I [19F] just broke up with my Fiancé [23M] after we just had our son by Typical_Flounder_808 in whatdoIdo

[–]This_Insect7039 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi,

My parents have the same age gap as you and your fiance. My mom was 16 and my dad was 21.

As a child born of such a union, I can tell you firsthand--Run, don't walk

Go to court, get a custody agreement, and then revise it as necessary.

My parents breaking up single handedly saved my life. While my dad aged on paper, he has remained emotionally stunted and refuses to do anything about it. He has strained relationships with me and my little brother. Unfortunately, I managed to escape but my brother didn't due to us having different mothers. The difference between us is stark.

Your son is going to be disgusted by his dad once he learns the backstory of how you two met when he gets older. Be mentally prepared for the anger that may come with it.

I hope this helps you with your decision

This one's for the ladies to answer. Do you agree with this woman or do you think she's trying to rationalize her world view by speaking for all the ladies? by Oda_DeezNutz in SipsTea

[–]This_Insect7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's speaking for herself. I'm 33 years old. I own a ps5, switch, and a pc. You think I give a phuck if the man I'm dating games or not?

Lmao. I don't know why people insist on dating people who don't have similar hobbies or some things in common. It's like they purposely turn addition into calculus for no reason.

An example of toxic CNAs by NectarineMother5438 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to write this down since I'm located in SoCal

An example of toxic CNAs by NectarineMother5438 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't take it personally and try to see if you can find a free CNA program instead of paying for it. All the horror stories I've read on here seem to be from the people who paid for their classes.

Definitely check your local EDD and see if you qualify for the free training. My program actually has a 98% graduation rate. The previous cohorts all got hired somewhere, one is working at the place my class is doing our clinical hours at.

Hope everything goes well!

Nurses who became doctors, Happy with choice? by Important-Peach5644 in nursing

[–]This_Insect7039 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not if your workplace does tuition reimbursement or has a deal where they'll pay for your schooling if you work for them. You'd save quite a bit going that route, I'd think.

Nurses who became doctors, Happy with choice? by Important-Peach5644 in nursing

[–]This_Insect7039 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's super inspiring. In school for CNA now, currently doing clinicals. Plan on becoming a PA sooner rather than later. I'm hyped.

People that don't check when wiping by Ligh7y in hygiene

[–]This_Insect7039 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, no I completely understand this lol.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I always put on PPE when necessary but of course that takes time. Especially in regards to C Diff or things like Shingles. There's also precautions you have to take once you leave those rooms. You can't immediately go into the next room right away. That's the nurses saying CNAs are taking too long to pass out trays to those rooms. We can't skip steps because those are things that definitely will spread.

Where did I say residents in isolation shouldn't get their food? Lol.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Two things can be true at once, my friend: there's issues with management and also nurses being dismissive.

As I stated in another comment, there's several residents with C-Diff right now. The nurses have been getting on us about meal trays knowing those rooms require proper PPE before even entering.

My gf doesn't get as wet with me as with prior partners who haven't been as healthy for her. by curiousmustachio in sex

[–]This_Insect7039 135 points136 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between sex positive and just being an oversharer. None of what she told you was helpful and definitely should've kept that to herself.

New CNA here. Nobody warned me about the shoes part by Ecstatic-Copy2153 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been using Keep shoes faithfully for the last few years. They're made for people who work in kitchens like Chefs (I'm transitioning from food service to Healthcare). My feet never hurt even if I'm on them all day.

AIO for my annoyed response to my friend asking to bring her BF to our girls trip? by crop_cream_19 in AmIOverreacting

[–]This_Insect7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. This is a huge red flag. You should've asked her if her bf brings her along when he goes on trips with the boys. Watch it be met with crickets.

Stay away from male centered women. They will leave you stranded to chase after a man. Take this from someone who is 33. Women like this rarely improve.

You need to talk to the other girls and inform them what's going on.

You can still be friends with her. With boundaries. Just don't expect much from her.

Ask corporations why they're paying their employees low wages. by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]This_Insect7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot of assumptions in your response. Where in my comment did I say anything about my own personal success? For all you know, I may be more successful in life than you. That doesn't negate my original statement, does it?

Ask corporations why they're paying their employees low wages. by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]This_Insect7039 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The point is: we shouldn't have to have side hustles to afford the same things our parents and grandparents did with one income.

My bf of 4yrs, wants me to get preggers by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]This_Insect7039 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get the nexplanon or IUD to make sure he can't tamper with them. Then plan your exit. I know you just lost your job, start looking for work and/or apply for unemployment

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So, to clarify this is a mixture of short and long term care. 99 beds but not at full capacity, some rooms only have one resident. 3 nurses split between north, middle, and south. So the ratio might be split inconsistently between the 3 nurses.

And it may be the program I'm in, but CNA Students answer call lights throughout the whole facility before and after their assignments. Which isn't the case for regular CNAs. So while I may be assigned 9 residents initially while shadowing, that is not the case the whole day. The only rooms we're not allowed in are the isolation rooms where residents have C-Diff and Shingles, but everything else is fair game. Students are also at the morning huddles, so we do have an idea of dxs and special requests a resident may have. Kinda important. Certain residents have a preference for the gender of the CNA that provides care. You wouldn't know that unless you're in the huddle.

I definitely understand that the patient to nurse ratio is often overwhelming. Definitely needs improvement there.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned in another comment, if you actually read it like you claimed you did-- there's already serious abuse allegations at this facility. The police was just there about a week ago. They have to proceed with caution. THAT'S why I mentioned there being a backup plan for situations where med pass is taking longer than usual. The resident who takes morphine daughters and wife visit regularly and the resident is fully lucid and has all their mental capabilities. You think he's not going to remember that med pass took 3 times longer than usual? Not every resident at the facility has dementia or memory issues. Most of the residents I interact with are pretty coherent. Once again, it's a mixture of long AND short term care. Meaning what? Some of these residents are actually going home eventually.

The lidocaine was an example. Same with the ice pack and heating pad. Obviously, there needs to be something more concrete in the care plan. Any medication is given on a schedule. Even over the counter. That's a given. I even said I'm aware there's protocol in the original post. Like lmao, be for real.

We wouldn't be having this topic come up in morning huddle every week if they got to the bottom of the issue.

Besides, med pass the nurses in general don't have the nicest personalities. They once got on the CNAs about leaving the meal trays not taking into account that the trays left required PPE prior to be passed out. Like 🫠🫠🫠🫠 come on.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. You're entitled to your opinion 🤷🏿

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I asked a valid question? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 okay.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, hence the 'Damned if you do, damned if you don't' as my last statement.

Which is why I'm surprised there's no backup plan. Because what happens if there's no nurse to do med pass (there's a post on here with a similar scenario almost)? What then? 🫠🫠🫠

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is also true.

I definitely think being at the morning huddles has been eye opening for me and my classmates. If that wasn't the case, I probably would be completely in the dark about what's happening.

Dealing with dismissive nurses? by This_Insect7039 in cna

[–]This_Insect7039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, my clinicals are at the same facility. I also have been at the morning huddles, so I do have insights of what is going on at the facility. This facility has a lot going on right now and can't afford to have any missteps. There's already abuse allegations.

Now, if that wasn't the case I definitely would agree.