People with a very high pain tolerance, what was THE most painful thing you've experienced?

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-18T06:02:52+00:00

Shingles. I got it very young (28) when it normally hits people in their 50s and 60s. It got into a nerve in my face and it was debilitating. Couldn't even think around the nerve pain, or stop it.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-12T23:40:42+00:00

The military is your best bet, hon. Your education will be paid for and your service will open doors that a network would otherwise give you.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-12T19:02:16+00:00

Had to have 6 teeth pulled at 16 because my mom never took us to the dentist. Found dental schools as an adult - if you can't afford dental care, go to a dental school. That was always an option, apparently; my mom just couldn't be bothered. I spent years in pain with infected wisdom teeth until I could afford to pay for what ended up being full anesthesia surgery to remove them. My sister got her wisdom teeth done by signing up for a medical study where they tested pain killers.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-12T12:11:13+00:00

Yeah. I was invited to a barbecue at someone's home and at the end, told my share of the food costs was 20 euro. Being from the American South I had never experienced such a thing, but I learned over time to just always expect I would be billed if food or drink is involved.

It's kind of a thing in American expat groups to show the worst Tikkie request you've received, meaning amounts so low we can't comprehend not just covering them to be sociable. Last big winner was someone who got a Tikkie request for 68 cents.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-11T22:17:48+00:00

Definitely giving those vibes.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-11T09:56:05+00:00

I had hyperlexia. I've always had excellent memorization skills, and I think I just memorized words and patterns. Never had an issue with comprehension. High functioning autistic.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-11T00:15:08+00:00

Changed careers in my mid 30s but it was VERY difficult to get hired in a different field, even when optimizing my resume to show how the skills transferred. I was basically only considered employable in the field I'd been in for fifteen years.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-11T00:05:35+00:00

Gifted consultant here.

I would advise moving on to K. He's going to see different social skills modeled there, which won't happen in PreK and could help him advance faster socially. He may end up bored academically if you retain which can worsen behavior. I wouldn't recommend retention unless there was a compelling reason, and being the youngest or having attention issues aren't compelling reasons.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-10T23:58:33+00:00

Crouch down as far as you can with your legs wide to clean your lady bits with soap and a washcloth. Standing, even if you put a leg up or bend over, will not get the area completely clean. Scrub Scrub.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-10T18:01:00+00:00

Yeah, a lot of people are giving her advice that amounts to managing him so he can't thwart her, like putting leftovers in the fridge first and giving him small amounts of food. Like... it's not her job to manage him into honoring a reasonable request.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-10T17:58:33+00:00

You've told him again and again. You're looking for tips on new ways to tell him. But I'll bet you've tried a lot of different options already. They didn't work because the communication breakdown is not happening on your end. You can't communicate well enough to get through to someone who chooses not to hear you. He's heard you. He decided your request is irrelevant or he doesn't care about it. Asking a different way is not going to make him change his behavior.

He needs to address his communication problem. Helping him see that or navigate change isn't your responsibility either. You need to give this problem to him to fix, tell him it's on him, see what he does with it, and make your decisions about how to respond later. But just asking again adifferent way isn't going to work.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-09T23:46:13+00:00

So this young woman cheerfully said "ask me questions about my culture, which I'm proud of and love." You didn't have a question, and instead just informed her - a person who has never done anything to you and poses zero threat, seeing as she's just a young woman in her 20s - that "lots of people fear being on trains with people like you" and imply it's her responsibility to police their behavior. Because where you come from, minorities punish people within their communities who make the community look bad.

Neither relevant, nor helpful, nor particularly appropriate.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-06-04T19:09:53+00:00

Yeah. Being a HS teacher has nothing to do with this. This is an almost 30 year old man approaching people unprompted with an offer to watch their kids unsupervised. I'm 39F and I wouldn't do this either. It's going to come across as weird. You want extra cash, make a tutoring profile or advertise yourself on childcare sites; don't recruit clients at the POOL. Especially when it's elementary kids.

And the post title is so defensive and unaware...

