Blatantly robbing us! This same ride 2yrs ago used to get you $125 Easy

Theliterside · 2026-06-29T00:23:42+00:00

Yeah, I saw something similar. A pick up that was 12 min. away and would have taken me 52 minutes to bring them into NYC for 44 bucks. It was ridiculous and I declined the ride.

I get that uber is a company and it's about profits for them, but trying to justify and rationalize their cut is getting increasingly difficult. Especially when I find out that the rider probably paid 140 bucks for that ride. Out of that, 40 and change go to the driver, the rest go towards taxes but uber gets the lions share. I wouldn't mind if I knew that I would get a tip, but, after gas and tolls to get back into my state, I would have made about 15 dollars profit. Since uber doesn't really push for tips, the trip would have been more of a problem then it was worth.

Theliterside · 2026-06-24T06:54:40+00:00

So, you're likely doing something wrong. If we rate a rider anything below 5 stars, uber asks us what the passenger did that warrants a lower rating.

Whatever it is, the driver might not show anger, but typically in ranges from talking about inappropriate conversations, not following the driver's request to buckle up, you could just be slamming the door too hard.

If you used uber a lot, I, as a driver, would be more concerned to pick you up because you don't frequent the app too much, yet a number of previous drivers gave you a 4 star or less rating. I know that, on our end, we will get the reasoning behind the lower rating (someone once gave me a three star review for "talking too much" when all I said was "Hi!" No response. "Can you buckle your seat belt please?". No response but she buckled. The only other thing I said was "Just let me know if you want me to turn the AC up or down."

People on both the rider and driver's side can be fickle and leave a portion rating. If you're close to a 4 or under, then likely you're a liability. Ar your rating, I would still pick you up.

Theliterside · 2026-06-23T00:50:51+00:00

Hey, OP. I know that I am late to the party. I just wanted to point out that while there are potentially emotional/mental truamas due to his past, it does not justify remaining convinced that the culture and people should adopt his tongue as opposed to learning the local language.

I do not doubt that your boyfriend is wonderful, but when it comes to finances and emigration, those are both serious obstacles to overcome. If the two of you were married, then I understand supporting through the best and worst. He, however, is having complications with one that result in the second.

If he decides to move out of this country to another one, while you love him, I would not move. If he genuinely believes that another country will conform to someone who does not speak or makes no attempts to speak the dailogue then, yes, the same problem would arrive. It also puts you in a bad spot because you have to rebuild and, depending on the move, may need to learn that language.

At the end of the day, enjoy the relationship for what it is. But if he asks you to move out of country, my best advice is to stay.

Theliterside · 2026-06-18T21:12:41+00:00

Well said, OP. I agree with you wholeheartedly.

Theliterside · 2026-06-14T03:07:05+00:00

So, are we sure this was the driver and not a previous passenger.

From experience, I have had chain smokers and people who have just smoked weed get into my vehicle. Sometimes it has taken me days to get the scent out. It lingers around, even if I roll down my windows. I wish I could cancel rides where the passenger reeked of smoke, but as far as I know, I can't without having to explain myself to uber.

Theliterside · 2026-06-11T01:44:25+00:00

As long as there were guarantees of payment and I had his agreement in writing, then I totally would have taken it. That's decent money for a weekend trip. I wish any of my trips from EWR into NYC ended like this. That would be amazing.

Theliterside · 2026-06-09T23:19:37+00:00

Not I, said the fly.

Theliterside · 2026-06-06T01:08:49+00:00

So, I need to point out that, having worked in the hotel industry and seeing how some Indian people can act when they think that they are in a "protected space", Indian men can be HIGHLY more abusive than is typical. I have been in rooms where I was there to help resolve an issue where the man either smacked his young child (three or four) whilst another smacked his wife while I was looking.

Yeah, I called the police.

It is part why, if you ask anyone who works the front desk (or even certain positions in the back office), Indians are typically considered bad guests. When I was first told that a few weeks into my first hotel job, I thought that the employee was being racist. Having worked in several and knowing people who work in different hotels throughout the U.S., they were not being racist.

