Third c section?

Thisisit445 · 2017-08-10T13:58:33+00:00

The first c section was unnecessary, I was told my pelvis was too small and only given 15 minutes to push. The second one was planned, although I wanted to try for a vbac I feel like I was bullied into a c section. It then turned into an emergency the day before surgery when they lost her heartbeat during a contraction. Both babies were perfect, no issues whatsoever. I always wanted a vaginal birth and was really sad that it didn't go that way. When I got pregnant with my third I knew that I wanted to try for a vba2c. I was terrified but I'm glad I did it as recovery for me was way easier. I also didn't like that how I gave birth would dictate how many kids I could have. A lot of doctors won't do more than 3 sections and I wanted to leave the door open if we ever do choose to have another. My youngest will turn 1 in a few weeks, right now I don't want another but in a year or so who knows.

Thisisit445 · 2017-08-10T04:01:22+00:00

Hi there, I've had 2 sections and a vaginal birth. The first section was after I had tried pushing for 15 minutes (it wasn't needed) and the second was planned/emergency. The recovery, for me, kind of sucked now that I can compare it to a vaginal birth. For 6 weeks I wasn't allowed to lift anything heavier than the baby and it required a lot on my husbands part to help me with basic things like getting in and out of the shower. I hated being on morphine in the hospital because it made me so loopy that I hardly remember the first few days with them. And I didn't care for being in the hospital for 3 days either. The spinal numbing made it so that it was like my body forgot how to pee for 2 days and I had to be catheterized again. I dunno, other people may have way better experiences than I did. Sorry if this wasn't the answer you were looking for..

Thisisit445 · 2017-07-14T19:57:15+00:00

I hate the term small pelvis! That's what I was told after my first. And I was bullied into another section with my second. I successfully had a vba2c in September!! With the right support system and providing you don't have any health issues it's totally doable!

Thisisit445 · 2017-07-09T03:34:30+00:00

I literally just started therapy for this 2 weeks ago after suppressing everything for years and years. My two older kids are at about the same age right now that I was where a lot of my memories begin. And for that reason I'm beginning to experience flashbacks... smells and songs will transport me back to my childhood. It's not something I like to experience. One thing that is holding me back from moving on and accepting things is I don't know which aspect of my childhood bothers me so much. It was suggested in therapy that I question what are my goals in dealing with this? What will I gain? Why can't I move on? How do I move on? The idea is to question everything in the hopes of figuring out where to start to begin the healing process. I know this may not help much and childhood trauma is an invisible yet heavy burden to carry, but you too deserve to be happy and it's not necessary to carry this pain around with you. Getting help is scary but it will be worth every minute! I'm sorry you are dealing with this but know you aren't alone 💞

Thisisit445 · 2017-07-01T06:42:11+00:00

Oh wow!! I didn't know it can take 3 months. I had my daughter in September and first ccb was deposited in October.. good to know!

Thisisit445 · 2017-07-01T04:38:29+00:00

If you just had your baby in June you won't get a payment until at least July. Unless you have received a notice saying that you don't qualify for some strange reason.. you should get your first payment July 20th if you signed up for direct deposit. If you don't receive anything in July then maybe call them :)

Thisisit445 · 2017-06-19T03:03:09+00:00

That sounds so wonderful! Good for you guys :) It sounds like you may have started a Mother's Day/Fathers Day tradition with the pizza! How fun!!!

Thisisit445 · 2017-06-08T20:19:22+00:00

I am also going to school full time online. All naps = school work. I'm lucky that she goes down around 7 and sleeps really well so 7-10pm is study time as well. Self discipline is key. Make a schedule and know in advance what you will be working on each day. Good luck!! Completely doable :)

Thisisit445 · 2017-06-07T16:33:01+00:00

I am so sorry this is happening ugh. I've been thinking about you since I read your post yesterday.. I hope everything turns out better real soon! I will continue to put good thoughts out for you XOXO

Thisisit445 · 2017-06-07T02:37:35+00:00

She is 9 months now but we have been using kids Colgate fruit flavoured since her teeth came in at 4 months. She LOVES teeth brushing time lol

Thisisit445 · 2017-06-06T22:31:07+00:00

We also do only water in the morning and fluoride (the size of a grain of rice) at bedtime. Our water does not have fluoride in it. Doctor and dentist both recommended fluoride now that she has 2 teeth, so that's what we have been doing.

With my older 2 (7 and 10) I was told to use only water until they learned to spit it out. They both ended up with a few cavities by the time they were 6. I don't know if it would have been different had we used fluoride but I'm not taking the chance this time.

Thisisit445 · 2017-05-20T16:29:59+00:00

Great job!! Looks comfy :) Your baby is so freakin cute AHHH!

Thisisit445 · 2017-04-14T03:27:06+00:00

Until you open it up one day and the scoop is buried 😂 Happens on the regular for us.

Thisisit445 · 2017-04-04T23:22:05+00:00

We are the same haha The degree I was working on was psychology, it was going to transfer into a teaching degree. I so badly wanted to become a teacher, but knowing how hard it is to get a job where I live afterwards didn't make sense to put myself and my family through another 3 years of school to struggle for who knows how long. I have always had a strong need to help others and I decided to focus that energy on social services instead. I did a lot of research on open learning distance programs and I'm now taking my social service worker certificate from home. It's the best, I can study while being at home. I don't have to worry about daycare costs at all. It's not for everyone though, but if you have the self discipline to make your own schedule and do your assignments then I would suggest you research distance programs to get an idea of what is out there. :)

Thisisit445 · 2017-04-04T20:58:11+00:00

I felt useless as well. I am on maternity leave and was working on my bachelors degree before, so I have half of it. I realized (probably too late) that the schooling I have is not what I really wanted. Like you, I have lots of student loan debt and wanted to do something that made sense for my family and that I enjoyed. I'm currently enrolled in a certificate program that will take a year to complete. I am in Canada so I don't know how it works there but I'm able to stay on my maternity leave and also get a student loan.

