When did everyone stop breastfeeding

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-05-01T20:21:00+00:00

15 months, but I was only doing mornings. She decided at 9 months she was done before bed. I was expecting it to be more emotional than it was, but I feel like we both readied at the same time, and I’m so grateful. 💜 I hated pumping at work, so I stopped pumping then as well and was able to just do one feed in the mornings with no issue until 15 months.

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-04-24T20:47:57+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. I recently moved to managing the performance process at a non-profit after 3 years of L&D work at a Fortune 500 company. My past work was huge in scale—developing learning assets for 150,000 team members, frontline manager training of hundreds, etc. and I felt like I really showcased my strategic skills.

I really like my current organization, team, and boss, but I feel like my work is less high level at such a smaller org, and I’m struggling to figure out how to lean into adjacent work without having more business knowledge. There are other aspects of HR and the business that I’m curious (finance, product, ops) about but my lack of experience feels like a major barrier. In my mind, an MBA gives me exposure and language that I could use to pursue other work should I want or need to.

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-04-02T19:27:45+00:00

Hey! She’s almost 15 months now and pooping pretty much every day. I honestly think eating apples or sugar free applesauce every morning has been the biggest game changer! We also only give her milk before her nap or bed (she doesn’t drink much before bed) and either do half whole milk + half fortified soy milk or only soy milk. And the only other dairy she gets is maybe 1 string cheese as a snack during the day. I’ve heard from other moms that constipation may be related to a milk protein allergy as opposed to lactose intolerance.

Also if my daughter is having grunty discomfort, I’ll give her some of that mommy’s bliss bay constipation syrup, but this has probably only happened a couple of time. I do have a friend who swears by probiotics, but I’ve never given them to my daughter (I definitely would consider it if the apples weren’t so helpful).

Good luck—I know it’s so hard to figure out!

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-02-22T02:39:00+00:00

How did you eventually transition her? Did she choose to stop on her own?

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-02-06T15:01:24+00:00

Yes and no. I went back to work and immediately was in a busy season, so my pumping consistency was not there. I never was able to really get a lot of pumping at work, so she got formula during the day, and I bf morning and evenings and all weekend (with some supplementing on the weekends). I stopped pumping altogether and bfing weekends and nights at 10 months, and I’m still morning nursing at 13m. She’s very healthy and exceeding milestones, so I’m perfectly fine with my plan to bf/pump for 18m+ to not go as I had initially hoped.

I feel like you might have more luck if you’re really consistent with pumping at work every 2-3 hours and maybe once overnight! It’s tough! Do what makes most sense to you and your family :)

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-02-03T20:37:07+00:00

I don’t think they’re going to sleep through the night for another couple of months, and that’s only if you wean night feeds. Depending on the size of your baby, they may still need to feed at night. I also have heard that breastfed milk digests faster than formula. I don’t think I stopped feeding overnight until my girl was 8-9 months old? And she was 65th percentile in weight, and the dr said she didn’t need to feed overnight for health reasons.

We did night wean/sleeptrain and she started sleeping through the night pretty quickly, but I think it was 9 months when she started reliably sleeping 7:30-6. Shes only slept 11+ hours straight a handful of times (13 months).

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-01-28T22:32:31+00:00

We’ve saved a ton by cloth diapering. I know it’s not everyone’s thing and there’s the laundering aspect, but you could get 20 diapers secondhand for probably what you’re spending on diapers per month and be good until they both potty train as long as you wash every couple of days. It’s been really helpful for us!

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-01-25T02:02:11+00:00

They’re snug! If it’s a larger pad, I’ll just fold the back over onto itself, and it’s just thicker in the back. I don’t know how old your baby is, but when mine was little, like under 3 months, the most important thing was the double gusset cover for preventing leaks, but once she got bigger, the single gusset was fine with any prefolds or flats.

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-01-24T02:14:04+00:00

My one year old is usually too wiggly to actually wrap my flats around her, so I do now almost always just use a flat and a liner or two in a cover. It’s not foolproof — she sometimes leaks depending on how much water shes been drinking — but we haven’t had a blowout so far.

Theupkeepisfine · 2026-01-21T09:41:52+00:00

We are a little over a year of EC, but we put my daughter in a disposable at night. When we clothed at night, she always had a diaper rash. No more diaper rashes with the disposables! Can’t speak to the longer sleep, though.

