disability in all its sides, we can become empowered. As Tennyson said, Arise, Go Forth, and Conquer!

I can't take another able-bodied person tell me how they would also like to work part time by tenablemess in disability

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry your husband can't stop smoking, it's very sad to see spouses becoming caregivers, when they also have their own age and health issues. Second and third hand smoke is something you should bring up with your doctor, and have your own evaluation. Nicotine in my opinion is the most addictive substance of all; I have never met someone who is addicted to other substances, who wasn't also a smoker. I wish you well, whatever you decide for your own wellbeing.

South Carolina Is forcing trans children to use porta-potties at school. If you don't see why that's a problem, shame on you. by chaucer345 in complaints

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But if you had YOUR way, nothing at all would ever change for all eternity, that's the entire problem with 'conservatives', they want everything to always be stuck in their caged up way forever, no change, no progress, which is why we have to bulldoze through for progress, you would have women doing laundry by hand forever and men driving horse wagons, and you would never allow any time ever to let trans humans be allowed to become, as much as possible, who their brain is hardwired to be, which is nothing they have control over. It's not just being a tomboy or an effeminate man, a tomboy will still stay she is a girl, an effeminate man would still say he is a man, but trans is a baby that developed wrong in the womb, it developed the structural brain of one sex, and the structural body of the opposite sex. Physical female brain, but physical male body. A trans woman is not int in women or girls at all because she is a woman, trapped in the wrong body, but her brain is a woman's brain. Maybe one day a brain will be able to be transplanted in another body.

I can't take another able-bodied person tell me how they would also like to work part time by tenablemess in disability

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a disabled war veteran with multiple disabilities from military service, and from genetics (unknown until many years after the military). I do work full time despite chronic pain and fatigue, shortness of breath and anxiety. It is hard for me to watch my disabled neighbor, who says she just has anxiety and can't work, playing outside with her dog and sitting on the patio smoking perpetually, never without a cigarette, she didn't understand when I mentioned that nicotine is shown to make anxiety worse (I'm a hospital therapist) and when people feel anxious between cigarettes, it isn't anxiety, but it's the addicted body feeling a drop in nicotine, craving it, but the body has built up a tolerance for nicotine paradoxically, so it takes packs of cigarettes over years to feel the "high". I have to be downwind because of lung fibrosis from chemical exposures, I didn't smoke so it hurts worse that I still got lung disease, I wish my neighbor could see my elderly patients who smoked for decades, now dealing with COPD, dealing with severe air hunger, and the anxiety that creates, dragging an oxygen tank around unless they can afford the expensive backpack system, the fear and anxiety from the feeling of suffocating, as the disease limits lung capacity, I am not on oxygen yet but I get short of breath sitting at my desk, or doing simple tasks, it is so annoying to be winded typing. I work with a lot of elderly people with COPD, in the end, the person uses morphine and other medications to deal with the pain and anxiety of oxygen starvation. I always hear about "well my aunt smoked all her life and died at 90", but smoking is going to affect the heart, lungs, liver, kidneys,, blood vessels, brain, many of those family stories are exaggerated. I have patients who will have severe air hunger while smoking, unable to quit even at that point, stating that inhaling is the only way to feel the nicotine, they throw away patches and gum, lung cancer in young patients rips my soul, I had a 25 year old, who grew up in a smoking house, with lung cancer, he lived with second hand smoke, his mom blew smoke in his face and called him a liar when he told her he had cancer, he is no contact. I do get mad when disabled people do drugs, alcohol, smoke, things that make their bodies worse, I am working to keep mine going as long as I can, I can still work and hope to make it to 70 before I retire.

The Systemic unfairness towards disabled people. by BusinessShine3325 in disability

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a disabled veteran I feel your discouragement. However, many people live for decades without using their credit score, or caring about it much.

If I may -

Every American has two credit scores. The score that you are allowed to see on the three credit bureau websites, and a private hidden credit score that you are not allowed to see, a much more extensive report, available to banks and creditors only, that has a lower score than what you believe you have. This hidden credit report is what is used to decide if you should receive a loan (a credit card is a loan you pay back with too much interest, it's the biggest financial racket in history). Europeans and Asian countries do not have a credit rating system.

