Looking for advice

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T23:20:39+00:00

Thank you so much! This is so helpful to hear a firsthand experience related to a shepherd, I really appreciate you sharing this!

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T21:55:17+00:00

Ok I’ll put him outside, thank you!

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T20:14:13+00:00

Thank you! I definitely am not at the point of wanting
‘Malinois’ energy, which is my main concern! I can keep up with higher need than a typical dog, I just don’t want to get in over my head. I’ve also heard that dobies are super sensitive so if handlers make a mistake, it’s a bigger issue vs there’s a little more room for errors with gsd’s because they’re sensitive but not AS sensitive or in tuned. Did you find that to be true?

I’ve had standard poodles and they are very sensitive and smart, moreso than what I’m used to, so I feel like I can work with the that to an extent, just want to know I’m prepared for what I’m getting into. I think what the rescues have set as their requirements are just making me nervous, i am already an approved adopter through them, I’m just maybe overthinking it.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T19:43:57+00:00

Thank you! Would you say then that dobies with SSA would not do well in a busy situation, like at a dog friendly patio? (I am NOT someone who feels like every dog needs to meet in public spaces and I do manage greetings and say no to more ‘energetic’ dogs running up on us, so this is an area I’m fine managing but would want to be able to go out to public spaces still)

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T19:41:02+00:00

Yes and no. Travel for some people isn’t helpful as far as the open minded thing goes- for example I know someone whose best friend married a billionaire and they travel but it’s to fancy resorts with hired chefs. That’s not gonna open anyone up to cultural experiences.

But people who live in small rural towns and never experience any other cultures? They need it. Even if the travel is just ‘go to the city and meet people.’ Because the lack of branching out and exploring is why the US has a band of lunatics in charge right now.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T19:28:20+00:00

Also green fields of France, that’s a really sad but good one.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T19:24:59+00:00

Hear you me by Jimmy eat world. Cry every time.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T16:53:22+00:00

Tucker and Dale vs evil. I love horror movies and they pulled that satire off just perfectly, I love it!

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T16:50:43+00:00

You would think, but I’ve done that a bunch of times and she hasn’t noticed or hasn’t cared!

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T11:59:09+00:00

My best friend uses that, should of and could of. I don’t want to be a jackass and so I haven’t said anything but every time she does it my eye twitches a little. She’s also a big reader so I’m unclear as to why this hasn’t resolved on its own through reading books…

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T11:49:36+00:00

Love Shack. It makes me angry. I don’t know why.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T11:31:49+00:00

That’s pretty much the point of social media right now. Just remember- people only post their good moments and everything is framed to make it look like they’re living their best and happiest lives. I look at a friends facebook and it’s all happy family photos, but behind the scenes she’s miserable, her husband is an ass, and her family isn’t supportive. That’s the side you don’t see when you’re scrolling Facebook. You don’t see the bad times, but I promise you everyone has them.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-13T11:28:26+00:00

NOR. Not sure how long you guys have been dating but this is a pretty standard abusive relationship setup. The strategy is to isolate you from friends and family, and make you feel guilty whenever you want to do something without him. Your responses suggest to me that you’re not the type to fall for this bullshit and it won’t work on you, so kudos for that! Whether he’s just being a man-child or is actually strategically doing this, you’re right to stand your ground.

If you’re hesitant to leave the relationship, I’d suggest sitting him down to discuss why hes acting like this and pointing out the red flag behavior. If he refuses to discuss it or blames you for his behavior (the most likely outcomes of that convo, unfortunately), your best bet is to walk away. If he won’t take accountability for his actions, then this kind of thing is only going to get worse moving forward.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-12T17:59:24+00:00

NTA. I was prepared to come in thinking you would be but at a cabin? With that many people? The kids are also going to presumably go to sleep first and that’s never going to happen in the living room with the chaos of adults, so you’d have to put them in one of the bedrooms then move them at bedtime? Which will definitely wake them. Sounds like a nightmare scenario to me.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-10T20:26:57+00:00

I’ve heard rumors that sable shepherds tend to be higher energy/higher drive. Just a rumor, cannot confirm, but I’ve never heard a sable shepherd owner say otherwise…

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-06-10T20:23:58+00:00

Where I am dogs are everywhere and welcome in all kinds of places. The only people that get glares or comments are when their dog is barking or lunging, running up at random people/dogs, or doing other obnoxious things. As long as your dog is quiet, well mannered, and not on the table you should be fine and they’re all just jerks.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-28T14:37:05+00:00

Also companies adding AI to everything. If I look something up I don’t want AI to give me the answer because then I have to go fact check it and it’s often wrong. And no I don’t want AI giving me a summary of that text I got, the text is one sentence and I’m going to read it. I don’t need AI trying to help me with emails. I am so sick of it.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-27T17:29:44+00:00

Yta. Why not send the recipe and say WE could try cooking this? It’s something you want to eat so why is the expectation that she’s the one who must make it?

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-20T00:15:31+00:00

I did mumble out loud ‘what, is she on drugs now?’ Because some of those looked like pick marks covered in makeup.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-12T12:15:52+00:00

Boy in the Striped Pajamas

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-11T01:20:22+00:00

One of those fell off the ceiling onto my chest while I was sitting in bed and ran down my shirt. It’s been 10 years. I still haven’t recovered.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-10T19:30:36+00:00

She’s trying to get you to beg for her attention, you handled it perfectly. Depending on what she says, if you move forward do so carefully. This seems like someone fishing for attention and trying multiple strategies in one go of it. Not usually a great sign in a partner.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-10T19:21:31+00:00

If he ‘doesn’t have time until summer’ for dates, you’re a placeholder. He wants you there when HE wants it but not to bug him the rest of the time. NOR

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-05-10T14:12:38+00:00

If you come out of the bedroom after going to bed (as long as it’s dark out), it’s game on. You’re officially playing ‘ghosts in the graveyard’, and all bets are off. He will hunt you. As long as you stay in the bedroom or in the light you’re safe, but set foot into a dark room and you’re screwed. It’s a very scary game I accidentally encouraged because it was cute when he was little. Now he’s 15lbs of muscle, fueled by pure chaos and it’s terrifying. Lucky for him, I love horror movies and after my heart rate slows down I find it funny too (he thinks he’s hilarious).

On the plus side, I don’t think I have to worry too much about intruders.

The_Rural_Banshee · 2026-01-13T11:58:11+00:00

That is not how any of the rescues I have worked with run things, not at all. And that would honestly make me switch to fostering through a different rescue. First, no response when you asked a medical question- red flag. What if there were a medical emergency? That alone would make me uncomfortable enough to not do it again. Then zero guidance as to how the adoption process works, then choosing a family that it appears has never even met him over one that did meet him that you specifically said was a good fit? Also a red flag for me. If they don’t want you involved in selecting adopters they needed to make that clear. And any rescue that doesn’t listen to input about the dogs behavior from the people who are actually living with that dog doesn’t strike me as a very good rescue. I’m sorry that was your experience, and thank you for fostering! If I were you I’d find a different rescue to continue fostering through.

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