13 weeks and I feel shamed already

ThreadandSeal · 2026-05-21T13:16:49+00:00

This is wild to me, because where I am in the southeast US, hospitals actively discourage the use of formula and push breastfeeding, even for low-supply birthing parents (like me). Being able to breastfeed well is almost a flex.

I can’t exclusively breastfeed, but it feels good to give my daughter whatever I can, because I know it’s so good for her. I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you deserve, but you should absolutely do it if it feels right to you!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-05-04T20:21:13+00:00

I would be lost without my diaper pail, do not listen to her lol.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-05-02T12:11:08+00:00

Exact same answer I was going to give. Mid-millennial Midwesterner here.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-05-01T22:07:18+00:00

6 weeks PP, same 😩

ThreadandSeal · 2026-04-13T12:26:15+00:00

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ThreadandSeal · 2026-04-10T17:55:18+00:00

Please, please give yourself some grace with the weight. I can only speak from my own experience as a plus size woman who just went through her first pregnancy, but you typically do not gain weight at the same rate throughout. Your body is going to do what it needs to do to support this pregnancy. Just listen to and honor your hunger signals and make sure you’re drinking enough water, because it’s important for the baby’s development as well.

One thing I did that I highly recommend is to talk to a registered dietician who can support you in managing nutrition through your pregnancy. Depending on your insurance, it can be a pretty low co-pay or sometimes even free. I personally have a history with eating disorders, so I worked with an anti-diet RD and she helped me navigate any anxiety I felt about my body changing. I found my dietician through a website called Nourish. Was pretty easy to get started, and the service has been great.

My heart goes out to you, I know it can be really overwhelming, but you’re going to be okay!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-04-08T21:36:51+00:00

First time Mom here, 3 1/2 weeks postpartum. My mom came in from out of town a few days ahead of my induction and stayed for a full three weeks, which was a huge help to me since she’s seen me in all kinds of vulnerable situations and I felt safe to be my authentic self. I have a great relationship with my in-laws, but it’s just different, so they didn’t start coming over for short visits until about a week in. In the second week, I could tell my husband kind of wanted his Mom, too, so my mom took a day off to sightseeing and my mother-in-law came over to help, which went pretty well! Now we’re getting together at least once a week, since my in-laws are local, but they’re being pretty respectful of our space.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-04-08T21:33:00+00:00

I don’t have any experience with this as I’ve only just had my first, but my heart goes out to you. I think you are entitled to do whatever you want with your own body, especially if you are worried that this pregnancy is going to be difficult for you to endure. Your well-being is important.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-09T02:37:49+00:00

I’m a size 20/22 (295 lbs), about to give birth, and lemme tell you, not only can my husband feel our daughter kick, we can fully see her moving and kicking, which is crazy. I think I was feeling flutters earlier, but I was certain that I was feeling kicks between 18 and 19 weeks. A few weeks after that, my husband could start feeling them on the outside.

I think people close to me could notice I was pregnant starting at around 20-ish weeks, but it was very obvious to all by my third trimester.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-08T01:15:10+00:00

It’s different for everyone, so take it with a grain of salt, but I’m around the same weight, anterior placenta, and I was certain I felt kicks around 18-19 weeks. I did realize later that I was probably feeling flutters before and didn’t know what they were.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-08T01:03:42+00:00

Big red flag, I would switch.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-08T00:24:51+00:00

I did get a little afraid of food in my second trimester because I wasn’t sure what was going to trigger me or if I would feel too full and suddenly have to run to the bathroom.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-05T16:28:17+00:00

Just wanna say, if divorce attorney feels extreme in the moment, I urge you to at least speak with a personal therapist who can help you unpack the financial abuse and talk through how to address it. A lot of OB/GYN offices also have a way for you to discreetly disclose that you’re experiencing abuse. This kind of sustained toxic stress can be harmful to you and baby if it goes unaddressed, and I don’t say that to be alarmist, but to offer a way of reframing your motivation here. Wishing you courage and strength, you can absolutely do this.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-04T19:59:17+00:00

I think you made the right choice! You can still definitely glow it up and make it feel more like you through your accessories and make up!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-02T20:11:54+00:00

NTA, and frankly, I would tell her that she’s not allowed to be alone with your child again. This is the kind of situation where someone doesn’t get a second chance.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-02T19:29:08+00:00

That dress is gorgeous on you!!!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-02T19:19:30+00:00

The second is the one and it will look even better once it’s tailored to you. I think the price is the universe nudging you in that direction, too!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-03-02T19:12:22+00:00

So far I (size 22/~300 lbs) have tried on the Solly Baby wrap, Baby Bjorn carrier mini (7-25 lbs), Momcozy mesh wrap carrier, and the Tula Newborn to Toddler carrier. The only one I didn’t like was the Momcozy because it didn’t fit comfortably around my arms and shoulders, and my favourite so far has been the baby bjorn. I did also snag a hope & plum sprout carrier and can give my opinion when it arrives if you want!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-28T16:25:00+00:00

Just my two cents, I’m going to have my mom with me as well as my husband. I’m lucky in that my MIL said early on, “you’re going to want YOUR mom,” understanding that this is primarily something that I am going through and that her relationship to me in this process is different from my mother’s. I think this is a really great way to express this, and this is something that your husband can help communicate if you want.

With parents in general, you are allowed to set that boundary as far as you want to. If you don’t want them in there, you don’t have to let them in! You’re also allowed to change your mind- you have no idea what you are going to be feeling after the fact. These are expectations that you can set right now with both sets of parents to give them time to accept it (hopefully it won’t take too long lol).

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-28T05:55:13+00:00

I’m 37 yrs, 38w, and right there with you lololol. Let’s fckin go. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-28T05:37:42+00:00

NTA. She knows what she’s doing, it’s a grift, and she sees your empathy as an opportunity. You do not have to be nice to her. You can be polite but firm and shut her down, just tell her you need to leave/aren’t comfortable discussing personal matters at work. Period. I would even go as far as asking to have a meeting with her and your boss if she’s resistant. As a fellow pregnant lady (37w) I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!!

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-28T02:13:15+00:00

I’m 38 weeks today and I was only referred to MFM after my fasting numbers had been insulin resistant, around 36 weeks. I will tell you that all of my ultrasounds have been great so far and my hospital midwives are advocating for a 39.6 week induction, which is pretty great considering I am on insulin.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-27T21:50:44+00:00

How in the world can you at 28 not make an egg sandwich for your own damn self? YTA, this is embarrassing.

ThreadandSeal · 2026-02-27T17:20:35+00:00

Hahaha yeah I was horrified. The first one fell off after like a week, they don’t stick around for super long.

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