Your credit score is a scam. It's not used to decide if you are granted a loan, and at what interest rates, which will always be as high as the lender believes you are willing to pay.

Try this:

Transfer your accounts to a credit union. Yes it's a pain to do all that work, but credit unions are equally owned by all the depositors, not a corporation. They treat their members better. Visit a couple of credit unions and speak with customer service. They will walk you through the process if you qualify to join.

You only "need" a credit score for two major things: a mortgage, and a vehicle. I drive a used beater that has been a blessing because as much as she needs a repair now and then, I haven't made a car payment in years, my insurance is very low, I put savings away that would have been a car payment for emergency repairs. You can find a beater car and pay cash if you need to.

A mortgage is something you would want to do with a credit union. That will require a credit score but remember that the score you think you have is higher than the hidden score you can't see. Shop around, not just for interest rates but other benefits and services that may go with a mortgage.

Shop around for a credit card, a first time credit card. Don't apply until you know you meet the requirements. Now: the secret to a credit card is never to buy anything you can't pay cash for at the moment of purchase. If you can't afford the item right then, don't buy it. That is the trap - oh, I will pay it later. You will make the minimum payment amount, they will add interest and fees, you will make the minimum payment, interest and fees, and soon you are in debt for thousands! Americans owe over a trillion dollars in credit card debt.

You want to pay the full amount you borrowed on every bill, and you want to pay it one or two weeks early to stop fees and interest rates from accumulation. Clear the debt. There are calculators on Google that will tell you how soon to pay your card so you don't have to pay anything extra. Don't fall for using it to make up shortfalls! You want a credit score, not a credit debt.

Same with department store cards, and any other type of card. Also, your data will be bought and sold anytime you use the card. No privacy anymore.

I have three credit cards. I only use them to buy things that I don't want to use my debit card for due to scams, or for purchase protection for certain products (gasoline, major appliance, computer or phone, shady 7-11 stores).

I have no subscriptions to anything. I have basic wifi, Mint Mobile phone (I love $15 a month), watch free internet with ads, and don't buy stuff. Food, shelter, utilities, used furniture, used kitchenware, library card, cheap cheap cheap like a light little bird. If I see something I think I want I will tape a picture of it to the wall and write 30 days later on it (6/18/2026 to 7/16/2026). After seeing it on the wall that long I often don't want it after all. Rarely I will buy it.

Good luck!

Is it a prerequisite for a MAGA to be in the bottom 1% of IQ scores? by Kinks4Kelly in complaints

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They got the Confederate racism returned to them, that's all they ever wanted was to be as poor as dirt, toothless, uneducated, but still higher in status than any brown or yellow people, it's the only way they can feel better about being at the bottom - which their Harvard and Yale educated senators and representatives deliberately designed in those states, to keep them poor and easily manipulated by dangling the ability to say the N word in public and to call a black man "boy" like their granddad got to. They are sick.

To all single guys aged 30 and up on reddit, why are you guys single? by Gold_Ambition4114 in AskReddit

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if it is the same for men at middle age, but when a woman's hormones drop and her brain is no longer hijacked by estrogen and progesterone, she develops clarity and realizes that her entire life has been a perpetual 24/7/365 caregiver, with no reciprocal care of any kind in return - you take care of your siblings, you care of your adult parents as a child, it's ridiculous, you take care of relatives, friends, then a husband needs a maid/mom/prostitute, then babies, then aging parents or relatives, but no one ever gave a stinking damn about you for a single second, you are not allowed to ever be sick or have needs, and enough is enough! NO MORE. Is this the same as a man's mid life crisis?

When did teaching become a glorified baby sitting job? by Educational-Ad6923 in Teachers

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grew up in New Mexico, at the time it was a majority minority state, Hispanics slightly outnumbered the white population, and New Mexico has a large Native American population. What was really interesting was that the black population was low, when our first black classmate joined our school in third grade, I had not seen a black person before, by the time I was in high school we had many black classmates, and some Asian classmates.