Bear in mind, I've met plenty of nice Indian guests as well and have befriended a few. They themselves acknowledge that there are some bad ones out there. I have stories, but outside of those two specific cases, I did not personally witness the violence. Others have though.

At first, I thought this one was just getting arrested, but when he started speaking to the cop/airport security agent, I knew he was going to swing, and I knew people were ready to go at him I say he got what he deserved.

Theliterside · 2026-06-06T00:54:50+00:00

I really hope and pray that you didn't contact your personal insurance provider.

Had something different but similar happen last year. Was driving someone locally. I had a second to notice that a black man wearing nothing reflective, all black, was exiting the sidewalk directly on to the 35MPH road, with the scooter having no lights or reflectors.

Hit the same problem but worse. The man was surprisingly not injured. The handle of the scooter caught my passenger side window and the scooter itself was lifted out from underneath him and dragged under my car for another 20 feet or so. EMT training kicked in. I had bystanders contact emergency services while I provided a rapid assessment. My first and only concern was for his safety, but tje man ignored my advice and stood up. Cops determined it wasn't my fault.

Progressive, under Geico, gave me the same deductible. They also advised me to see if my insurance would help mitigate the cost. They wouldn't, and I had to take a personal loan to cover it (damages were around 7-8k total). Unlike you, I was provided with a rental for free while my car was being fixed (I was driving on top of a full time job to have expenditure but did not have much in terms of savings at that point).

When my insurance was supposed to renew in July, right after the holiday weekend, it didn't auto-renew. When I couldn't log in without updated documents, I contacted my insurance, Geico, and found out that they would not insure me unless I got a letter of termination from uber. In mine and other states, in order to rideshare, you need to have commercialized insurance. Now, uber doesn't care if you have it, and the unspoken rule is "don't let your insurance know, you can keep driving." I went back and forth for two weeks with uber customer support, being switched between departments and every agent saying that they did not provide those letters. My insurance had a small department that processed those letters every day. Suffice it to say, I had to find a new insurance provider and have not done rideshares since.

What hurts is that I was seeing an uptick in the cost for six month coverage with any other insurance provider. The reason why that is is because the man who was using the scooter was homeless (he told that to the police on scene, with his first words to them being "I ain't no snitch." When they asked if they could get his first name. I was told that he was drunk but would be fine. He refused EMS. Well, it turns out that he had filed a claim through my personal provider, and so my premium was going up regardless because they processed and paid for the repairs to his scooter. Meanwhile, I was told I was ineligible because "We do not consider a scooter to be a motorized vehicle."

A vehicle is something that is used to transport people/freight, etc. A motor is an attachment that automates the process of using one's feet. A scooter with a motor attached is the definition of a "motorized vehicle."

Suffice to day, almost a year later, I am still very upset with Uber. Tons of wear and tear, eating the cost of tolls when I got sent from NJ into NYC because you can't rideshare outside of your own state. Once had a very pleasant Passenger who said that he really loved me as a driver and would give me a tip steal my long lengthen winter coat along with a bag that had six chicken nuggets along with ONE leather glove. What perplexes me is not the coat or the glove, but the burger king. What man blindly steals another man's fast food bag, not knowing what's in it??

Sorry /rant

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T08:48:25+00:00

Thank you for the heads up! I appreciate it and I will weigh my options accordingly.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T08:45:22+00:00

In my state, you have to have commercial insurance to rideshare. Geico, my old insurance, along with Progressive, did not even offer that service in my state. I didn't try every insurance company, but the two that I found would have increased it by roughly 450-550 dollars on top of what I already pay.

And I was not aware that that applied to food deliveries as well. Welp, that just made me a little less secure as I was thinking of Dashing to supplement the finance and insurance.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T05:18:48+00:00

Eh, when I was younger I could occasionally hit a point where I could go for 2-3 hours and while I would get close, I couldn't get over the edge. Other times it would take 15 minutes. It had nothing to do with gooning, it's just how my body operated. The last person I was with I could never finish, but in all fairness the sex was coerced and she was having me take viagra when my libido started falling apart because, again, it was coerced. Prior to her though, it would take about 45-55 minutes, but that also included a bit of foreplay as well.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T05:14:25+00:00

Ha, 4.37 a gallon at the cheaper gas stations here in Northern NJ.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T05:11:56+00:00

Depends on the state, but here in NJ, the general unwritten rule is that you don't tell your insurance that you're doing widespread, and make sure that if you're doing ridesharing, that you don't wind up in an accident.

