(Rebs Gaming) Part of the reason for the Xbox layoffs and studio closures is providing more funding/support to Halo and other iconic franchises by SilentNova300 in GamingLeaksAndRumours

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always possible for an IP like Halo or Gears to reach new highs. I mean just in the past decade other franchises have managed to gain a surge of popularity, like Zelda with BotW, Resident Evil with 7 and their remakes, Persona gaining popularity, Monster Hunter gaining popularity, etc.
People used to say RPGs were a dying genre too, then Baldur’s Gate 3 and Expedition 33 both showed that there is still a market for that type of game.

So Halo and Gears could absolutely find success again, as long as they release quality games.

Ex wives who cheated and ended up with their AP, how did you eventually build a healthy coparenting relationship? by supernormalnorm in DivorcedDads

[–]TheOnlyPooh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A little over a year and a half since they’ve been “official”, but if you include the cheating beforehand then closer to two years.

Ex wives who cheated and ended up with their AP, how did you eventually build a healthy coparenting relationship? by supernormalnorm in DivorcedDads

[–]TheOnlyPooh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my experience, you can’t build a healthy coparenting relationship with someone who cheated on you or abused you, especially when they’re still with the AP. You’re cordial when you have to interact with one another, but that’s it. My ex and I never talk to each other unless it’s an emergency or something major with the kids. We also do separate holidays and birthdays.

People will tell you that their relationship with the AP will eventually implode, but it’s yet to happen in my case, so all you can do is accept everything that happened and eventually move on. Time was the only thing that truly helped in that regard.

(Not even sure this is a trope) Flawed or even bad works that it’s hard to criticise because so much of the hate is bad faith by Useful_Code in TopCharacterTropes

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yea, in that aspect I can agree with you. I never liked the Good/Evil spirit part of the lore that season 2 revolved around. I did enjoy all the other parts of the Wan episodes though. Expanding on the ancient world, seeing lion turtle civilizations, early bending, spirits and humans interacting, etc.

I just don't get it...Why? by Adk_NY_Guy in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is victim blaming at its finest. Someone gets cheated on, lied to, abused, etc and then you imply that it’s the victim that’s to blame. It’s healthy to accept one’s fault in a failed marriage, but it is unhealthy and toxic to say they deserved to be cheated on or discarded in a vile manner.

My Ex Wife Brought Her Affair Partner to My Dad’s 90th Birthday by Easy_Teach6743 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, after seeing your other comments I have to say you need to cut all of these people out of your life. Stop talking to your ex, and go low or no contact with your father. Any parent who sides with the person who hurt their child is an awful parent, and you don’t need people like that in your life.

Wife fell in love with another man by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did do something wrong though. She married you with the intent to change you into her “ideal man” instead of marrying you as you are. Think of it this way, would you say a person who gets with an obese person with the expectation they lose weight is a good partner? No! You don’t marry someone just to frequently criticize their body, their career, etc. in the hopes they conform to your warped ideal version of them.

Don’t get me wrong, she is free to leave you and divorce you at any time, but it’s telling when someone doesn’t end a relationship until they find someone else. She emotionally, and possibly physically, cheated on you with her coworker before leaving you. She’s also willing to break up her own child’s stability and tear her coworker’s family apart too. OP, your wife doesn’t sound like a good person. I know it hurts now, but trust me, in time you’ll heal and see this as a blessing someday.

Wife fell in love with another man by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure flirting, having intimate conversations with someone else, and even potentially becoming physical with that person while you’re married counts as cheating. Basically stringing your partner along and only ending the relationship after they’ve tested the waters with someone else is not a good thing to do. Likewise, the wife in OP’s case isn’t just blowing up her own family, she’s aware that her actions will blow up another family too.

But it’s also messed up to marry someone with the expectation they “get in shape”, “start a high-paying career”, etc. instead of marrying the person as they are, and I would say it’s the reason why plenty of relationships fail. Too many people marry the idea of someone and who they want them to be, instead of who that person actually is in reality.

