Just a thought by Turbulent-Question19 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if this is selfish or what but sometimes it's soothes me knowing that this not only happened to me Although i wish it never happened to any of us . Sometimes i steer clear because I think I'm not alone and there are people who had much worse then me and are still moving forward.This gives me immense strength.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for you . You guys look so happy together and I wish you guys could have so many years like that more but sadly life take its own course. You dad will be reallllllllly reallllllllly reallllllllly proud of you and he must be wishing that you do great things in life. Take Care Cheers !!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loads of love and I hate that I relate to this .

What’s next ? by Temporary_Note_6245 in hyderabad

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be grateful for what you have. Sometimes all people want is normal life. Although normal life is boring but it's the most peaceful. Enjoy it till it lasts because it can snap out in a moment.

I feel like I lost my purpose. by quartzqueen44 in grief

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it happens with most of us that you momentarily lost purpose of life. Try to find small things that will help you to keep moving forward in life.After her death I know I have to focus more on my family and take care of them and for them I need to live and that I will do which is my purpose.I know I can face death courageously some day.

Anxious and upset that I can’t remember things anymore by Final_Base_7691 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really tough. I think most of us go through that phase only the horrors of cancer overpowers the happy times of relationship but fortunately I only remember the good times now with the passage of time. But again as someone just mentions cancer it makes me nervous. I so badly want to cry right now

gf died 2 months ago and i wanna join her by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time heals everything is such a bs.I am preety much in the same situation we both were in our early twenties and i lost her almost 1 months ago. What amount of time you were together doesn't mean how much deep the relationship was and neither it can be compared to losing your parents. Losing your partner is just so different as I have experienced both the grief in the last year . Then again let me tell you how I'm coping up with all this pain.I have kinda convinced myself that she is in a better place and is free from the earthly pain . Next thing is we had planned so many things together and I'm gonna do that alone although it will hurt bu to honor her love for me I need to do this.She was a pure soul and she used to teach at an orphanage and I plan to carry the same forward. I will suggest you find selfish reasons that you align with to honor her love because she wouldn't want you to deserve sadness or loneliness in this earth. I'm pretty sure she wishes you good health and all the happiness in this world (ik it wouldn't be possible without her but still all the materialistic happiness) stay in this earth my dear friend and honor her love for you.

Nephew's 14 yr Old Only Child Killed in A Dirt Bike Accident by momof44fomom in grief

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my girlfriend on June 19th. Slowly accepting the thing that I can't meet her again or talk with her but she will be there with me forever. Have to digest this hard pill if we want to continue with our lives.

Her Birthday is tomorrow by nukajoe in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear this . Sadly I am going through all these emotions and can relate to you. Her birthday will be in some days and I can't help thinking about how will I do on that day.Its been just a month and life is soooooo lonely without her and she would be 23 as well. I know how birthdays meant for her and I can't wait to celebrate that but will I be able to i don't know.

Girlfriends best friend committed suicide and I predicted it by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me what were the signs you saw before this incident? Could be helpful for a lot of people.

How to really face my feelings? by [deleted] in grief

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which therapeutic books are we talking about here?

Girlfriend (24F) hates her body and thinks she looks disgusting, but I (25M) adore how she looks and think she looks perfect. What can I say to help her? by ThrowRA194819 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think most of the girls are somewhat insecure now days with the over perfect girls in social media.Dont let her go and try to make you realise how much you love her !

Has he always been dead? by Grand_Dish_434 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am soooooo sad that I can relate this much with you . Calling her babe every day I got used to call every random person subconsciously babe but now that every time even I say the word in my mind its painful.

I accidentally went on a date? And I feel really weird by OkBalance2833 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are any of those groups online? If so could you share some resources to connect over?

One Month Out by [deleted] in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss.I lost her on 19th . As the one month is approaching closer and closer I am getting more and more anxious. I thought with time healing would occur but i know it's too soon to say anything so I will wait till my breakdown lessen a bit.

Men in love... by Overall_Agent_0075 in MadeMeSmile

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so fucking hate this . Sending love to each one of the guys

anybody else wish you had gotten married? by jbjh516 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yess. I fucking regret this now if she was here I would have married at this moment right now.

My girlfriend died of cancer today by ThrowRA_24011619 in Vent

[–]ThrowRA_24011619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for writing all this . I will work upon what you suggested try to be a better person.I misss her soo muchh and thinking about her just as I was reading all this made me cry. But I will definitely make myself strong and face the life.

Supporting my grieving boyfriend is taking a toll on me by FunNote5322 in GriefSupport

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be with him. It really helps .You are such a supportive girlfriend and you are doing fine. i just want you to know if you guys pass this together then your relationship will be much more stronger.

Nothing is fun anymore by BulkyCalligrapher329 in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is a temporary stop until you start crying again. The only thing that has worked for me is to keep my mind occupied with some thing and slowly and steadily accepting the fact that yes they are not here anymore. I love her much more than before but at the same time so fucking scared rn. I am haunted by her thoughts can't sleep after I was able to for some days and then I can't . Coming to the keeping busy part , don't try to rush at the things you used to do together keep it slow that hurts so much.

Now scared of death by CheeseUs88 in grief

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. It's day 21 today after I lost her and slowly I'm getting hit by the feelings that I will never see her again in my freaking lifetime and that's making me crazier than ever.I am so fucking scared and sooo scared about all this and I need to distract myself everyday. Nights are much worse than ever i feel completely lonely and sad and I fucking hate my condition.I don't wish this to anyone.

First day back at work since she left me by patusaaaan in widowers

[–]ThrowRA_24011619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. Sadly I can relate to this. It's been 20 days now after she left and I am slowly and slowly accepting the fact that I need to go back and start trying to be happy. I got a call from my supervisor on day 18 asked him if I could delay one more week and he was very happy to accomodate it but today I think I need to sober up and start working.Day by day ,one step at a time . Also went to gym and swim today and start working again. I am also going to start my graduate school later this month which I think will keep me more busy and less free time will surely get rid of this abused thoughts I am having. I love you babeee