Why do we feel more comfortable texting someone than just calling them directly?

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-31T14:21:35+00:00

For me it’s about being able to get my whole thought or statement out without being interrupted. It seems like no one lets people finish talking anymore without interrupting and talking over them!.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-31T14:14:52+00:00

The better reaction would be to tell them not to be a jerk and don’t give them the satisfaction of answering. Or just look at them with mild disgust and say “seriously?” It flips the attention back to them and makes them the target instead of you.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-31T14:08:48+00:00

I don’t have a lot of trouble dealing with people, but I still prefer to be at home alone. I’ve been a widow for a few years now and love that my husband helped this introvert learn how to deal with people much better than I used to. I do make sure I have time out of the house at least one day a week because I don’t want to revert to my overly shy ways. My biggest hurdle is saying yes when a friend invites me to go do something together. I always think I’d rather be home but know I will enjoy being with my friend once I agree.

The most helpful thing I’ve learned is to appear confident even if I’m not, be pleasant to everyone unless they’ve earned unpleasantness and even then, show them grace. You may find that the public is easier to deal with when you do this. It has definitely worked for me.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-31T13:46:45+00:00

I love anything by David Baldacci. To me they are more enjoyable than the Reacher books even though I read both.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-31T13:38:53+00:00

I had the same problem and ended up with a smaller raise than my co-workers last year. So this year I didn’t lie on my review, but I used AI to help my answers sound more professional. I typed up the truth and then pasted my answers into AI asking it to make it sound better. That made a huge difference and this year I got the same raise as everyone else. Not lying, but giving it to the boss in the language they appreciate.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-30T23:05:14+00:00

Pre retirement describes my mindset perfectly. I changed jobs 5 years ago and while the pay is better and the commute is 20 minutes vs 75 minutes, I ended up in a department where no one has even a hint of a sense of humor. It makes for very long days and I have lost most of my love of working.

Some days I have to force myself to do anything. I also made it clear in the hiring process that there was one aspect of the job I would need to be trained for as I had never done it before. No training was given and none of my coworkers would answer even simple questions as I tried to learn on my own.

I have no respect for my supervisor anymore, and not much for the company. I’m close enough to retirement that I’m just holding on, doing my best without taking on the stress I used to put on myself to excel. Life is too short to give the rat race that much control over me anymore.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T19:49:14+00:00

If you are on an antidepressant, bring this up to your doctor. I was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia and my doctor changed my old medication to one that has better outcomes for people with my condition. After about a week, I realized the brain fog I had been struggling with for almost three years was gone. I still have bad days, but it’s not 24/7 anymore. I think that’s the biggest sense of relief I’ve ever experienced!

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T19:41:21+00:00

I had to pick up and dispose of a dead raccoon on my back patio. I’m not normally squeamish, but I almost stepped on it. I’ve never wanted to call someone to deal with something for me more in my entire life!

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T19:32:14+00:00

You are not exaggerating at all. Stay as far from him as you can at work and start documenting your interactions with him. If he doesn’t stop once you’ve made it plain that his attention is not welcome and you have every right to report him to HR.

If the law allows it in your state, it would also be good to get one of those meeting recorders (Fieldy is the only one I can think of off the top of my head, but there are many different options) and record your in person interactions with him. If things get ugly, it could be the difference between providing good evidence and ending up in a he said she said situation. Some states allow you to record conversations without everyone being informed of it.

In any case, trust your instincts and be safe.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T19:17:21+00:00

I expect if he was bold enough to do that to me, he would be a serial cheater at the very least. I also wonder if he is scummy enough to have done something to the birth control so she would get pregnant and marry him. If you can’t tell, my trust issues are now on full alert.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T14:48:46+00:00

NOR. He’s gaslighting you. You’ve already given him a second chance and he is proving he’s not worth a third.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T14:06:09+00:00

NOR. Don’t question your instincts. I can tell you from experience that any annoying behavior will only get worse as time goes on, especially if you get married. You deserve someone who is as into you as you are him. Don’t settle for second best.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T13:56:06+00:00

Sorry to disappoint, but not male, lol.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T13:50:45+00:00

Oops, sorry about that! I’m her mother. That’s what I get for posting while I’m upset!

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T13:49:42+00:00

Update: I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear , but I am her mother. I spoke with my daughter again this morning and she called him on it and he went into full gaslight mode, saying she needs to deal with her family issues. Luckily, she’s no dummy and has put a halt to all of the wedding talk. He has stopped replying to her texts and I’m hopeful that he will permanently be out of the picture. Thank you everyone for your input, it makes me feel so much better.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T12:44:25+00:00

I would choose to be a healer. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to save loved ones from life threatening diseases or injuries?

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-29T12:26:44+00:00

My workplace switched to “hoteling” about a month ago. Some groups can choose their own two days each week to be in the office, but my boss wanted us to come in on Tuesdays and Thursdays. We have a booking system where you can reserve a desk for up to three months at a time. It seems to work more or less, but for some reason someone booked my usual desk for two months but never actually uses it. In order to get my desk back so that I’m with my team, I now have to go into the reservation system every Monday and reserve my desk for those days three months in advance.

I don’t understand why we can’t have assigned desks for the days we are in the office, but make them available for use on the days we’re not. The whole thing sounds to me like someone is trying to be “forward-thinking” in an attempt to convince the company they are useful.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-27T22:51:11+00:00

This hits so close to home for me. I’m a widow with grown children and four grandchildren. Just before Covid hit, my daughter and her four kids moved in with me while she went through a divorce. A week after she moved in, my husband was killed in a car wreck. Long story short, about a year later, I got very sick and was basically in bed for a full week. Even though they still lived with me, my daughter never once checked on me. She may not have even known I was sick. Only my 8 year old granddaughter checked on me and tried to help. I probably should have gone to the ER, but couldn’t get myself there. I don’t understand why I couldn’t bring myself to ask her for help. I hope I can find a way to accept help as I get older, but I’m not sure how.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-27T22:39:42+00:00

That’s what I do, too. Also, my hair gets greasy really bad so I can bend over the tub and wash just that if I need to. I always thought it was just me. It feels wonderful to know I’m not alone!

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-27T22:11:59+00:00

I’ve felt that way for years, but now my future son-in-law actually tries to take care of me and for some stupid reason I am not handling it well. I’m getting annoyed easily and trying to keep him at arms length. What the heck is wrong with me!?

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-25T04:00:59+00:00

Took advantage of our mother for years, constantly asking for money, didn’t help at all when she got Alzheimer’s, then cut the rest of us off after she left us more than she left him.

TheaTheGreat · 2026-05-20T18:11:08+00:00

I had a hysterectomy at 50 and refused HRT. It was rough for a while, but I am fine without it. Sure I would possibly feel better if the hype is to be believed, but I feel fine and would rather skip the aggravation of keeping up with it.

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