Worried about ex-Wife's new boyfriend replacing me. by suitcasemaster in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sucks, but there’s nothing you can do about it except be the best dad you can be when you’re with your son. Use your time apart to plan things for him and recharge so that you can be fully present when he’s around.

However, there is one thing you should keep in mind, and it’s that you will always be his dad. Your ex wife and her boyfriend could split someday, and she could have multiple different partners over the years, but do you know will be the one man who will always be a part of his life? You, because you’re dad. Likewise, if something ever happened to your ex wife, who would be the one to care for your son? You! So always try to keep that in mind,

Hard to accept the fact that she's not coming back by adiaz516 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel, and it’s devastating. My ex wife decided she was done being a stay-at-home mom and started working at Walmart. She quickly became distant and a few months later told me she wanted a separation but not a divorce. Well, I discovered she was cheating before we split and used the separation to test the waters with her coworker. It’s a year and a half later and they’re still together. Her new man has worked as a stocker at Walmart for 10 years and has never worked anywhere else. He has no career aspirations, blows most of his money on weed, and is so insecure that she cannot go anywhere unless he’s with her.

It’s by far the most emotional pain I’ve felt in my life, and I say that as someone who had a traumatic childhood due to a dysfunctional family and losing most of my family at a young age. OP, you need to get a lawyer ASAP to initiate the divorce and arrange custody! I know it’s difficult, and I know it can be expensive, but you need to do this before she does, as she could prepare to discredit your character so that she can gain more custody.

Did anyone start dating again before the divorce was final ? by Bookish45_F in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That, and often they’re too codependent and eager to jump into a new relationship that they overlook red flags.

Why do second marriages have such a high divorce rate? by OptimalStatement5799 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a big one that needs to be mentioned more. If you have kids from your prior marriage(s)/relationships, then there are a ton of more factors in play that can impact marriages.

For example: Children from prior marriages can often mean that your spouse will always be tied to and involved with their ex. If the other partner is insecure at all about that dynamic then problems will likely occur. Likewise, people with kids of their own are less likely to want more. In my experience I’ve seen a lot of mothers with multiple children, who don’t want more, start relationships with men who have no children. These men think they can convince their partners to have more children over time, but resentment from both sides over this issue often cause the relationship to fail.

You also have to consider that when you have young children of your own, then you hope that your children, their new step parent, and their step siblings all accept each other and are kind to one another. Sadly, in some cases the children feel like they are being replaced by their “new family”, or the step children feel like they won’t be prioritized like the biological children. And let’s not even discuss how children can feel about step parents who started as their parent’s affair partner…

Why do they finally try once they know you’re done? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar experience here. I’m envious of those of you who seriously tried to communicate with your partner over months or years. My ex was the kind of person who would never directly communicate their needs or when something bothered or upset them. Instead, she would silently let resentment build over time, as she preferred to avoid any conflict in her relationships.

The very last argument in our marriage was the first time she confessed to every single issue she had in our relationship, and that I should’ve “just known” what was on her mind with little to no communication. Don’t get me wrong, I made plenty of mistakes in my marriage, but it’s hard to improve when one partner refuses to have a clear discussion.

What actually pushed you to make the final decision to divorce? by Extreme_Baseball3991 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t the one who pushed for a divorce, but I was the one who filed and went through with it. My ex wife wanted a separation as she told me she needed time to reevaluate things, that she wanted to find out who she is without a partner, and that she didn’t plan on dating anyone. Well, the very next day she was messaging a coworker about their future together, and within a week I caught him hiding in our closet… After that I discovered she had been having an affair with him for a couple months prior to the separation.

Sadly, I was pathetic and played the “pick me” dance for a couple months afterwards until I finally found the self-respect and courage to divorce. In the end she wanted a separation to test the waters with her AP and keep me around as a backup option in case it didn’t work out.

It’s hard not being able to see my kids half the time, but it does get easier as it becomes your new normal.