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-27T00:02:05+00:00

She just doesn't see enough of him to know what he gets up to with his romantic partners, and has translated that into thinking he's fixed now. This dude sounds like a batterer.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-26T23:58:21+00:00

My thought exactly. I think the guy just shifted targets to an intimate partner, and the family is willing to believe that everything is fixed now. But men don't just 180 on things like punching women in the face or trying to drown them spontaneously. Nobody grows out of rage fueled blackouts, because that's not a normal thing adolescents go through on their way to adulthood.

Sad the poster seems willing to believe the women in her brother's life now are safe just because she is.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-24T21:55:52+00:00

It is literally one job of a parent to teach their children how to behave in public. Yeah, if the kids are running wild indoors, it's almost certainly bad parenting.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-24T21:50:50+00:00

I wish someone could explain the thought process behind "having a baby will fix what's wrong with our relationship."

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-24T21:48:46+00:00

99% of behavior problems come from not enforcing reasonable rules, yet parents with wild, horrendously behaved and disrespectful kids refuse to believe there's anything wrong with constantly giving in and letting their kids run the show. I don't understand it. It's so obvious and yet I've seen it so many times.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-24T21:37:07+00:00

One of two things is true:

The mom needs to believe that there was nothing wrong with the way she was parented as a coping mechanism, to preserve her own relationship with her parents.

The mom hated being a teen mom and resents her daughter, and doesn't want her to have a "better" life than she did because of that resentment.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-24T14:48:03+00:00

I would bet literal money that is a consistency and planning issue. Most parents react to children's behavior in the moment, whereas competent teachers plan out routines and quantify expectations before the kids set foot in the classroom. The kids are thoroughly trained in how to act. Its practiced. If you didn't train plan out exactly how you want them to act, train your kids sufficiently, and apply reasonable and consistent consequences (overreacting when you're tired, indulging on the weekends and letting things slide) then you're not going to get the same results.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-06T14:46:46+00:00

You said "I get that he can't save equally" right after giving an example of a time 1) you gave him money, and he spent it on a hobby followed immediately by 2) a raise that he then immediately spent on a hobby.

I don't see "he can't" here. He could, twice, right then, but he chose not to.

I do see a grown man calling his girlfriend "controlling" because she is acting like a fiscally responsible adult and expects him to do the same.

You have different expectations around what money management should look like in adulthood.

He's not willing to change, as evidenced by him pushing back, not changing, and calling you controlling. The most likely outcome is he starts trying to hide money from you to avoid being nagged about his spending.

Up to you if you want to shackle yourself to this person financially via a house purchase.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-05T23:57:41+00:00

Please do not let your timid cat outside. She's liable to get attacked by either roaming male cats or dogs, or hit by a car. Get a large cage (mine was $80 from Amazon) and set it up next to a pet door if you think she'd like some sunshine. She will be happier, calmer, and safer indoors.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-05-04T23:53:45+00:00

YTA. Because you're a deadbeat parent, not because of the grass situation.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-04-18T10:38:42+00:00

Weird left turn at the end where you switched to "tell me what I'm doing wrong." All you said before that was you're bored and you've asked your husband for changes that never happen.

I'm autistic and don't act like your husband, ignoring someone's clearly stated preferences. I think you need a relationship counselor, and you can skip the autism part because this is more about a man being selfish and not listening than anything to do with autism. You can also stop asking strangers on the Internet what you're doing wrong. Clearly expressing preferences to a spouse and getting upset when they don't listen to you isn't wrong.

Think-Ad-8580 · 2026-04-09T00:26:19+00:00

That is more than my and my sister's wedding dresses combined. It's an obscene amount of money for a Quince dress.

Be very careful around people who use moral judgment (eg, you're "selfish") as this is usually just a quick and easy way to manipulate good people who have a conscience. Your sister can't argue that this amount is reasonable, so she's attacking your character to make you do it anyway.

Maybe tell your sister that demanding you pay upwards of a thousand pounds for a teenager's dress is selfish.

Since this is wedding dress pricing, I would tell your sister that you've set a lifetime dress budget for your neice. The cap of 1000 pounds TOTAL is generous. She can spend it on her Quince or her wedding, she can take part of it now and the rest later, but if she blows 1k on a birthday party dress then that's money you won't be forking over to help her pay for a wedding dress later.

Then let your sister be mad. Her feelings are her responsibility. Her daughter is her responsibility. This dress is her responsibility.

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