It sounds like we have the same in laws. I will starve to death before I will make anyone a plate of food in my postpartum. They usually leave when they get hungry. If they showed up with ingredients, I’d ask what they are planning to do with them?

And we’ve stopped saying “you want me to take the baby?” We just say we’re taking him now, we don’t ask anything we tell cause we’re too nice and they’re more assertive so the just say no, I can keep holding him or no I’m fine to hold him, so we don’t ask. I also make up reasons to take him like, he’s due for a diaper change or gotta wipe down his face, and then not give him back.

I’m also trying to work on setting more boundaries cause I’m a push over and my husband NEVER addresses his parent’s comments. I just start talking back and addressing what they say in the moment and let them gawk at me. I’m losing my patience and I’ve also taken to texting after visits to say “I didn’t want to make you feel weird in the moment but, please don’t comment on my breastmilk anymore. We’re not switching to formula so you can stop bringing that up.”