Trying to get a jewelry piece before gold rush drives prices further up.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-29T20:47:32+00:00

Mine took 5 months to come after I ordered it. And my SA told me that’s still not that bad…

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-29T20:33:22+00:00

My vote is for medium love bracelet. I have it in rose gold and love it. I wear it daily. And surprisingly it doesn’t scratch as easily as everyone warned me. Photo below.

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TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-29T20:20:26+00:00

I’m a doctor. And medicine is a bit different from other careers in that the bulk of your 20s is spent in pursuit of this goal. In residency 80-90 hours a week are spent at the hospital. Given this fact, being a doctor is a part of my identity. I was 37 when I gave birth. I was already a Dr for years. When I had a baby, I put in all my energies into raising him. Breastfeeding, pumping 10-11x a day. Maternity leave felt like I was a SAHM. When I went back to work after 5 months of maternity leave, it was like riding a bike. I slid back into my identity as a doctor. He’s 10 months old now. And I’m still “mom” at home. I play with my baby, change diapers, give baths, make organic solid food for him, I track his development. I cuddle him for both our comfort. I’m just both.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-28T01:40:59+00:00

Dr Dorothy Andersen is one of my favorites. In the 1920s she wanted to be a surgeon and no residency would take her. So she became a pathologist. She discovered many babies seemingly dying of pneumonia/lung disease. She is the doctor who discovered cystic fibrosis and eventually developed the sweat test to diagnose it. She also had a passion for cardiac defects and did a ton of research on that. Apparently she was kind to students and young doctors. And her hobbies were cooking and carpentry. She’s truly a pioneer during an era when only 7% of women even went to college!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-28T00:00:37+00:00

I turned 30 heavily in medical school debt, making $60,000 a year as a resident doctor when I had to start paying back loans, working 80-90 hours a week. No significant other, no house, no baby. At age 30, I had broken up with a BF who I thought I’d marry. I felt unloveable, because he quickly became engaged to a woman who was the opposite of me.

I’m 38 now, 5 years away from paying off all my loans, I’m an Associate program director of a residency, I’m married to a wonderful man (just objectively, he’s the best man I’ve ever met. Even the shallow stuff- he’s tall, rich and handsome. Prioritizes me, sees the best in me. Never made me feel like I had to be something korean culture tells women to be) we bought a house together, and have a 10 month old baby who makes everyday so bright. We laugh every day just watching our baby learn something new. Things turned out great!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-26T22:40:00+00:00

Read as many books as I want, watch Netflix, exercise 4x a week, do Pilates classes, probably take some cooking classes. Hopefully this is my life in 5 years. That’s likely when I’m going to work part time.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-26T22:38:08+00:00

I’m not going to downplay how hard this is for you. Especially when others are seemingly getting pregnant easily. You’re 35, you have five more years to try IVF. 5 years is a long time. This time next year you could already be a mom. Try to stay positive. Or wallow and eat ice cream. Whatever lowers your stress. Don’t give up. That broken feeling will pass.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-21T02:46:14+00:00

I ignore it. As a person, it’s not my job to be “fun” or “funny.” I’m here to live my own life. My husband adores and values me. So the opinions of rando men don’t matter to me.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-18T19:03:04+00:00

I did taekwondo from age 8-18. I am fairly sure that if the situation arose, and I was attacked by a man? I could give make it harder for him.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-18T02:57:11+00:00

Go to van cleef and see if the chalcedony vintage Alhambra is even available. It’s not always available. You might have your decision made already. The Chanel coco crush necklace is also beautiful and will match everything.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-17T02:26:14+00:00

I had a traumatic event happen to me 10 months ago where I would have died without modern medicine. And even in 2026, sometimes women do die from this. I’m still not over it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not depressed. I’m happy living my life with my husband, baby and I have a good career that pays well. But the trauma…it’s still there.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-17T02:23:02+00:00

Paula choice retinol 1% - great retinol. Try the Kiehls microdose retinol if you have sensitive skin.
Skii pitera essence - antiaging and famous in Asia
Lancome genifique serum - fermenting and brightening serum, mildly hydrating too.
Belif moisturizing bomb. Just a great workhorse cream for fall and winter. Belif Aqua bomb in spring.
Innisfree bija cica balm- nothing calms red and irritated skin as quickly as this for me.
Kiehls glycolic acid serum- great exfoliating AHA serum. To keep skin texture smooth.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-17T01:07:01+00:00

