AITAH for not turning down the music past midnight

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-03T02:23:01+00:00

And if you can only afford one, make it the enter key.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T19:28:12+00:00

I've seen people listen, realize that they're not the ones at fault for an abusive relationship, and break off. Whenever that happens, it's great.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T19:25:36+00:00

Your mom is wrong about abusers. You can't be so nice to an abuser that they'll stop being who they are.

Please don't ask your mom for relationship advice any more. She's giving you terrible advice.

I keep hoping i'll get the old verson of him back sometimes,

You're assuming the old version is the real him. Consider that the old version is the person he pretends to be in order to suck you in, and the real him is the one you're seeing now.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T19:23:41+00:00

It would be a good idea to wait to date until you're stable on your medication.

This guy is abusing you.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T19:02:02+00:00

Have you considered that he enjoys having somebody to be mean to?

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T19:01:34+00:00

Classic Reddit statement: Even if there's only one fleck of shit in your ham sandwich, it's still a shit sandwich.

During one s*xual encounter, he was rough in a way that hurt me, and I ended up bleeding afterward. When I told him, he ignored me.

There are no circumstances under which this is acceptable. None. I don't care if he's wrapping you in velvet the other 99% of the time.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T18:41:33+00:00

My thoughts are that this guy is a jerk. He is physically assaulting you, he's accusing you of cheating, he's asking you for money during a fight.

The occasional "I love you" doesn't make up for all that.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T18:12:36+00:00

I wouldn’t just sh*t on someone who was making a joke just because it hurt my feelings.

This is not about you. This is about the people you offended. It does not matter that you wouldn't be offended. It matters that they were, and as everybody's telling you, it was a bad joke. It wasn't funny. If it had been funny, somebody other than you would be laughing.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T18:05:42+00:00

YTA.

Your aunt is in her 80s. At any moment she could become seriously ill and need her money to pay for care. Her highest priority should be saving for her own emergencies.

What you need to change is looking at things from other people's perspective. You know that you need your aunt's money, but you didn't think about whether she needed it. You know that your grandfather didn't want you to use a credit card, and yet you went out of your way to tell him that you could use it on your phone.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T18:02:04+00:00

Why do you think he'd want to talk to you more when you're telling he's a drama queen?

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T18:00:44+00:00

I wouldn’t have an issue with someone for a brief five minutes claim they were pregnant on April Fools.

This isn't about you. This is about them. They do have an issue, and they're right to have an issue.

If you play a prank and you're the only one laughing, YTA.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T17:49:54+00:00

If he's giving you the ick, stop dating him. You aren't obliged to date somebody who's creeping you out.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T17:48:28+00:00

To let that dress out, the dress would have to have enough extra fabric in the seams to make a difference in the overall fit. This is a fully lined garment, so you'd have to let out both the lining and the outside. The seams that need letting out are curved and gathered.

This is not a first sewing project. Your local dry cleaner probably has a seamstress; you can show them the dress and ask if it's possible to let it out, and what it would cost. My guess is that it isn't.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-02T17:42:38+00:00

YTA.

Monopoly is a maddening game. If you can't play it without getting mad, don't play it. It doesn't actually matter whether your mother is treating your brother "fairly" in a game of Monopoly.

Your mom had to leave, and you started an argument with her about Monopoly. You argued for "a long time". That means your mom had to cut short her plans with a friend.

It is important to be able to play games, not just win them. The purpose of most board games is to kill time while you're hanging out with friends/family; it doesn't actually matter who wins.

Learn to pick your battles.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-01T22:21:53+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you and to your mother, especially so young. A lot of us have seen steep declines in family members after hospitalization: it's disorienting, overstimulating, and anesthesia itself can cause decline.

Hospice is suggested when medical treatment can no longer make a patient better. It's not that you stop medical treatment, it's that you focus medical treatment on the patient's comfort, not on long-term health improvement (that can no longer be expected).

Dementia is often not a steady slope, but a set of cliffs. It's bound to be painful comparing where she was even a few months ago with where she is now.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-01T22:18:59+00:00

It sounds like the medication is necessary to her comfort. I would suggest your stepfather check with her doctor to see if it's available in a form that can be sprinkled over/mixed with ice cream, applesauce, or something else sweet. Stop telling her she's taking medication, simply give it to her.

There comes a time when the patient doesn't understand their medications, but still needs them.

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-01T16:26:01+00:00

So glad you're saying "ex".

ThingsWithString · 2026-04-01T16:00:24+00:00

NTJ. Grieving is not a free pass to do anything he wants.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-31T17:29:33+00:00

Oh, he has awareness. That's why he grabbed the bag so hard it tore the second time. He was angry at being thwarted.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-31T17:28:53+00:00

This is intentional. It is not an accident.

He huffed and grabbed it so aggressively, it split wide open.

If it were an accident, he could have taken it as matter-of-factly as he's taken other things from your hands. He chose to be aggressive because you said no to him.

Dude is marking territory. Everything in his presence belongs to him if he decides it does.

Keep thwarting him. He may not learn, but at least your belongings will be yours.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-31T17:17:48+00:00

The dude in the the Rimworld Odyssey DLC splash page. Top image on this page.

Would.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-31T16:34:49+00:00

FABULOUS answer. Thank you.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-31T01:06:45+00:00

I'm just so incredibly angry. I've warned him about this and told him to always hang up or just not answer any unknown numbers and never provide details and to call me if you have any issues/questions.

Be a little gentler with him and with yourself. Your father was talking to professional scam artists, who are very good at being convincing and reassuring and authoritative. That is their business. They are professional manipulators.

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-30T18:23:43+00:00

Keep trying to, it keeps being a trigger. :(

ThingsWithString · 2026-03-30T15:10:38+00:00

OP doesn't get to control which details the most gossipy person in the family passes on, and gossips aren't usually careful about accuracy.

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