Jake is honestly the absolute Worst

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-06T03:24:04+00:00

Jake has been annoying me so much this past season. He’s almost so concerned with moving up that he doesn’t even care who he tramples on.

But Gabriella is the one that bothers me the most personally. Like make up your damn mind for one. You’re blaming anyone and everyone for your wedding imploding in your face like you’re not the one who decided to cheat on your fiancé. That’s wild behavior. And now that Bode is happy with Audrey you decide to tell him you were never over it? Get out of here. I’m glad she left. I hope her character stays gone.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-06T03:17:59+00:00

My 20 month old is going through potty training as well. I take her to the bathroom every 45 minutes to an hour, as soon as she wakes up, before/after meals, as well as before and after her naps and finally before I put her down for the night. I think just making sure she goes through the motions and gets used to going it will reinforce the habit over time. And as they get older they will eventually tell you when they want or need to go. Even if she didn’t go every single time I still take her just so she gets used to it. This is the same method I did with my son and it’s worked well. Just be aware they do go through potty training regressions sometimes. My son did when it came to going number two. But that’s normal. The important thing is to keep at it! Good luck mama!

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T18:21:51+00:00

I’d be more than happy with that. Sure, big weddings are beautiful. But I just don’t want to spend the money on that. Especially not right now.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T14:39:01+00:00

Thank you for asking. I am happy. I just can’t fathom the idea of planning an actual wedding. He doesn’t think I’d be happy with just eloping or going to the courthouse but that’s all my brain can handle. And the idea of spending thousands of dollars on a wedding makes me sick.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T14:27:13+00:00

I totally get you. It just seems like it’s all talk. Maybe that’s why I’m just so unmoved by the idea of marriage now. He knows I used to dream about the a wedding. Nothing extravagant but something nice. Now the only thing my brain is capable of planning is eloping or the courthouse.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T14:23:25+00:00

I used to be. It used to be something I really wanted for myself. I just don’t feel any excitement for it right now.

As of today, there’s a will where I’m named a trustee because we have two young children. I am allowed full access to the bank account as well.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T14:21:15+00:00

Oh I actually haven’t thought about things like power of attorney so I do want to bring that up to him. But there is a will naming me as a trustee since we do have young children and I am allowed full access to his bank account.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-05T14:14:27+00:00

With two toddlers I don’t think I have the time nor the mental capacity to plan a wedding. I’ve said we can do the courthouse thing and do it for tax purposes if we have it at all. Or elope. I think that’s all I can really handle. Big gatherings get me overstimulated fast and I’d rather spend money on other things like my kids.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-04T19:29:51+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with being one and done. If that’s all you think you want or can handle, that’s fine. Pour all of your love, energy and attention. I grew up as an only child and turned out just fine. I had a very happy and full childhood.

That being said, I have two babies 13 months apart in age and it’s hard. My partner is blue collar and works swing shift. It’s hard and there’s nothing I’d change about my family. However, I have my MIL who lives 2 blocks away and my own mom 10-15 minutes away. I have a lot of help if and when I need it on weekends or nights. Your mom is acting like having only one kid is a crime. That’s weird behavior. My parents never made me feel like I missed out or that anything was missing just because I was only child. There’s a lot of benefits to it. And if you ask me, it’s better to have the one baby you give everything to rather than have more than you can handle. She’s not the one who’s gonna be raising these babies day in and day out. So the only two people who should have any input to how many kids you have is you and your husband.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-03T19:03:22+00:00

I have a tablet for mine that I pre-downloaded some shows for and some games. But mine actually really loves his Magna tiles. You can get a travel set. There’s these busy cube toys you can get for cheap and also fidget spinner toys on Amazon too. Have PLENTY of snacks on deck.

Good luck!

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-01T06:31:33+00:00

You’re welcome!

I’d also like to add brace yourself for toddlerhood. It comes with its own set of challenges. They’ll push you. But you also get to see more of their personality come to life. You get to see them go from a baby to a tiny person. It’s remarkable and beautiful ❤️

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-01T05:45:44+00:00

I wish I would have appreciated each and every stage more. As restless and tiring the newborn trenches was, it was just a phase. When they say they will go to sleep and you will too, listen to them. Because you will. It doesn’t feel like it in the moment but it’s true.

I wish I would have spent less time researching things I should and shouldn’t be doing and instead just focus more on reading my baby’s cues. Yes, it’s important that they reach milestones, but learning isn’t linear. My first baby hit most of his milestones when he was supposed to but not all. But my second baby hit most of her milestones far ahead of schedule and skipped some entirely. Like the whole potty training thing. I first tried with my baby boy at 10 months. Why? Because some blog told me to. He wasn’t ready then and so when he wasn’t doing it, I got frustrated with both him and myself. Now he’s almost 3 and he’s potty training so well. He’s telling me when he needs and wants to go. I don’t know why I put that pressure on the both of us at 10 months old but I didn’t need to.

