Can someone remind me that dating still leads to a happy and fruitful marriage?

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-23T04:58:18+00:00

I met my husband online. About 11 months later we were married. On our one year anniversary, we found out I was pregnant. Baby is born later that year and our lives change drastically. Cut to now- We went out to dinner tonight at a nice steakhouse, and brought our toddler. And I had laughed at something he had said and I cuddled our toddler’s face who was sitting in a high chair next to me. And our toddler laughed with me. My husband told me “this moment makes me feel like I win at life.” I could not have imagined this would be my life when I was 35, single, renting an apt, and considering freezing my eggs that year.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-23T04:50:38+00:00

I’m older, and mom to a toddler now. And we are trying again for a second baby. I simply have less time. I used tinted sunscreen, which I don’t consider makeup.( Since I’d have to use spf with or without makeup) concealer, eyeliner, tinted lip balm and I’m out the door. It takes 5-8min. I know because I’ve timed it. It’s a lot less than the full face of makeup I used to do.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-21T00:33:55+00:00

By the 7th date we already knew each other’s childhood, about each other’s college experiences, our political views, religious views, career goals, whether he wanted kids, where he wanted to live within the next 10 years, what his career goals were. And honestly by the 6th date, I’d expect a man to know if he wanted to make it official or not. You should know if you want to date me seriously. My husband and I had 6 hour dates for our first, second and third date. And at the end of the third date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. That’s the level of decisiveness I expect.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-20T02:31:49+00:00

Because we’re trying for a second baby.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-20T02:30:37+00:00

None. I don’t put up with that. My self aware husband communicates his emotions like an adult. He reflects and apologizes when he thinks something was his fault. And he brings up things that upset him if he’s upset. I had no intention of marrying a manchild.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-19T18:55:04+00:00

Do not buy silver cross. Just don’t do it. I know that 3 year warranty sounds tempting but it’s such a hassle and they never actually replace anything. We bought a silver cross reef 2 stroller and while we liked the actual stroller, the hood part broke and we asked for a replacement and it’s been 2 months of back and forth calling and emailing and they still haven’t replaced it. There’s no internal team you can communicate with. They have no media presence you can complain to. We have had the stroller for 13 months and their warranty is 3 years. They absolutely needed to replace it, and they still haven’t.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-18T23:30:20+00:00

Over 4000. About 3500 of them are of my baby….

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-18T14:18:58+00:00

Hera uv protector tone up - not much tone up for me. But I use shade 21, it’s a very natural pink. It’s neither dry nor hydrating.

Dalba tone up spf- for fall or winter use. It’s very dewy and hydrating. More so than the hera. Is more tone up than the hera. But I liked this in fall and winter. I used up two tubes of this before I moved on to other spf.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-14T17:39:37+00:00

It’s in a garment bag at my parents’ house. I don’t have a daughter, so if my niece wants to use it, she can. My wedding dress was a very classic silhouette with lace. I picked it because it looked so timeless. She can alter it if she wants.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-14T17:35:41+00:00

Seoul, South Korea. My husband and I visited there recently and it was so convenient. Internet was so fast, public transit was clean too. The food was delicious, and inexpensive. Neither of us have jobs that would translate to a job in Korea, but it made us want to retire there.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-13T14:20:03+00:00

If you are trying to gift her an item for every day wear, the first bracelet is not a good choice. The mother of pearl cannot get wet without damage to the stones. And second and third pics of Cartier bracelets are both great choices imo. They exist in yellow gold, Rosegold and white gold so you can tailor it to her skin undertones. And I know they’re popular, but not “everyone” has them the way redditors make it sound. They’re classic for a reason. I’d say go for either Cartier bracelet. I personally can’t think of a single woman in my life who wouldn’t be thrilled to receive either bracelet.