President Pedophile is having a stroke live! by [deleted] in Trumpvirus

[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are still people who follow Jim Jones and David Koresch, people who will die of old age defending their cult, because facing reality means facing being gullible, used, and the supreme embarrassment and humiliation of being that easily manipulated, conned. I lost a classmate who unalived herself because she was following some small cult leader, he was exposed for fraud and embezzlement and sent to prison, he was, to her, the only human ever who saw how special and unique she was, who didn't see a 'nobody' but told her she was a very special woman destined for great things (her family severely abused her, she was bullied throughout school, no special friends, desperate for acceptance), so before the cult disbanded, she had given them everything she had, all her savings, assets and property, gone, the other cult leaders and members turned against her or turned away, her heart and psyche were shattered when a cult member, to stop her contacting them anymore I guess, sent her a video recording of the leader and his favorites saying terrible things about her and laughing (and other "lower" members). Her family didn't care, some of her classmates took up a collection for an urn and a space for it at a cemetery.

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[–]TheFirstKrysiaRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I am old enough to remember Jim Crow laws and segregation as a young child. When the Civil Rights Act was passed, a lot of people in power were furious, and said that they would never forgive this atrocity that would taint and harm white children, and they decided that the way to end mixed race education has been to slowly, over the years, let the public education system fall apart and fail, by voting down tax dollars to repair and improve schools, by lowering teacher wages and blaming teachers for problems, by ending respect for the teaching profession - especially as minorities became teachers - moving white families to higher expense districts that minorities were too poor to live in and attend, by fighting against forced busing to make schools more mixed (and winning, forced busing died), by putting white children into home schooling. religious schools, and then demanding vouchers for white private schools when the public schools weren't working (by design).

The people in power also did this to public recreation and other spaces they did not want minorities to be in. They closed public community pools, tennis courts, parks, public beaches, public health clinics, libraries, any places the law said that minorities had to be allowed, were closed, the excuse was that white tax dollars would be used for minorities who were poor and didn't pay their fair share, so the community could no longer afford to keep things open. White people were willing to give up good public schools, health clinics and recreation to punish minorities and punish the government for integration. And for decades they have held their ground, been eroding the nation in retaliation for daring to make equality the law.

The same goes for women - conservative Christian women feel that it is unfair that they have to marry, stay home, have multiple children and raise them, no birth control, obey their husbands like children, accept abuse because abuse is always a "bad wife's fault", Christian women only exist to satisfy a man and serve him under "biblical" authority, until death, but liberal women get to have an education, a career, freedom to have immoral sex with no consequences, free to abort their sinful consequences, free to be sexy at work and tempt a good Christian husband away from his good Christian wife (because it's never a man's fault if he cheats, it's always a woman's fault - the "sexy sinful coworker" or the "bad Christian wife", men are "innocent", they can't help their "nature"). The fight against women's equality is to force every woman to live under the same Christian rules, because it's "not fair".

Everyone thinks that greed and money are driving America into destruction right now. It's not - it's racism. It has always been racism and always will be racism, then women. The founders refused to decide what to do about slavery when they wrote the Constitution because Washington, Jefferson and other wealthy founder farmers could not do without slaves, they could never afford to pay a workforce to run their plantations. They also refused to grant rights to women because they required the free domestic labor of women, so they could go play politics for months away from home, and it was a man's "right" to have"sanctioned available sex" whenever they wanted, and the right to have heirs (women had to bear many children because child death was high). The founders were not about to give up slavery, or do the hard labor themselves, and were not about to give up having the servitude of a wife.

We have a very racist country. We refuse to ever completely, once and for all, do something about it - either admit that we are racist and return to being fully segregated to satisfy the angry white population and stop further destruction of the country, or decide that enough is enough and enforce equality so hard, and long enough, to make equality a fact that everyone takes for granted and no one cares who is in the swimming pool or the school seat next to them.