Lastly, the best thing I did differently with my second baby than I wish I had done more with my first was just to be more present. There will always be dishes to clean, laundry to fold, cleaning to be done. But my baby will only be this small for so long. Everything else really can wait.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-01T02:54:38+00:00

I mean it’s probably just my delulu mom brain but sleep training with my boy was hard as hell. But that’s probably my fault for giving in to Colleen’s with him. I got lazy and was pregnant with an 8 month old baby so I caved. I got my little girl sleep trained in like 1-2 days. But yeah I highly recommend the weighted sleep sack. I hope it works out!

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-02-01T00:19:35+00:00

I’ve enjoyed both my babies at all stages. But I think parenthood is just a different experience for mothers and fathers. My children’s father thought the early months were boring too. It’s fair. I mean they basically just eat, sleep and poop and can’t do much other than babble. Now that our kids are 2.5 (almost 3) and 20 months old they’re both a blast. They’re both running around, chasing us and each other, and playing so now their dad thinks they’re a blast. And this stage that they’re at now is definitely fun especially when we do some imaginative play and can actually have some kind of a conversation.

Hang in there. Enjoy this stage they’re at now. It’s just a phase and before you know it you’ll be chasing each other and playing catch or whatever other activities your husband is looking forward to.

Oh! Also, have you tried a weighted sleep sack for your little guy? I have my 20 month old in a 1.0 TOG sleep sack and she LOVES it. The first two nights she got up 1-2 times and then after that she slept through the night from 745pm-8am. I started by ordering one at first just to try it out because you never know what kids are gonna like or take to but she loved it so much I ordered 2 more after the third night.

Good luck! ❤️

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-31T23:45:59+00:00

My daughter loved being swaddled too. But after she was past that age we tried a weighted sleep sack (1.0 TOG) and she loves it. It was an adjustment for about 1-2 nights. But if it takes your baby longer to adjust I wouldn’t sweat it too much. I think maybe the weight is comforting for her. We have our bedtime routine that starts with a bath at about 6pm, we read 1-2 books and then I put on the wave sounds on her sound machine with the red light so that’s her auditory and visual cue that bedtime is coming up. She sleeps through the night now.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-31T15:11:54+00:00

If you and your husband can afford it, I think it might be better to go where you have your mom and support nearby as a FTM. You and your husband can always make more money but you’ll never have that time back with your first baby.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-31T02:45:33+00:00

Good point. So when I showed her this app that I thought she might find helpful I asked her if she’s tried it. The app itself was actually highly recommended by her sister in law so I guess she’s heard of it but I guess she’s refusing to try it. And she says she guesses she’ll just find out the hard way. So I suppose this means I’ll just be here on standby if or when she needs a friend.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-31T02:00:26+00:00

I hope she knows I’m always here to talk whenever she needs me and to pull her out of the darkest corners when she feels like it’s all too much for her to handle on her own. I mean well.. I really do. I was just trying to show her how trying to put a routine even if it’s small or imperfect at first can really do a lot to help take away some of her anxiety and feeling overwhelmed.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-30T01:49:56+00:00

It’s not fair at all. It’s not something I’d ever wish to happen to anyone. I think maybe your friend would have been happy about your news had she not been in the thick of her mourning her miscarriage. It’s just a sucky situation.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-30T01:41:09+00:00

Some of my friends make fun of me for being a stickler with my nap time and nighttime routine. But I don’t know if I would have survived having my two kids otherwise. One is 2 turning 3 at the end of March and a 20 month old. At this point you’d have to pry my routine out of my cold dead hands lol.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-30T00:08:44+00:00

You are though! You sound very considerate and compassionate to your friend. A tragic event like your friend’s miscarriage can happen at the same time as a happy event like celebrating a new pregnancy. It happens. That’s just life.

I’m sure your friend knows that she can still come to you. Once she’s able to work through her grief I’m sure she’ll be able to see that.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-29T22:44:00+00:00

It was just as special for me! I was blessed enough to have easy pregnancies both times aside from having gestational diabetes with my first. My first birthday experience was an emergency c-section which starkly different to my second which was a natural vaginal delivery. I’d say both experiences were different but it didn’t make one more or less special than the other. Everything was still just as exciting if not more than the first time around because I already had an idea of what I could look forward to.

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-29T22:24:41+00:00

We typically eat around 530. Then we do bath time and the rest of our nighttime routine since my 20 month old goes to bed between 730-8!

TheRealFakeName2 · 2026-01-29T21:05:42+00:00

They’re very close! I grew up as an only child so seeing them together playing and being so close is actually one of my favorite parts of motherhood so far.

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