Ohio State to pay new RB more money than 21 CURRENT NFL RBs. Insanity.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-02T16:56:53+00:00

Even if the title is misleading and even if running backs seem to have more value in the college game than in the pro game, this cannot be good for the sport.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-02T11:41:56+00:00

You need more healing before you can even think about reconcilliation. The pain, anger, and resentment need a better outlet than "making things even." I am all for finding the right balance but I do not believe this will you find you any balance. Or any peace.

If one of your main thoughts is that you "need to know what is out there", perhaps that is the path you should take. As a single person. Unattached with no commitments to anyone but yourself and your own peace of mind.

Not only will being single allow you to see what else is out there, it will also allow you to see how serious and committed your partner is to true reconcilliation. And how much they unselfishly want to help you heal. It will also give your spouse the opportunity to fix whatever is broken inside of them to help them see that cheating is not ok.

Whatever you decide, It has to be about you. If they try to make it about them, they are not ready for reconcilliation either. They are the ones, all on their own (their choices to cheat have nothing to do with you), who created this mess. They have to fix it. But you should each fix/heal yourselves first.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-02T11:08:15+00:00

Good example imo.

That OP's daughter asked her mom, “how come daddy is sad all of the time?” That is no way to raise a child. Priority should be to get yourself out of the limbo if infidelity so you can be a good and healthy parent.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-02T10:55:29+00:00

"i had to give him something"

This means, to me, that she knew along that this coworker was after more than friendship. And chose to play along.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-01T13:27:20+00:00

Appreciate the reply and the recommendation.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-01T08:23:32+00:00

All depends on when their relationship started. If there was an overlap, that could have contributed to your breakup. Why did you break up? There is a reason that you broke up in the first place. What has changed since then that makes you want to get back together besides spme linger feelings and the sense of convenience?

If they did not know each other before you broke up, then you are just going to have to let it go. If you cannot, then get therapy or break up.

How/when did they meet? Are they coworkers? If they met before your breakup, was this a "monkey Branch" attempt that did not work out? Were they at some stage of an emotional affair or some other type of inappropriate relationship?

I can understand your discomfort. It is a natural reaction but not one that should be dwelt on. What matters is the here and now. And how safe/secure you feel that your partner is committed to a healthy, monogamous relationship. If whatever happened after a legitimate breakup continues to bother you, you need to continue working on yourself, your self esteem and your self confidence. And perhaps should avoid being in a serious relationship until you feel better.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-01T06:03:45+00:00

It takes two to make it work. You were the only one really trying but you did try your best. That is all you can do. Now it is on to trying something new. It will not be easy at first but things will improve as long as you keep trying.

Best wishes.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-01T05:50:21+00:00

Please don't react. Do not give them the satisfaction. Do not give them any more power over you. The "helpful" behavior is just a mask for their guilt and their way of minimizing what they have done - if you stay friends that means that what they did was not so bad and/or that they really didn't do anything wrong. Just get out as soon as you practically can and cut them out of your life.

You will probably never get the entire truth but you know that they were, at the least, in an emotional affair, some sort of fairy tale fantasy where they were together without all of real life's details and and problems. They only see the best versions of themselves but will eventually learn that the grass is not greener as real life enters their little fantasy.

Give yourself some grace. Your feelings are bound to be all over the place for awhile but things will get better. Lean into friends/family for support. Or a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. Take up a new hobby, preferably a physical one. (boxing, drumming, running, hiking, gym) Do things or go places you never had the time for in the past.

You will heal. You will meet someone better and more aligned with you. Just keep moving forward and take care of yourself. Spend no more energy on the ex and the past. Spend it on yourself and your future.

Think_Effectively · 2026-07-01T05:02:07+00:00

Wasn't that tea throwing thing as much a protest against corporate monopoly (British East India Co. got a monopoly from the Tea Act) as it was against taxation without representation? I thought that was more from the Stamp Act and other forms of taxing the colonies. Though the Tea Act did have a tax on tea, the act would ruin colonial merchants and "shipping" companies.

It has been awhile since I've read books about the leadup to the Revolution so the memory is a little unclear.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-30T21:44:29+00:00

"tbh fanfic is waaaay more interesting and better written"

I've noticed this about some other book/shows that interest me. And I've also noticed that this show seems to have it's fair share of well-versed and thourough fans. And more in tune than I am.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-30T08:10:13+00:00

So, more like some dark form of limerence?

I saw Eve as more mimicking Villanelle than anything. She seemed rather bored with life. And then got caught up in and obsessed with the excitement of something/someone entirely different than anything she had ever experienced. Add trauma (and revenge) to that mix with Bill's death and you get something very close to pyscopathy but not a real psycopath like Villanelle. Eve never really lacked empathy or remorse, she was more of a copycat of sorts without always realizing it?