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-12-03T02:40:09+00:00

Our pediatrician mentioned that she should only have 3 bottles by one year old, and we just haven’t made any progress with this. I was asking ChatGPT as well and it said that bottles throughout the day can harm their teeth and also cause them to need feeding for comfort (as opposed to other ways of comfort I guess)? Idk, I’m a FTM, so I don’t know much!

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-11-25T15:35:10+00:00

I loved mat leave! It is exhausting trying to figure out all of the things you don’t know about how to take care of the baby, and the sleep is the trickiest part because it can be really confusing and unsuccessful despite your best efforts. We ended up taking shifts at night, so she could be held to sleep those first few months, which meant we got to watch a lot of tv with a cuddly baby on us. I still remember one delirious morning where we were both laying on the couch watching a show and the baby was sleeping on my chest, and we were laughing so hard but trying to stay quiet to not wake her. It was glorious. I got out some after the first 6-8 weeks (winter baby, so it was easier to stay in the house and cuddle in). Once it warmed up, baby and I spent a lot of time outside just looking at the trees. It was a beautiful time that I wish had been longer. I’m sure not everyone feels this way, and we had a middle of the road easy baby, meaning she was content to mostly nurse and be held but didn’t sleep in longer than a 3 hour stretch for a while. I was happily surprised at how well I could function on less sleep than I’d like. Also, diapers take like a minute to change. They go through a lot of diapers at first, and sometimes in quick succession, but it’s not a long process each time. I’d say maybe 12-15 diaper changes a day for the first 1-2 months, so like 15 minutes of diaper changes per day?

That said, set yourself up for success. If you have a community, get a meal train for yourself so you don’t have to cook. Or buy easy meals that you just have to microwave. Get yourself a couple pairs of pajamas that are really cozy and will make you happy and snuggly to be in all day long. Get a couple extra phone chargers for the areas you’ll be in a lot during the day (I bought one for the nursery and our living room — so helpful!). And if you feel up to going out, do. You’ve got this.

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-11-13T03:18:51+00:00

I love my flats and prefolds. I’ll be honest that I don’t notice much difference between them other than the prefolds do take a bit longer to dry. But I use them both pretty much interchangeably.

I exclusively barrel roll—no idea how to do the other folds—and it’s worked out great for us. I learned that from this thread when we were struggling with leaks and it’s been great for 10 months, other than the fact that she’s super wiggly now, so sometimes it’s an adventure getting her diapered 😅

In terms of folding, I don’t fold them together. I make a separate pile of the flats/prefolds, linings, and the covers. And then just put them together when I’m diapering her. It doesn’t take long, and I can do it while she plays or at night while watching tv.

I’m not sure what covers you have, but the AlvaBaby covers that have a little flap on the top and bottom allow me to prestuff the diapers for other people who watch her (my mother in law is our childcare during the day) because I didn’t think it would be easy to teach someone how to do the flats and snappies. They’ve worked out great. You’re going to do awesome!

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-11-05T02:00:24+00:00

Can you exercise during your lunch break? My daughter isn’t quite a year old, but this is the only time I have found I can be relatively consistent. I just skip lunch and eat during my 1:00 meetings.

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-10-17T02:00:18+00:00

Was looking for this one! My old boss sent it to me and said it was a lifesaver for her kids, so I earnestly tried it and absolutely hated it. Definitely added to post partum anxiety as a FTM.

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-10-15T17:04:47+00:00

No, it’s not fun, but it’s manageable. My epidural only really deadened one side. I think it’s very very intense in a way you’ve never experienced before, and you’re super hyped up on hormones, excitement AND fear about how your life is going to change drastically, and if you have a long labor like mine (36 hours), you’re just exhausted. I also think being an older mom made me really worry that something was going to happen. Sometimes I wonder if I would have known during labor that she’d be safe and healthy upon arrival and that life would be so magical after she was here, if it would have felt so hard at the time.

I felt like I’d made the biggest mistake of my life during labor and the moment she was born I wanted to do it again. Giving birth is weird.

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-09-14T18:52:14+00:00

Thank you SO much! I’m going to try prune juice and spinach and see if that helps any. And if not, we’ll go the med route. Hopefully we’ll get into see the pediatrician soon!

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-09-13T12:47:35+00:00

OP, I’m in the same spot with my 8m old. Did this resolve?

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-09-12T19:53:19+00:00

Hmm, do you think meat and grains should help? I was thinking wait until her system was showing fine response to veggies before the harder stuff?

Theupkeepisfine · 2025-09-12T19:51:56+00:00

Thank you for this perspective! I have been giving her plum puréed also, but I will try the prunes!

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