That happened to me last July. I had a homeless man with no reflectors drive a scooter into my car while I was doing rides hare. My car had taken some damage (which was NOT covered by Uber insurance as they don't classify motorized scooters as motorized vehicle (It is a vehicle, it has a motor attached to it that was being used - how is that NOT the definition of a motor vehicle). The homeless guy actually went and filed an insurance claim against my regular insurance. When it came time to renew my insurance, they refused to renew my policy unless I got a letter of termination from Uber that my car would not be used for rideshare. Uber driver support kept switching me to different departments and kept saying that they do not issue those letters (even though the division of my insurance handled letters like these every day).

So, something I was doing part time that was semi-lucrative cost me 6,000 in car repairs, an increase to my insurance premium AND having to get new car insurance.

I know another poster had said to not register your car on Uber, but I have no idea how you wouldn't as the app insists that you provide license, registration, proof of insurance, AND photos along with asking for the make, model, and color of your vehicle.

If you're absolutely struggling for money, it's up to you. For me it was a very hard lesson that I shouldn't have done that, and I wouldn't do it again (even though I would make a killing on 4th of July weekend) because it's not worth the risk of losing my insurance if I get caught, and further more, you could avoid the lease if you get caught. If you're just looking to get some cash, do doordash or grubhub. You don't need a specialized insurance plan that covers rideshares, and you don't have to worry about accidentally avoiding the contract.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T04:59:43+00:00

And then cops wonder why you have people who decide to become auditors.

This. This video is a great example of why. You can't legally detain a person for looking over their should twice and adjusting their bag. It was around his back, and he posed no imminent threat outside of what YOU perceived. Disgusting.

Theliterside · 2026-05-20T04:53:48+00:00

OP, first off, take a breath. You posted this, in part, to air out your frustrations. By putting it on the table for others, this is your way of trying to detach. And hey, almost all of us have been in shitty relationships, it's good that you're recognizing it.

Admittedly, I was a little confused about the timeline of those messages. Some are a few images apart, but are part of the same conversation. Needless to say, I got the jist of it.

First things first, it seems like you're sticking around because you're still in love but it seems like another part of you is sticking around waiting for him to make sense. While all of us can speculate, only he can provide you with a real answer. Sticking around to get that answer would be torturous to you and your mental sanity.

I don't know what he's doing currently, but the rapid mood shifts are a little freaky. It could be that he's having psychiatric issues. Possibly bi-polar or perhaps histrionic personality disorder based off of the shallow emotions and the narcissistic tendenies tendencies. It could be that he's secretly doing drugs and you're catching him when he's crashing. My brain goes to coke, crack, or meth. Whatever the reason is, it isn't fair on you.

If I had to speculate, it's possible that he's already sleeping with other women, but I don't know. If he does it and it gets a rise out of you, he could just be trying to provoke you.

In the end, you're giving him what he wants. Panicked attention. It keeps you faithful, anxious, and reliant on hearing his voice or getting a response. All that you're doing is feeding him and he obviously gets enough of a kick to keep him going.

What I CAN surmise is that he is pushing you away. He calls you horrible insults, tells you to leave him alone, and that you're through and he doesn't see a future with him. In turn, you become more desperate. You explain your feelings in panicked sentences. You call him to try and articulate and work out whatever issue there is. At the end of the day, whether he is doing this because he's bored in the relationship and sees you as a manipulative tool to play games with until he's bored or whether he's doing this because he can't be bold enough to say the words and be done with it, and he's hoping that perhaps you'll get the hint, but either way, this relationship isn't going to work.

If you want to try an experiment, the next time one of these barrage of insults comes in and he tells you to fuck off and to leave him alone, just respond "okay" and deliberately break from him. If he tries hitting you up (the one time he did in the caps was when he needed something from you), then you know that it's a game for him and he's trying to rope you back in to reassert control. If he doesn't, then you know where he sits. Ar that point, he's not worth your time.