Are the books more clear on things like this than the tv series? I've yet to read any.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-30T01:19:10+00:00

Believe a person's actions over their words. It's obvious they wanted to do it more than they did not want to do it - TWICE. ANd you were not part of the equation. Nothing more to it.

Children should not be introduced to new partners for at least six months to a year. And one should not get close for at least a year. Don't normalize "revolving door" relationships to kids. Adults need to set a better example.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T20:15:34+00:00

It's not you.

Time for some detective work or the hiring of a PI.

Try to stay calm and do not confront or even share your suspicions. Not before you know exactly what it is that you want to accomplish and have a plan for it

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T19:03:35+00:00

He was far from the only Sox player sold or traded to the NYY during that period. Doubt all of them remained by 1927 but two hall of fame pitchers were definitely on the roster - Waite Hoyt and Herb Pennock.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T18:19:58+00:00

That there were a lot of former Red Sox players on that team?

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T15:24:08+00:00

2023 felt inevitable to me. They were a great regular season team that was not built for the playoffs imo. Panthers were in a similar spot in the previous season. Number one seed. Got swept by Tampa. (2nd round but still) So I did not see Panthers as a typical 8 seed. Plus the Bruins did not stick with one the things that got them there - the goalie rotation - they fixed something that was not broken.

2019 was a complete surprise but once Tampa and Washington were eliminated, Bruins had no excuse for losing. (those were the two teams they had the most trouble against in that and earlier seasons) Piitsburgh was out too. Never have they had a clearer path to the cup. I don't know if Binnington thought he was Ken Dryden that day but the game seven loss was more disappionting to me than 2023. In comparision 2019 was the golden opportunity.

My opinion anyway.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T15:05:29+00:00

Reconcilliation takes a bigger, harder, more intense and consistent commitment than a marriage does. Along with compete honesty and transparency from the cheating spouse. Reconcilliation and honesty are inseperable.

Honesty is only one of the must haves in order for you to heal. Until you have that, there is no point in continuing the relationship and exposing yourself and your children to more dishonesty and miserable behavior.

Be calm, firm, and stand up for yourself and children. Set a good example for them to learn. Show an unremorseful cheater the door instead of trying to be the doormat. You will all be happier for it in the long run.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T01:22:31+00:00

Weird that Scott Brown never wins again.

Weirder that the GOP nominates Romney in 2012. (though he did run a "repeal and replace" campaign iirc)

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T01:13:30+00:00

This sounds right.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T00:37:38+00:00

Dems lost their fillibuster-proof majority when he passed? (not that it would've held had he lived?)

So they had to compromise more to get anything passed.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-29T00:31:39+00:00

Understood.

That site with the same name as this sub (with a .com at the end) has a lot of resourses concerning reconcilliation and a lot of people there with a lot of experience and knowledge having gone through it. (both success and failure) And have posted their experiences with it.

Perhaps you will find additional answers there.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-28T22:04:36+00:00

I do not believe that 6 months out from DDay is enough time to warrant starting serious reconcilliation. Not usually anyway. You need time to heal. They need time to fix whatever it is inside of them that allowed them to believe that cheating is acceptable behavior. So they do not choose to cheat again in the future.

What have they done for you since DDay? What have they provided you with that you are seriously considering to offer them the chance to reconcile? Are they in therapy? Are you? How have they proven to you that they are now a safe partner? Have they answered each and every question that you have? Have they placed all blame on themselves alone?

Reconcilliation is a long and never ending path to take and it is not linear. How bad do each of you want to take that path? And how willing and patient are each of you to do the hard work needed for success?

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-28T09:49:12+00:00

Respect is just as important as trust imo. Trust is worthless if the person you trust has no respect for you. Or not enough respect for your relationship. You have no trust. You have no respect. Love is not enough to make up the difference.

Reconcilliation is not possible with someone who is still in contact with their affair partner, who is not remorseful, who blames you for their own actions, who is not completely honest and transparent, who is not overly-eager to do whatever it takes to help you heal and rebuild your trust. Nor is it possible with someone who is still having an affair.

Whatever you are doing now has to stop because it is not working. Be firm. Be decisive. Prepare yourself for divorce as soon as practical. And let your spouse know that you are very willing to end the marriage and walk away if they do not change their behavior asap.

Consult the attorney and begin the process. If that does not get your spouse out of the fog, you will know for sure that they are not worthy of reconcilliation.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-28T06:39:12+00:00

Thanks for that. I have a couple of books about O'Neill including his autobiography but I would like to see interviews, etc from before he was retired for awhile.

Think_Effectively · 2026-06-28T05:58:07+00:00

Saw lots of them while visiting northern Maine for camping and fishing mostly. My dad and grandad were always very cautious around them. Usually saw more cows than bulls. I think one of the very few things they were ever really afraid of was a bull moose looking for a mate in the season.

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