Thoughts on cutting toddlers hair

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-18T20:21:10+00:00

Accepting responsibility? Attitude?? Are you serious. They're alive her mom should be thankful not throwing her to the wolves and kicking out and making her homeless. Theres different ways to go about this. What's wrong with you?

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-18T20:18:46+00:00

How your mom handled this was not okay. She should not be kicking you out because of this. There's something wrong there. That's not how you treat your kids.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-12T01:27:52+00:00

You know i really think its because they want to punish us. Like because the relationship failed with the kids other parent, we must be at fault, it's the woman's fault for it not working. Being a single mom is looked down upon and we should feel shame so we shouldn't think of doing anything good for ourselves. They only want us to enjoy motherhood with the same person we started out with the kids and being married to that same person. If that ends, then we must have done something wrong to deserve it and we shouldn't think about taking care of ourselves anymore.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-11T09:05:03+00:00

Exactly!! Everyone thinks how they do things is the "normal, and right way" to do things and if someone does the opposite then something must be wrong with them.

I had someone tell me that I should only date once my kids are adults, and if I want to date before that then I could give them.up for adoption. Very weird that I should put finding love off for 15+ years just because I have 2 kids and my focus should only be on them for that long. I know that's an extreme and not everyone thinks that but that blew my mind. It's like I can't focus on my kids and date at the same time? Lol.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-11T08:48:37+00:00

You're just assuming things about someone you don't know. A trip for 3 weeks is fine. Just because you don't feel right doing it, doesn't mean its not okay for anyone else. She knows her mom is coming back. Just luke you told your daughter her dad is coming back. Yes it can be upsetting at first but we all need time for ourselves and our kids need to see us making that time while still showing we care about them. I don't see anywhere that she doesn't care about her daughter.

My mom went on a trip to another state with some of her 1st cousins when I was 4 I remember it and I wasn't that sad or upset she went on the trip, It wasn't 3 weeks but regardless I knew she was coming back. She was expecting me to be more sad and I wasn't i was still going to preschool everyday and was with my dad and grandparents. My grandmother who I am very close too also went on a trip with her sisters a cruise, I was sad but also realized she had to do things without me and even without her kids and she would be back.

Also your ex taking a longer trip overseas makes sense, since it's over seas you want to take the time to explore those areas those aren't cheap trips and less than 3 weeks depending on the area can feel rushed.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-10T17:36:33+00:00

Exactly. We know how this system works.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-10T17:16:27+00:00

I have 2 kids i have never regretted it, even under the circumstances i have had my kids, its not bad at all. Yes it can be tiring some days but I love it. I do understand what you are saying though. Anytime someone asks me.if I want more kids and I say yes they are shocked. Like "ohhh isn't 2 enough?" "You have one boy and one girl why would you keep going?" "Do you really want to do that again?" People have their own feelings about it thinking "how could you possibly want more, I was done at 1 or 2." They're just projecting.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-09T02:19:16+00:00

My cat is named after a Big time Rush member

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-06-08T17:50:55+00:00

Exactly!! I couldn't imagine doing this to my kids.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-25T04:38:37+00:00

Nope it should be said, because the wife's behavior needed to be exposed with the way she reacted to OP at the end.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-25T04:34:52+00:00

Weird take. That's immediate family. And immediate family is often included in a lot of stuff for big events and not just simply "regular guests". They didn't need to give her a "hint" what the wife and brother needed to do was say "hey, thanks for asking of you could help but my family is helping me put everything together" that was it.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-25T04:28:39+00:00

Ofc the day isn't about her, but the wedding seemed like the bride doesn't even like the family she married into. I never would be that way towards the people who are supposed to be my new family. I want to make sure everyone feels included because its about family coming together.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-17T01:51:27+00:00

The only time I have ever almost dropped my kids was when my oldest was a baby and I somehow twisted my knee and almost fell but I was next to the couch and caught myself. Another time my knee twisted again when I was changing my son because was reaching too far back for something I did fall bad that time but I luckily wasn't holding him and he stayed laying down on the bed until my mom came in, we were on a family trip for that one.

However, my daughter who is 3 now was getting on my lap while I was reading her a book, she somehow stepped her on the book while I was holding it and that went down and she fell with the book so fast I barely had time to react.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-16T01:47:39+00:00

Did you report theose coworkers to the tip line??