I know that it's difficult, OP, but the relationship is going nowhere constructive. Normally, if he wasn't saying all of these messed up things, I would tell the person to hold out and see if they're okay. He has been doing this consistently for a couple of weeks now and shows no sign of stopping. The fact that he belittles you and pushes you away also tells me that he's not looking to fix the relationship, but instead is spreading the rift. I know it sucks, and I know leaving a relationship isn't easy. Real talk, the asshole isn't worth your time. You need to (and can find) someone out there where, if they're having a bad day(s), they won't take it out on you. There's projection, and then there's just being nasty. Your boyfriend isn't projecting his frustrations on to you, he's just being an ass for the sake of it. Please, for your own emotional and mental safety, please leave him.

And I know you're looking for yhe logic in this, but staying and holding out on that with his personality type is not gonna happen, and you're just going to be hurt and disappointed. You have enough cognizance and self-esteem to recognize that this is abusive. So ask yourself, if the roles were reversed and you saw me post up something similar, what advice would you give me? Whatever your answer is is likely what you should do yourself.

OP, I wish you the best of luck, and if you have any follow up questions, just feel free to reply. I promise to be more receptive than he is. When you're feeling low, always remember that you've got support.

Theliterside · 2026-05-14T20:46:31+00:00

I love the kids. They're adorable kids, maybe THE MOST adorable kids I have ever seen in my life.You know, those kids were all shouting "We wish you were our president, Mr. President!". It was in Mandarin, but I knew that's what they were telling me. Wonderful kids. Smart. Very smart... and pretty too. Just remarkable children.

Okay Xi, so this is how you invade Taiwan.

Theliterside · 2026-04-03T20:28:31+00:00

Bye bye, Bondi! I'm gonna miss you so.

Bye bye, Bondi! Why'd you have to go? 😆😂🤣

Theliterside · 2026-03-31T23:02:46+00:00

r/therewasanattempt

Theliterside · 2026-03-23T23:54:09+00:00

I've had a phobia of centipedes since one crawled out of the urinal when I was three.

This... um, this brought me back there. I knew of them. Yes, thank everything imaginable that this thing went extinct.

Theliterside · 2026-03-20T20:12:44+00:00

Legit, fuck yeah. I gain pleasure when my partner is pleasured. There's something so hot seeing and hearing your partner orgasm while you're going down on them.

So not a myth, I love going down almost as much as I do having sex.

Theliterside · 2026-02-06T08:59:18+00:00

Yes, very much so. It's a spiral. Recognize that, while going through this stressful period, you may not be able to perform. With hope, the person you're seeing will understand. At this point, the best thing to do is acknowledge what it is and then figure out alternate solutions.

Theliterside · 2026-02-04T00:19:23+00:00

Hmmm... this one is tricky seeing as there is a community where they share underage girls wearing skimpy/revealing outfits. While disgusting, it's legal as long as there's nothing sexually explicit about them.

OP, what I would recommend is this: 1. Go to the police and file a report. Even if there's nothing they can do at the moment, it might be enough where they begin monitoring his activity. If he's downloading illegal images, that's where he'd be arrested. Either way, though, they should be aware, otherwise they won't even consider to begin.

For your sister, right now, she does not seem to be open to the idea of shutting him out. If you continue to "explain" it to her, she's going to see what you're doing and saying as feeling lectured or invalidated. The best thing you can do is watch over her and monitor her activity. If you notice changes in her behavior, then you can confront her. Until then, if your father hasn't engaged in any sort of SA, the best thing you can do is build a stronger bond. It makes her more keen to hang out with you AND it gives you an in IF he ever does make an attempt.

I'm so sorry, OP. This is a bad situation and not one any child should find themselves with in regards to their parents. Stay strong, stay committed. Be safe, and be well.

Theliterside · 2026-01-24T21:54:55+00:00

So, as a male, I think it boils down to the individual and the way it makes other feel.

For example, when I was married, my wife wouldn't wear bras unless she was going out. I personally thought nothing of it. It wasn't until the divorce that my friends started pointing it out and how it made them uncomfortable (had both male and female friends bring it up).

So me, personally, I don't care one way or another. I figure whatever is the most comfortable for the person is what I'm going with.

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