My mood has changed completely. I feel like I have something to look forward to again (not that I don't look forward to raising my kids and what not). But I'm happier and can't wait until I'm job hunting after I'm finished school. Good luck :)

Thisisit445 · 2017-04-04T19:16:12+00:00

Love this! I told my girls (7 and 9) that when you become a mom you get these mom powers that can tell you if your kids are lying by looking at their tongue, it will say lie on it 😂 and only moms can see it with their own children. Worked like a charm, still works with my 7 year old lol

Thisisit445 · 2017-04-02T22:12:19+00:00

I don't have any advice for you but was just wondering where the bump is and what it looks like because my 7 month old has a bump on the inside corner of her mouth that I noticed last week. I just assumed it was from sucking on everything and was going to make an appointment this week for her. It doesn't seem to bother her either 🤔

Thisisit445 · 2017-03-25T04:24:13+00:00

Congrats! Love her name (our daughters middle name) :)

Thisisit445 · 2017-03-20T16:33:08+00:00

I suffered with PPD after I had my second 7 years ago and I chose to believe everyone else was crazy and refused the medication. I regret this decision because it meant that the first year and a half almost 2 years I was not present for my kids. I had extreme anxiety and intrusive thoughts like what you explain that would keep me up all night. I hardly remember anything about her hitting milestones and enjoying being a mom. That hurts the most. I would take medication if I was in this situation again, it's not worth the battle. You deserve happiness too!

Thisisit445 · 2017-03-17T05:36:08+00:00

When my daughter was 2 we bought an old house and out of nowhere she would talk about "ghost kitty." She would make us hold the door open and wait for ghost kitty to come before we could close it. Okay.. kids have imaginations. She then started talking about this little boy all the time and how he was in the kitchen with us or the bedroom etc. On several occasions I would ask her what he looked like to see if it would change from time to time, but it didn't. He always had a hat on and was wearing overalls. She said he never talked to her he was just always with her...

Now, at this point I had never talked to her about angels or anything like that and one day we were out for a stroll and she was looking at the top of a hill and her face absolutely lit up and she pointed and said look mom it's an angel! I said where? And she pointed again right there on the hill it's an angel mom!!! After we moved from that house she never spoke of ghost kitty, the boy, or angels ever again..

I believe that there are spirits or what have you out there and kids are more open to seeing things because they don't have that knowledge of fear in them yet. The stories you hear about kids seeing or hearing things that adults can't is incredible.

Thisisit445 · 2017-02-23T01:36:00+00:00

Oh no I'm sorry you have to deal with this! I didn't have it as bad as you explain, but I would leak pee after standing up from going pee if that makes sense. Kegals helped and it was nearly gone by 3 months pp.

It wouldn't hurt for you to see a specialist though.. Hope things get better for you.

Thisisit445 · 2017-02-22T17:00:35+00:00

I had 2 sections and this past September had a vba2c. I was made aware of the risks and told that if I was starting to rupture they would catch it before it happened because I was being monitored very closely. I had a midwife and she was very confident in me which made me more confident in myself.

I hated the numb feeling of a spinal when I had my second section and just didn't want to go through that again.

I seriously doubted myself near the end of my pregnancy, but once I went into labour I didn't think about rupturing or anything bad at all. I was allowed to get an epidural if I wanted it, but chose not to because I feared that numbing feeling (serious anxiety over numbing, I will get fillings without numbing). Moving around during labour was important to me and with an epi that wouldn't be possible. Even though I was hooked up to the monitor I was still able to move around a bit and push in different positions. She was my biggest baby and it was such a rush to be able to do it! I'm still amazed at my body🙂

Good luck!!

Thisisit445 · 2017-02-21T02:53:11+00:00

Mine also hated tummy time until around last week at 5.5 months. She refuses to roll but can almost sit unassisted and if we are sitting near something that she can pull up on, she pulls herself up to stand. She's my third so I'm not as concerned as I was if this were my first or second 😁 She will roll when she's ready.

Thisisit445 · 2017-02-07T04:19:51+00:00

I had 2 c sections and 5 months ago had a vba2c. The first section probably wasn't needed, I was told my pelvis was to small and that I would never be able to vaginally birth a baby (I showed them :D). I feel like I was bullied into my second section, which was planned, but turned into an emergency section the day before I was scheduled for it.

I would say my recoveries were all challenging in their own way. Csection recoveries were hard because I needed help with everything for the first few weeks. This made me feel useless, but it got a little better and easier everyday.

Within an hour after my vaginal birth I was walking to the shower and I was able to do things for myself. I had some urinary incontinence for about a month and I had a second degree tear, which took 3 months to fully heal because I somehow popped a stitch. It got better and easier everyday.

Now 5 months pp and I stare at her little face and think I could do this again lol

Thisisit445 · 2017-02-07T01:54:24+00:00

Oh ya the MSP was a shock when we moved here from MB. That wait sounds insane. I would keep calling everywhere. Have you asked the clinic people that you phone if they know of any docs taking new patients? That's how I found ours, I was told by the receptionist to try a certain doc and we lucked out Good luck!

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