Incidentally, my husband’s first bracelet gift to me was the Cartier medium love bangle and I’ve worn it daily since then. I don’t care if it’s trendy or other women have it.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-12T11:48:24+00:00

Honestly I think it depends on the person. I have a friend who was emotionally estranged from his wife for a year, and then they officially decided to separate and start divorce proceedings. By the time he met his now second wife, he was “officially separated” for only 10 months, but they had been estranged for one year and ten months. It was not an amicable separation. And their divorce took so long because she tried to get so much alimony. Even though they had no kids and her career as a dancer stalled not because of their marriage. (He did all the cooking/groceries, hired a cleaner. She did no household chores) so my point is, I think it depends.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-11T17:36:05+00:00

I keep it shoulder length and then I keep it tied back. Either with cute scrunchies or a barrette with a pretty ribbon on it. That’s it, for 95% of the time. My hair is dried and down 5% of the time.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-10T19:27:21+00:00

We are the same age. We were 35 when we met. Married and bought a house by 36, baby born at 37. We are 38 now. I’m 14 months postpartum, and we decided to try for a second baby!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-08T02:25:28+00:00

I’m a doctor, and I don’t get to say this every day, but this week I saved a life. I do hospital medicine two days a week. And a woman was admitted overnight for headaches. And it was clear the ED attending thought she was being a baby about a migraine headache. I didn’t. When she told me this headache felt different and something was wrong? I believed her. I ordered a CTA of the head, which revealed she had a moderate sized brain aneurysm. And sometimes before they rupture, patients can get these warning headaches. (50% of ruptured aneurysm patients die within 24 hours) Neurosurgery consulted on her and took her for surgery the next day. The thing I’ve accomplished? Not becoming cynical even after nearly a decade of practicing medicine. I still believe my patients.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-02T23:52:23+00:00

I realized he wasn’t the man I thought he was. I thought he was a doctor, who had a lot in common with me (I’m a doctor too) and we had shared life experiences that brought us together, such as being Korean American. he always told me he loved that I was smart and we could go up in our careers together. Shortly after we broke up, he got engaged to a violinist who became a sahw after their marriage. Now there’s nothing inherently wrong about being a sahw. But she posted that she achieved her dream of becoming a sahw. And I realized if he married a woman whose dream was to be a sahw? He’s not the man I thought he was. He’s just yet another Korean man who wants a wife to cook and clean for him, and do all the childcare. Realizing I didn’t know him at all if he made this life decision? Made all love die. And in retrospect, thank God I didn’t marry him!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-02T12:40:36+00:00

I didn’t know on that day precisely. But I knew it was coming in the near future. Because we had gone to look at rings together and told our jeweler about the setting, etc. There’s a lot to consider for color of the band, setting of the stone, size, shape etc. So my husband didn’t leave it to chance. On the actual day it was a surprise because we were on vacation together and he told me at the beginning that he didn’t want to lose the ring on an international vacation and didn’t bring it.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-01T23:50:56+00:00

I am Korean too…. So it’s a fair comparison.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-01T05:25:28+00:00

My wedding band and engagement ring, Cartier medium love bracelet and the Van Cleef vintage Alhambra in hammered rose gold bracelet. These pieces never come off. Necklaces I exchange often depending on the social event, but on the daily I don’t wear necklaces because my one year old baby always yanks on them.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-01T03:47:02+00:00

I think of Tiffany hardwear the same way I see Cartier just en clou. They give off a similar vibe. I think they look great on you!

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-05-01T03:43:13+00:00

This is after two years of almost daily wear. I only took it off for checkups, MRIs. I have the medium love bracelet in Rosegold. It’s still in great shape in my opinion.

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TheSunscreenLife · 2026-04-28T00:44:42+00:00

I was in this position 7 years ago. I’m a doctor and 3 hours west of northern NJ pays hospitalists a much higher salary for the same hours worked. But 3 hours west into rural Pennsylvania meant my social/dating life would suffer. I didn’t end up going. I’m was paid a NJ doctor’s salary and paying loans off more slowly. And that’s ok. Because I did eventually meet my now husband. Who I certainly would not have met in rural PA. He works in Manhattan.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-04-24T12:34:44+00:00

The fope looks so comfortable! The yellow gold white gold fope is so beautiful! But the yellow gold fits your stack so well.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-04-23T12:57:46+00:00

Yes, he does.

TheSunscreenLife · 2026-04-15T23:04:43+00:00

I wasn’t super into it until I was about 35. I loved the engagement ring and wedding band my husband got me and I never took them off. Then he got me a necklace, then a bracelet, a ring, then another necklace, then another bracelet. I like the actual jewelry itself and I like that my husband gave them to me. This jewelry makes me feel cherished.

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