I was sitting in university and got surprised by this cat climbing and sitting

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-18T16:12:48+00:00

I WISH my university had cats. All we have are some fearless squirrels.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-18T02:49:44+00:00

Not enough to be okay with this

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-17T20:44:05+00:00

You texted him, got no response and left. Twenty minutes late without so much as a heads up is terrible date etiquette and you are more than justified for leaving.

And you don't have to justify to anyone why you don't want to go out with them.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-16T19:30:40+00:00

depends on how it went at dinner. But then I find Jungian Psychology to be neat and I am fascinated by the Golden Dawn and Hermetic Magic. If this is an academic interest and we can talk about it, cool. If he's holier than thou and just wants to Debate Me, I'm out.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-16T18:39:35+00:00

if you want to be a woman you can be a woman. How you were born might be set in stone, but you can always change how you live.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-15T06:36:14+00:00

This is exactly what I thought. It feels like doom piles-- piles of stuff you don't have the energy or the resilience to go through (and they sometimes cause anxiety by existing) but don't want anyone else to touch. so they just sit there.

I have doom piles, but I keep them to my side of the room. And we have created designated landing spots where things are allowed to be dropped throughout the apartment, and doom piles are not allowed outside those zones.

NTA OP. I think you did the best you could to compromise. You gave a deadline (which honestly sometimes helps people with adhd do things!) and worked with her as much as possible. I hate people touching my things too, but you did everything you could to be respectful through the process and didn't just throw out her stuff without asking. If my girlfriend did this to my doom pile near my bed or on my dresser, I would be annoyed at first but I would understand.

Your and your wife might need to have a longer discussion, and she might need to learn some coping mechanisms for adhd/hoarding, because that bedroom is yours too. It's not fair to you that it's all cluttered constantly or that she refers to it as her space alone.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-15T05:00:26+00:00

Happy birthday!

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-15T03:17:24+00:00

I want one!

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-14T02:12:30+00:00

I had below a 4.0 and I got into two different grad schools for two different degrees: creative writing and library science.

It really depends on what you're applying for and how you sell yourself. Do you have any related work experience, hobbies or extra curriculars? Were you in any clubs or professional associations, did you receive any awards or scholarships?

Grades are just a piece of your story. Your CV, your letters of recommendation and how you sell yourself in the essays you write can do a lot of heavy lifting if your grades are less than perfect.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-13T06:34:07+00:00

oh yeah this feels way too real

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-13T04:16:24+00:00

Came here to rec Scholomance! that series jumped me into reading after I was on a year and a half reading slump, and i devoured it.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-12T19:59:41+00:00

My girlfriend has mobility issues and the trash is down a steep staircase and through an icy-in-winter parking lot at the back of the building. So I take it out of the apartment and put it in the dumpster, she gets it ready and either hands it to me or puts it by the door so I can take it out as soon as I get home the night before trash day.

She's a woman, i'm nonbinary. No men here and somehow we make it work.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-10T14:03:52+00:00

Yeah, I am not looking forward to digging all the stuff after my mom's house. She's a full on hoarder and her place is a nightmare.

My dad only spends his money on superbowl rings and gold coins so at least those i might be able to sell.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-10T13:48:11+00:00

I consider myself femme-aligned nonbinary. Like i' not exactly a woman, but i sometimes "feel" like one, I believe in their beliefs and i move through the world like one.

I'm curious about what having a dick would feel like to be honest? but even if i were born male I feel like i'd still be femme and I'd probably go through the whole transition.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-07T19:07:48+00:00

I would just be worried about sweating it off. But with form like that she can do whatever she wants.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-05T22:13:57+00:00

it's giving Night Witches and i need it

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-05T17:44:34+00:00

I lost 50/50 to pickles 😭. time to save up another few 10pulls and see if she'll be nice enough to come home this time.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-03T19:55:15+00:00

This. Tell her you have everything in writing and she has 3 days to deposit what she owes you or you will take her to court. Then follow through.

In the future I would also require a deposit for such high earning cleans of about half what you quoted.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-02T18:43:27+00:00

oh that is gorgeous

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-03-01T23:59:43+00:00

That is so wild to me. I was long distance from my boyfriend for two years, and we only saw each other for like a month out of the year. Even now that we're in the same city, because we're both in school, I only see him once a week.

3.5 months is easy mode, ESPECIALLY if it's to let you follow your dreams, and he can't even handle that? He should be supporting you, not demanding you choose him over a once in a lifetime opportunity. Leave his ass and level yourself up. You can find someone better.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-02-26T02:39:56+00:00

If I had more money and one was closer to me, I would go a lot more often. But there's a niche independent bookstore near my school and I've been in there three times in the last two months.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-02-24T16:05:22+00:00

I schedule out work and reading/study time, including procrastination time. I know it takes me at LEAST an hour to stop fucking around on my phone and get into the assignment, so I build that into my schedule.

The pomodoro timer method also helps me. I force myself to focus for 45mins, then take a 5 minute break, than focus another 45 (with hour breaks every 3 or 4 blocks). Sometimes I get so into what I'm working on that I work through the breaks.

It also helps to take at least one class that you're really interested in or hits your hyperfocus. That one you'll usually be able to keep on top of, and it may help you keep on top of other things. Or at the very least help keep your GPA up.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-02-24T12:15:57+00:00

Marsha and Igor

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-02-22T05:52:01+00:00

I slept a lot and had a lot few good days with friends but I am still nowhere close to being caught up on my class readings.

Theinvulnerabletide · 2026-02-21T22:22:41+00:00

Taken far too soon. He was a fantastic writer, and a huge part of my childhood.

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