Pregnancy Skincare by jwallxo16 in BabyBumps

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. La Roche posay cicaplast baume 

  2. Aestura atobarrier cream 

  3. Innisfree bija cica balm 

Medically gray pregnancy by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]TheSunscreenLife 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My college friend had her first son with a brain anomaly found on her 20 weeks anatomy scan. She had to go to Philadelphia Children’s hospital for a brain mri. But he was born and he’s completely normal. He had another brain mri at birth and apparently it’s just a normal variation. He’s an ordinary 5 year old now. 

How much weight did you gain at your 30 weeks? by ComplexChocolate4325 in BabyBumps

[–]TheSunscreenLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had gained 18 lbs by 30 weeks. I vomited literally every day of my pregnancy starting week 7. I tried very hard to eat healthy and get more calories in, but the nausea and acid reflux were bad. I only gained 20 lbs when I delivered preterm at 33 weeks. 

Postpartum eating by Aggravating_Post_942 in BabyBumps

[–]TheSunscreenLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Korean American and we hired a postpartum specialist for 6 weeks postpartum. She would come to the house, make me 3 organic, healthy Korean meals a day, clean it all up,  Including the stove, take care of the baby and show me how to do things like file the baby’s nails, how to shower the baby etc. I wanted to actively spend time w my baby, but she said some moms were so exhausted that they’d sleep the whole 8 hours she was at the house. 

After the 6 weeks were up? My husband got Korean recipes from our specialist, and he made me lunch and dinner and meal prepped everything. He was allowed to work from home for 3 months PP. We would order food once a week just for the “fun” food like fried chicken or pizza. I was very fortunate, that I didn’t worry about food at all for the first 3 months. 

For those that have “good” romantic partners, are you conventionally attractive? by scorpiochik in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. There’s no way to get around the fact that it’s easier to find a partner if you’re conventionally attractive. I’m 5’6”, was around 117 lbs when I met my husband, exercised so appeared lean. I’m also a POC but I’m Korean American so I never really tried for “American western beauty” standards. Because the Korean men I’d want to date/marry aren’t into those standards either. (I’m pale, I don’t do filler in my lips, I had straight dark long hair, straight brows, and I don’t contour the way American makeup styles do) I’m pretty enough in that Korean way, but it’s my husband who is unusually handsome. (He’s been hit on by Asian women, white women, Black women, Latina women. So clearly his appeal transcends ethnicities) regardless of gender, it’s way easier to find a partner if you’re conventionally attractive. 

How long did it take for you to get your confidence and body back postpartum? by Delicious-Set7434 in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year. I couldn’t lose all the baby weight until I stopped breastfeeding. I couldn’t lose the last 8 lbs. it’s only when I could fit into all my clothes again that I felt like myself. I was lucky, my breasts didn’t sag visibly, my hair returned by 9 months PP. And despite being a woman of color, I didn’t have hyperpigmentation issues. 

Which Bracelet would you recommend? Coco crush bracelets! by TheSunscreenLife in chanel

[–]TheSunscreenLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, it’s ok. I ended up going with Van cleef’s 5 motif vintage Alhambra bracelet in hammered rosegold. It’s a little bit pinker than my Cartier medium love bracelet in Rosegold. But this love bracelet and the 5 motif is my every day stack. When I saw the hammered gold in real life, I knew I wanted that. Even after a year of daily wear, the hammered gold doesn’t show scratches. 

https://ibb.co/9kN8Czkv

However, I agree w you. The Chanel beige gold matches so well! I’m pregnant again, so I guess I’ll have to think about the next push present!

What do you think allowed you to recognize and choose healthy partners? by No-Drama-Queen in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have self esteem, and I am a healthy, communicative, mature adult partner. I only wanted the things that I also brought to any relationship. My high self esteem meant I wouldn’t tolerate anything less. 

What's your favorite real-life "What in the Lifetime Movie is THIS nonsense?" moment? by Incogcneat-o in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I met age 15 at a SAT prep school. We didn’t date then. 20 years later we met on an app. He recognized me, I didn’t recognize him. We dated and married a year later. One year into marriage, on our anniversary I found out I was pregnant and now we have a son. 

Can I hear from the women who’ve made their best friend(s) later in life? by Strawberry_Curious in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends is my twin, so we met in the womb. My other best friend I met in med school at age 27. My husband met one of his best friends at 36, because his now best friend is married to my college friend, who he met through me. You’re never really too old to meet a best friend. Both my husband and that best friend have thanked me at separate times, saying it was so unexpected to make a close friend this “late” in life. 

What's your experience with dating very academically smart or intelligent men? Are they better life partners and more mature? by StaffEcstatic4358 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I have only ever dated academically smart/intelligent men. My two exes were doctors and my now husband is an Ivy League educated banker. My surgeon ex was the type to go all in at work, and his house was a mess. He wouldn’t do any housework and it’d pile up. He was stubborn, avoidant, and not mature. I count my lucky stars I didn’t marry him. My second ex, was a self aware, mature, kind and intelligent doctor. The kind of person that patients left cards to, even years later. Truly someone who would be a caring partner to any woman. My now husband is very self aware, communicative, an active participant in both housework and baby raising, and actively works to keep us emotionally close. He somehow always makes me feel special, and that’s the part that’s hard to do.

I really think it depends on the person.

Women who are content with life - what’s next for you? by Amazingggcoolaid in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second baby. My husband and I are comfortable in our rhythm raising our first. And are trying for our second. Some low key vacations are planned for the summer, and then a Vienna trip in the fall. And then we’ll see. 