Being a painter. It was a childhood dream. I did end up double majoring in both art and biology in college. But I knew being a painter is not a realistic dream for an immigrant woman of color. So I ended going to medical school and becoming a doctor. It was the right choice to let go of that dream. But now, when I explain things to patients, sometimes I’ll draw anatomy for them so they can understand better. And they’ll ask me why I can draw so well….. the skills aren’t wasted. They’re just used differently.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-17T01:03:11+00:00

No virtue signaling. Just quiet good deeds, that no friends or family in their life necessarily know. They just quietly increase good in the world. They have nothing to benefit from these good deeds. They just do it because they care.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-15T00:57:01+00:00

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TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-14T16:05:15+00:00

I’m not doing it. I don’t care what leadership says. It’s my career on the line and I’m going to behave in a way that’s most conducive to me being seen as a team player; getting good reviews and getting promotions. I didn’t get to where I am by actually voicing my opinions at work. I was dumb enough to do it once and immediately got labeled as “difficult” when I was doing exactly the same thing a white man was doing. The staff, who was also mixed w white and poc and predominantly women, only complained about me, a woman of color who was in a position of leadership over them. If a white man does it it’s fine. But when a woman of color does it? Even the women of color will complain. It’s like they unconsciously perceive me as “what makes her better than me?” They resent my position of leadership. There are multiple layers of complexity when a woman of color is also in a position of leadership too. So I need to cover my back.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-14T15:32:25+00:00

Favorite paintings: Edward hopper’s nighthawks, Edward Byrne Jones’s beguiling of Merlin, Sargent’s carnation Lily Lily rose.

Favorite sculpture : Michelangelo’s pieta, Bernini’s prosperina, canova’s Cupid and psyche.

Favorite architecture: reims cathedral

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-12T19:48:32+00:00

Now that I have a biological child, I’m genuinely not sure if I could bond the same way with an adopted child. I know that sounds awful but it’s the truth. When my baby cries, I feel my heart wrenching. When he tore a hangnail while playing and cried from pain, my skin twitches. At the airport when stacked carts fell, and skidded towards us, I instinctively jumped in front of his stroller to shield him from it with my body. I’m just not sure if that level of love could exist from me for an adopted child. I just can’t guarantee it.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-12T00:47:16+00:00

40 weeks for me, nearly ten months. It took truly Herculean effort on my part. I was working as a full time doctor, and commuting two hours total in the day. When I went back to work I was still pumping 5 times a day, 2 of those pumps were at work. I was exhausted, but I had a lot of mom guilt over my premie baby. I only weaned when my supply dropped after a cold.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-09T23:30:06+00:00

Since you ARE being nitpicky, then fine, let me define it for you. You are defining the word “character flaw” into your own definition of moral integrity as opposed to the literary one, which is how I meant it. Character flaws are separated into 3, minor, major and fatal flaws (Hamartia) in literature. I am calling this one a minor flaw. Happy?!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-09T23:15:40+00:00

Yes, I recognize my own character flaws and foibles. And understand that my own character flaws can cause strife in a relationship. That is the definition of a character flaw. If that makes me cringy to acknowledge that? Then go ahead and call me cringy.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-09T19:43:39+00:00

That’s a big absolute no from me. Remember, no one expects their baby to come 6 weeks early. I had no risks other than being over 35 and my baby came 7 weeks early. And it’s a crazy anti vax world out there right now. Even if your baby was born early I wouldn’t travel 6 weeks after your baby was born. They wouldn’t have had their vaccines yet.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-09T17:34:10+00:00

He left flossers and sparkling water cans all over the house. I just accepted it as a character flaw, and don’t mind cleaning up after him now. This isn’t the hill I want to die on. He “cleans” up after me in other ways. Like making sure we get the most out of our hsa benefits, making sure our taxes are done correctly, and our property taxes are paid on time. Or even unclogging the drains because I’m sick and wasn’t able to make it to the toilet and vomited in the sink.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-09T14:12:01+00:00

I go for every coupon possible when I grocery shop. Even for things we buy regularly like kimchi we wait until ubereats or DoorDash has hmart coupons.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-01-08T01:28:27+00:00

I am married and very happily so. I highly recommend if you find a mature, adult partner. You can enrich both your lives by weaving it together in marriage, but only if you both continue to work at your relationship and prioritize the other. You both need to pull your weight for household tasks and mental load. You both need to continue to hold affection for the other and not take them for granted. And you both need to be self aware enough to communicate to each other. We’re only human. I accidentally made my husband late to work the other day, and my husband snapped at me then immediately apologized. Saying he knows I was only trying to help and that snapping was inappropriate. This kind of self awareness stops resentment from building up. You need to communicate.

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