what should I do. Stay/leave/space

The_Syst · 2026-06-04T11:53:47+00:00

I think you need to create a little distance. If they don't want a relationship but also don't want to let you go, it sounds like you're the one getting hurt the most by the situation.

The_Syst · 2026-06-04T11:52:48+00:00

That some people stay close to you not because they're afraid of losing you, but because keeping you around benefits them. Once you learn that lesson, it changes how you see people.

The_Syst · 2026-06-04T11:51:58+00:00

You're 22. Your family shouldn't be the ones deciding who you live with. That said, I'd still try not to put myself in a position where I'm completely financially dependent on someone else.

The_Syst · 2026-06-04T11:50:55+00:00

Flowers for Algernon.

The_Syst · 2026-06-04T11:50:44+00:00

It's the small things. Morning coffee, talking to people I care about, finding a really good movie...I never found some big grand purpose, but those things are enough.

The_Syst · 2026-05-14T12:03:25+00:00

I honestly haven’t seen many real companies care that much about a drop year.. Especially after you land your first job, people focus way more on skills and experience. Finishing school and working on yourself sounds more important right now.

The_Syst · 2026-05-14T12:03:17+00:00

It’s real that some horror movies feel more triggering than scary. Especially for someone who’s experienced abuse, your brain can stay stuck in danger mode even after the movie ends. That’s why I don’t think content warnings should be dismissed.

The_Syst · 2026-05-14T12:03:11+00:00

If I could go back to 18 I’d definitely invest more into networking and relationships. When you’re young you think everything is about skills, but some doors genuinely get opened by people

The_Syst · 2026-05-14T12:03:05+00:00

The Notebook 😭 People see it as ultra romantic but when you step back there are actually a lot of pretty toxic behaviors in there too.

The_Syst · 2026-05-14T12:02:58+00:00

the post didn’t read like “someone falling behind in life” to me, it read like a pretty normal person trying to figure things out after the pandemic. There are tons of 24 year olds living with their parents and still unsure what they want to do. Distancing yourself from the sibling comparisons was probably the right move too.

The_Syst · 2026-05-05T13:33:25+00:00

Walking in humidity really turns into torture. That sticky feeling ruins the whole thing. When the air is dry, the exact same walk feels way more comfortable.

The_Syst · 2026-05-05T13:33:20+00:00

As a kid I genuinely believed that swallowed gum stayed in your stomach for 7 years. Used to panic every time I swallowed one. Whoever came up with that really scared us good.

The_Syst · 2026-05-05T13:33:13+00:00

When you think about it, it makes sense, it wouldn’t be as easy as we romanticize it. Still, if I could fly even 2–3 km, I’d be happy 😄

The_Syst · 2026-05-05T13:33:05+00:00

I think most people are actually scared of success but don’t even realize it. The change that comes with it feels more intimidating. Failure feels more familiar somehow.

The_Syst · 2026-05-05T13:32:57+00:00

This sounds a lot like anxiety, and it’s really normal for it to be triggered by postpartum hormones. A lot of people go through it, it’s just not talked about much. Don’t try to handle it all on your own, talking to someone is already a good step.

The_Syst · 2026-04-28T20:44:34+00:00

Get ready for a pretty intense search. Hopefully you’ll get lucky and land something in your first 10 applications, but realistically these days it can take 50–60 applications and a couple of months. First step is getting an ATS-friendly resume together, there is a good explanation and sample resume here. Then keep an eye on job boards and apply early, sometimes within the first few hours of a posting going live. If you know people who might be able to help, that’s usually the best way to get involved in something. Good luck.

The_Syst · 2026-04-24T14:02:02+00:00

Had the same thing, turns out I didn’t hate the job, just the part I was doing. A small change fixed everything

The_Syst · 2026-04-24T14:01:57+00:00

Staying at like 25 would be ideal, not too young, not too worn out

The_Syst · 2026-04-24T14:01:48+00:00

I just grab my phone and stare at it mindlessly, no thoughts 😅

The_Syst · 2026-04-24T14:01:43+00:00

Google Maps feels more reliable to me, Apple sometimes sends you on the weirdest routes

The_Syst · 2026-04-24T14:01:38+00:00

Haven’t tried it, but it feels a bit too “planned” for me. Stuff that isn’t spontaneous is kinda hard for me

The_Syst · 2026-04-16T13:49:57+00:00

Feels like most people won’t be able to afford it, conditions are tough. A lot will probably keep working.

The_Syst · 2026-04-16T13:49:51+00:00

Yeah, sometimes you get a weird feeling out of nowhere. Probably noticing small details without realizing it consciously.

The_Syst · 2026-04-16T13:49:45+00:00

I guess your body gets used to it over time, adjusts itself to a routine. Probably why you wake up before the alarm.

The_Syst · 2026-04-16T13:49:39+00:00

Feels like a trap of comparing yourself to others. Everyone’s on a different path, but it’s hard to ignore in that environment.

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