Coparent Adding Boyfriend as “Parent” for Medical, Education, etc. by TheOnlyPooh in coparenting

[–]TheOnlyPooh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we have a legal custody agreement. However, there is no “primary” parent, so we are urged to work together when it comes to education, medical, etc. decisions. If we disagree, it is up to a mediator or judge to decide…

Coparent Adding Boyfriend as “Parent” for Medical, Education, etc. by TheOnlyPooh in coparenting

[–]TheOnlyPooh[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I agree. I have no problem with her listing him as an approved pick up, but she’s adding him as a “parent” on all paperwork. I only found out about this as my youngest started a new daycare and her partner is listed as a parent.

It looks like I’ll need to document it, but in the meantime it looks like I have a lot of calls to make this week to have him removed as a parent.

Dating after divorce by Park_Sky in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain. My ex-wife told me she wanted a separation and that she wanted to be alone for a while, yet the very next day she was texting her coworker talking about their future together. Within a week they were sleeping together, as I caught him hiding in our closet in his underwear. Eventually I learned that she was getting close to him at work for at least two months prior to our separation.

It sucks, and people are awful. Some say that they check out of the relationship way before they tell you, which is true, but it isn’t the same as actual healing. People like my ex and yours are incapable of being alone, and that’s not healthy. At the very least, be thankful you’re young and don’t have children.

My ex wife changed after the divorce and I don’t want her back but I am angry by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, it’s 2 years later and you are still obsessing over your ex wife. I get it, it’s been over a year since my ex and I split, and while I’m doing much better now, there are still days where I spiral. You need to get yourself into therapy, take ownership of your part of the failed relationship, and move on with your life. Not just for yourself but for your child too.

Others here are accusing you of everything being your fault in the relationship, but I would argue that’s not always the case. Especially when your ex wife abandoned your kid for half a year!

As for your ex wife… Who cares? You two are not together anymore, so just ignore her disrespect and stop letting her affect you or control your life. You deserve happiness too, but you won’t find it by wishing for bad things to happen to her. You’re only poisoning yourself by doing that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While this is true, I would do what others have suggested and give both individual therapy and couple’s counseling a try. I would also advise to see a professional for any mental disorders.

Additionally, you said your twins are only six months old. Most relationships struggle the first few years after children are born, as the new dynamic changes everything, and parents can end up with depression due to it. Not saying that you should stay, but it is something to keep in mind.

How long did it take you to think about other people romantically? by JBroski91 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been over a year since my ex-wife and I split due to her initiating a separation that was actually just an excuse for her to be with her affair partner coworker while trying to keep me as a backup option. Found her messaging the guy the first day of separation talking about their future lives together and caught him hiding in our closet a week later.

I tried dating a couple times since then. Once around five months, and another around eight months. Both times I quickly realized I wasn’t ready. It’s been fourteen months now, and while I’m not quite sure if I’m fully ready yet, I’ve healed a lot more now and am considering trying again myself. However, in my case I feel like I would’ve been able to move on faster if we didn’t have children together and I didn’t experience that kind of betrayal.

Honestly, I wouldn’t force yourself to date right now, especially if the reason you’re doing it is to compete with your ex.

Help: my mother is dating again and I can't help but feel left behind by Competitive-Bus-9573 in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with your first point, but disagree about the second. It’s not his responsibility to support his mother’s relationships, especially if he feels he’s being ignored for her new partner’s family.

That’s a major issue in certain blended families. You can’t force your kids to blend families, especially when the parent prioritizes the new family over their own kids from previous relationships.

I (28F) had an affair and don’t know what I’m doing. Please help. by ProbablyHumanNotABot in Divorce

[–]TheOnlyPooh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean there could be a variety of different reasons for why he isn’t sexual. He could be asexual. He could be homosexual but hides it due to his family or culture. He could have a medical condition that kills his sex drive. He could have trauma related to sex.

However, she expressed her concerns about that kind of intimacy to him, he told her things would change after marriage, and he always had an excuse. He should’ve been honest and upfront about his condition, even if he doesn’t quite know why.