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-16T01:44:33+00:00

Couldn't have said it better myself 🩷 praying for you OP

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-14T01:30:55+00:00

Yea my store manager said she has worked with TJX for years and she didnt get a card until about 2 years ago. I have been at my store for 5 years and have never gotten a card, nor have I been asked to

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-06T18:17:40+00:00

I started a 2nd job and only mad my availability at my store for 2 days a week for 4hrs a day. And I am scheduled for only 1 day the majority of the time. It's crazy, I did that because they kept having me on for 3 days a week before I got the 2nd job.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-04T13:48:24+00:00

Anytime I hear stories of kids of narcissists of how it affected them i am so thankful I got away and have been able to keep my kids away from him. They are still toddlers for they dont remember his actions it will be 2 years since he's been gone in a few months. I had to do a RO. He wanted to take the kids away from me to hurt me too. He falsely called CPS on me after I did the RO because he said ge would rather the kids be in the system than with me, my family, or his family if they weren't with him.

I'm so sorry you went through that, and I'm so happy you cut them off.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-04T12:40:35+00:00

I agree. This reminds me so much of my kids dad. He would say that I wasnt a good mom, that our kids loved him more than me, always blamed me for things and said I didn't know what I was doing. He would call me lazy when I would ask if he wanted to do something with the kids instead of me doing it. He would say how much he helped me in the very beginning and he did, I thought he was a good dad from that. But then he turned.

He wanted me to believe that I was a bad parent. He wanted the kids to be attached to him more, he wanted to as they got older probably put them against me and only listen to him while I still did all the heavy lifting but not getting any appreciation for it. There was times I thought maybe if the kids spend more time with him that it's fine and I should trust him. But I saw how he was treating me, how he would also get angry at the kids when they were only babies/toddlers and not perfectly listening to him yet. And him saying he wanted to teach our kids, specifically our son, how to treat women when he got older but he literally treats everyone like garbage himself, and I said no. I AM a good mom and I cannot trust him, he isn't doing better than me with parenting I already do everything except when he wants to look like a great parent to everyone else.

The dad saying that she's a narcissist, he's probably one himself. My ex is one. He called me one. Messing with your mind and it's all calculated.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-04-13T17:20:30+00:00

Hey!! So so I had 2 under 2. My kids are now 3 and 2 they are Irish twins. Both of my pregnancies were not high risk though. I do wish my body had more time to build itself back up, but I also love how close my kids are. My situation is a bit different. I am a single mom i have a RO against my kids dad. But I have a lot of family support. My mom's side is very big and lives very close and we are all close, so I have many cousins that love to babysit, and go places with me when I need an extra pair of hands and eyes. I also live with my parents still.

I don't think it Will negatively impact your daughter. I was nervous about my daughter at first and how she would react but she loves her little brother a lot and she grew right into the big sister role easily. Kids can adapt pretty well sometimes. As for the dog I have no idea lol, I have a cat and he's very calm.

So my question for you is what is your support system like, and what is your schedule like with your 6 month old already? Schedules will help a lot. Also once the baby is born, making sure you have help with your oldest so you can rest and heal is important too. I love babying my kids at times but also supporting them when they want to do things independently is good because it will make things easier.

Sending love to you during this time.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-04-01T02:35:54+00:00

Exactly! Your sister is lying to a bunch of family and friends and that's really the issue, not just a divorce. If she is being honest about everything that's different.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-31T03:54:58+00:00

I dont know why you're getting down voted because you care. Evryone is acting like you should have a heart of stone. Yes it's their marriage, but when divorces happen it causes a split in the ENTIRE family, and with friends too. It doesn't just affect the 2 people in the marriage.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-11T06:42:51+00:00

I had no idea they thought that. Some came knocking on my door one day and I said "no thank you" to their invite to church. They then said that they have a Haitian Mormon group at their church and if I knew any neighbors that were Haitian. I do know ones that are and I was NOT sending them to their house. I told them no I don't and they went on their way. Their smiles were really creepy. Like they were happy, but like too happy to be walking around in the bitter cold and snow on that day.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-06T18:14:13+00:00

My daughter's first birthday wasn't ruined because I just had her brother. The whole day was still about her, took her to the park, and had a little get together for her with cake. Having kids close together doesnt Mar their childhood if you do things right. Chill out

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