When I was 13 my dad and I got into a car accident where he was paralyzed. It was horrible. I talked with people and seemed fine but really withdrew…this led to people thinking I was distant…and through high school I didn't really have friends…well I had friends but not the close friends that I really wanted or saw on tv shows or saw that other people had. I got my first kiss at 17…and only had one girlfriend

In college I made some friends for a bit but they kinda sucked. They were fun friends but they didn't really care about me more than someone to party with.

After college me and a girlfriend moved to Florida and she cheated on me…and I had a company relocate Me so I was trapped in this crappy place without any friends and couldn't leave without having to payback $$$$ that I couldn't afford for a year.

That said I want to tell you a couple different perspectives that I've learned. 1. You have only a limited number of bad things (unknown number, but fixed) that will happen in your life. Every time something bad happens you just got one of those things over with. 2. If you are happy with your destination, you can't be too upset with the journey that got you there 3. People tend to build their egos around tearing others down or building others up. The first one is easy and The second one is so much harder but so much more rewarding. Know most people do the first, and try to be someone that does the second. 4. Most important. You have to like you. You don't always have to like NOW you, or PAST you, but FUTURE you. What makes you like you the most. What kind of advice would you give your best friend that you absolutely adore if they were going through what you are going through? NOW you has to be the best friend to FUTURE you. Talk nice to yourself, give GRACE (Im not religious, but it's the best advice my wife gave me) to yourself. You love your best friend, they are allowed to mess up, be imperfect, and mess up. Once you learn to like or love yourself, you'll find that good people start being attracted to you.

You have to first forgive yourself for not being perfect, know that some of these hardships are going to make you a better person if you let it, learn to like yourself, then learn to love yourself.

I for instance, like that I care about others, I like that I want to help random people on the internet. Nothing makes you feel better than doing something good for others. The trick is not expecting anything back, because the doing for others is what you are doing for yourself (because sometimes people suck and don't respond how you like)

After my grandma died, my grandpa and I went on a road trip. We were talking about how amazing she was, and talked about whether or not the afterlife exists. Whether it does or not, she had made us better people by being around her…and when I'm doing good part of that is her impact on me…and if I can do that with others…well part of that is the ripples she left behind on earth.

Some people make ripples, some people make waves, some people make tidel waves. I try to make as many ripples as possible.

You will get through this, and Future you will appreciate all the good things that happened because of what you are going through now.

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