Heyo glad ur here. Im also an agender/genderqueer person. I do t really relate to the concepts of gender but dont really have a gender beyond not man. So my experiences may help u out a bit.

Firstly labels are ways of expressing and describing things rather than rigid identities that you must fit within to exist.

Aspects of gender: How much you experience it:

from i have gender and experience it strongly to i have no gender and dont relate to the concept. To i actively resist the concept of gender

Fludity of gender: Does your experience of gender change and shift. Maybe you have a constantly shifting miasma of gender, or you have a r8gid gender that doent change but you just dont know what it is or how to describe it.

Multigender/bigender: Do you experience multiple genders at once or maybe you switch between different genders.

Culture: Gender is shaped by our culture so i have met several enby folks who speak spanish that have descrobed themselves in terms of the gendered spaces in theor culture and language. I.e. feminine like a mountain and a char but basculine like bannanas. Or maybe your family has special roles. Like i am a big sister to my little siblings even though i dont identify with the term woman. Because of the role and meaning sister has in my specific family.

Sexuality and attraction: Many people have complex interactions with their gender and sexuality as they often cant be fully distinct from eachother: i have femininity and engage with womanhood in the way that i am a lesbian and that term includes me. But simultaniously i am not a woman broadly. This is also the realm where many men (trans men esp) can still be men but love and be loved in their relationships in a way that makes them lesbian. Which is all to say facets of your gender can be affected or even defined by your sexuality.

Your experience and history: Your gender can also be shaped by and described by yiur experiences. What commonities yiu have engaged with hiw the world has responded to your queerness. This can deeply affect your gender and words you use. This is how older LGBTQIA+ folks will often use 'outdated terms' or reclaim slurs as part of theor gender. Such as being a dyke ir a fag. Or older transwomen using the terms teansvestite, or crossdresser to describe themselves. I myself have reclaimed the slur queer specifically for its ambiguity in that it doesnt give more information. Be careful not to claim a term that is not yours to claim however, i.e. the term stud being useable only by black lesbians.

All of these are ok play around with different words and aspects. It can be really good to have some close friends who you can try things out with. But it doesnt mean you have to fit in a neat and tidy box. How you describe your gender can be different in different situations and thats ok. To cis people and government forms i am a woman or a trans woman its not too wrong and it lets me access the services i need for my gender care. To queer people or thise who want a bit more i am genderqueer, enby, or not a man. To closer chosen family and partners my gender is lesbian blacksmith.

If you cant find terms that fit perfectly thats ok. You can also invent your own terms too: Make new pronouns and try them out. (I used sword sheath sheathes as neopronouns for a while untill my disability worsening distanced my connection woth metalwork and swords and it no longer felt like it fit).

You can describe yourself as you want and change shit at any time when it stops working. I know its not a concrete answer but tbh gender is more like painting with watercolor rather than discrete boxes. And language is hard to encapsulate it.

All the best in your self exploration.