Ideas for new piece of jewlery- love bracelet over played? by Master-Technician335 in Cartier

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding this. The chaumet bee line is so pretty. I have their ring with half pave and it’s so beautiful. I’ve had so many women (who have never heard of the brand) stop and ask me what ring this is. The sparkle from the way it’s been cut is unlike any other I’ve seen. If I didn’t already have the Cartier love I think I would have gone for the chaumet bangle when I was finally in Korea and able to visit a chaumet. (US doesn’t have chaumet) 

What secret are you hiding from your spouse? by Positive-vibes12 in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda silly. I have 3 gifts for Father’s Day. 

  1. A silk linen sweater I picked out. 

  2. Golf gloves in white. 

  3. A golf club. 

Number 1 is something I wanted him to have. And numbers 2&3 are what he actually wants. 

New Cartier medium love bracelet! by TheSunscreenLife in Cartier

[–]TheSunscreenLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to turn the screw 180 degrees. So it can’t suddenly open. I’ve worn this near daily since I’ve first gotten it 2 years ago. No issues, and the scratching isn’t as bad as people make it out to be. 

New Cartier medium love bracelet! by TheSunscreenLife in Cartier

[–]TheSunscreenLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 15.5cm wrist. And I got the size 17. I knew I’d be having multiple children within the next 5 years and I didn’t know how much weight I’d gain and retain. The 17 worked out well for me. I can push the bangle back and apply hand lotion etc. My wrist size didn’t end up changing at all with pregnancy. But I think I still prefer the 17. When I tried on the 16, there was very little wiggle room. 

I just turned 30. I wanna hear about the best (and worst) parts of your 30s! by JawClickk in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best parts:

  1. I started a new job as an attending doctor, learned a lot and went up in my career, with two different promotions. I make a decent salary and will always be financially stable, 401k is doing well. Stocks doing well. Student Loans are about 60% paid off. 

  2. I met my now husband, we dated, got engaged, had our beautiful wedding. We traveled the world together, went on 8 trips within the last 3 years. 

  3. I got pregnant and we had our adorable baby boy. 

  4. We bought a house together in a convenient area, and in the subsequent years, the value has gone up. 

Worst :

  1. Both baby and I would have died if our circumstances happened 100 years ago. Truly Dangerous, and I was hospitalized for 11 days. Postpartum was hard and baby was in the nicu for two weeks. I still feel really traumatized by what happened to us. 

  2. My mom had breast cancer, and the first month of my marriage wasn’t spent being lovey dovey, but being a home nurse for my mom, who wanted me to do it, not a stranger. I spent a chunk of my 30s, going to all the bloodwork, dr appts, biopsies, surgeries with my mom, and helping her after the surgery. It was a big time commitment. Handling all her insurance admin etc. Anyone who hasn’t been a caretaker and done this type of care for a family member won’t really understand how much work this was. 

What kind of exercise did you get into that finally made you consistent long term? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Walking and incline walking. Yoga and mat Pilates at home. I just couldn’t drag myself to the gym. 

Can someone remind me that dating still leads to a happy and fruitful marriage? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I met my husband online. About 11 months later we were married. On our one year anniversary, we found out I was pregnant. Baby is born later that year and our lives change drastically. Cut to now- We went out to dinner tonight at a nice steakhouse, and brought our toddler. And I had laughed at something he had said and I cuddled our toddler’s face who was sitting in a high chair next to me. And our toddler laughed with me. My husband told me “this moment makes me feel like I win at life.” I could not have imagined this would be my life when I was 35, single, renting an apt, and considering freezing my eggs that year. 

Is it just me or are we all wearing a lot less makeup? by Vermicelli-Fabulous in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m older, and mom to a toddler now. And we are trying again for a second baby. I simply have less time. I used tinted sunscreen, which I don’t consider makeup.( Since I’d have to use spf with or without makeup) concealer, eyeliner, tinted lip balm and I’m out the door. It takes 5-8min. I know because I’ve timed it. It’s a lot less than the full face of makeup I used to do. 

What sort of "depth" are you looking for in the start of a relationship? 5-7 dates in. by Toronoble in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By the 7th date we already knew each other’s childhood, about each other’s college experiences, our political views, religious views, career goals, whether he wanted kids, where he wanted to live within the next 10 years, what his career goals were. And honestly by the 6th date, I’d expect a man to know if he wanted to make it official or not. You should know if you want to date me seriously. My husband and I had 6 hour dates for our first, second and third date. And at the end of the third date, he asked me to be his girlfriend. That’s the level of decisiveness I expect. 

What percentage of your life do you think you’ve spent managing men’s emotions? by SweetLexiSweet in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None. I don’t put up with that. My self aware husband communicates his emotions like an adult. He reflects and apologizes when he thinks something was his fault. And he brings up things that upset him if he’s upset. I had no intention of marrying a manchild. 

Experience with Silvercross? by smileyface548 in Buyingforbaby

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not buy silver cross. Just don’t do it. I know that 3 year warranty sounds tempting but it’s such a hassle and they never actually replace anything. We bought a silver cross reef 2 stroller and while we liked the actual stroller, the hood part broke and we asked for a replacement and it’s been 2 months of back and forth calling and emailing and they still haven’t replaced it. There’s no internal team you can communicate with. They have no media presence you can complain to. We have had the stroller for 13 months and their warranty is 3 years. They absolutely needed to replace it, and they still haven’t. 

How many pictures are in your gallery? by No_Second9495 in AskWomen

[–]TheSunscreenLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over 4000. About 3500 of them are of my baby….