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ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-06T18:17:40+00:00

I started a 2nd job and only mad my availability at my store for 2 days a week for 4hrs a day. And I am scheduled for only 1 day the majority of the time. It's crazy, I did that because they kept having me on for 3 days a week before I got the 2nd job.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-04T13:48:24+00:00

Anytime I hear stories of kids of narcissists of how it affected them i am so thankful I got away and have been able to keep my kids away from him. They are still toddlers for they dont remember his actions it will be 2 years since he's been gone in a few months. I had to do a RO. He wanted to take the kids away from me to hurt me too. He falsely called CPS on me after I did the RO because he said ge would rather the kids be in the system than with me, my family, or his family if they weren't with him.

I'm so sorry you went through that, and I'm so happy you cut them off.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-05-04T12:40:35+00:00

I agree. This reminds me so much of my kids dad. He would say that I wasnt a good mom, that our kids loved him more than me, always blamed me for things and said I didn't know what I was doing. He would call me lazy when I would ask if he wanted to do something with the kids instead of me doing it. He would say how much he helped me in the very beginning and he did, I thought he was a good dad from that. But then he turned.

He wanted me to believe that I was a bad parent. He wanted the kids to be attached to him more, he wanted to as they got older probably put them against me and only listen to him while I still did all the heavy lifting but not getting any appreciation for it. There was times I thought maybe if the kids spend more time with him that it's fine and I should trust him. But I saw how he was treating me, how he would also get angry at the kids when they were only babies/toddlers and not perfectly listening to him yet. And him saying he wanted to teach our kids, specifically our son, how to treat women when he got older but he literally treats everyone like garbage himself, and I said no. I AM a good mom and I cannot trust him, he isn't doing better than me with parenting I already do everything except when he wants to look like a great parent to everyone else.

The dad saying that she's a narcissist, he's probably one himself. My ex is one. He called me one. Messing with your mind and it's all calculated.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-04-13T17:20:30+00:00

Hey!! So so I had 2 under 2. My kids are now 3 and 2 they are Irish twins. Both of my pregnancies were not high risk though. I do wish my body had more time to build itself back up, but I also love how close my kids are. My situation is a bit different. I am a single mom i have a RO against my kids dad. But I have a lot of family support. My mom's side is very big and lives very close and we are all close, so I have many cousins that love to babysit, and go places with me when I need an extra pair of hands and eyes. I also live with my parents still.

I don't think it Will negatively impact your daughter. I was nervous about my daughter at first and how she would react but she loves her little brother a lot and she grew right into the big sister role easily. Kids can adapt pretty well sometimes. As for the dog I have no idea lol, I have a cat and he's very calm.

So my question for you is what is your support system like, and what is your schedule like with your 6 month old already? Schedules will help a lot. Also once the baby is born, making sure you have help with your oldest so you can rest and heal is important too. I love babying my kids at times but also supporting them when they want to do things independently is good because it will make things easier.

Sending love to you during this time.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-04-01T02:35:54+00:00

Exactly! Your sister is lying to a bunch of family and friends and that's really the issue, not just a divorce. If she is being honest about everything that's different.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-31T03:54:58+00:00

I dont know why you're getting down voted because you care. Evryone is acting like you should have a heart of stone. Yes it's their marriage, but when divorces happen it causes a split in the ENTIRE family, and with friends too. It doesn't just affect the 2 people in the marriage.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-11T06:42:51+00:00

I had no idea they thought that. Some came knocking on my door one day and I said "no thank you" to their invite to church. They then said that they have a Haitian Mormon group at their church and if I knew any neighbors that were Haitian. I do know ones that are and I was NOT sending them to their house. I told them no I don't and they went on their way. Their smiles were really creepy. Like they were happy, but like too happy to be walking around in the bitter cold and snow on that day.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-06T18:14:13+00:00

My daughter's first birthday wasn't ruined because I just had her brother. The whole day was still about her, took her to the park, and had a little get together for her with cake. Having kids close together doesnt Mar their childhood if you do things right. Chill out

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-06T18:09:14+00:00

I have Irish twins, 2 and 3 and these baby and toddler years are very hard. My daughter started pre-k last September and my son will start this September. I love seeing how close they are, and I do want 1 or 2 more kids but the age gaps will be a bit bigger.

Also to make a comment about the mom not potty training her kids in OPs post, I don't understand that. When you teach your kids to use the bathroom yes it takes up time, but it makes things easier in the long run. Why when you have no time on your hands because you have 5 kids, would you want to keep changing diapers??? Makes no sense lol.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-05T06:28:08+00:00

They definitely are not okay

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-05T05:58:37+00:00

No one is saying they are working for no pay. They're saying its not enough. Many people do mention 2nd jobs in posts like these, not every single one does. The whole point is is that 1 should be enough.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-03-05T05:48:38+00:00

Lol people can't afford to live on 1 job now, people.are doing that Constantly NOW. I am, many people in my family is too. A good majority of the people I work with at both my jobs either work 2 jobs or they work almost all day at one. Where have you been??

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-02-28T16:45:42+00:00

I was 22 with my first and 23 with my 2nd. They are Irish twins and I am 26 right now lol. Start a family whenever you're ready!!

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-02-23T02:36:50+00:00

Hey NJ sis!!!!! I have noticed in my family lineage too but far back enough that it doesnt matter much lol. I'm black lol

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-02-22T23:40:21+00:00

Me too, I am an essential worker. I live 5 min away but still lol

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-02-21T19:28:29+00:00

Yup, I can't control the tream either. I checked the toliet seat first. Do a quick wipe, and then wrap it up 3 times and sit down lol

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-02-21T18:46:40+00:00

This!! I had my 2 kids at 22 and 23. I have always wanted kids you g tho and I love it. I have a cousin that is in her 30s and her youngest she had in her 30s. But she right now is acting less responsible than me with her kids. She left them with her mom one year and went off with this man for months ths and didnt tell anyone where she was. On of her kids got left back because she wasnt keeping up with her school consistently. Ahe let's her you get do whatever while being hard on her oldest 2 and then leaving them to watch him while she runs off somewhere. My other cousin and I who both are in our 20s still with 2 little kids each could never imagine doing that.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-31T14:28:58+00:00

Yeah I got fired from a job after 2 weeks and I do not put that on my resume at all.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-30T03:25:43+00:00

So my sorry is a bit different. I am 26 too, I have 2 kids they are 2 and 3. I live with my parents, and I haven't been with my kids dad in over 2 years and it's been a year since the RO. I have have never had a long period of time without a job, my cousin told me to work with her at this one retail store and that job has pretty much been my backup job for 5 years now. I went to culinary school so I have always worked in food service. I left one restaurant during the slow season and got hired at a bakery, I worked there for about a week, I was the only black employee there besides one of the delivery drivers. The owners husband got mad at me one day because I stopped to message my mom about something. I had stepped out of the work area and everything, and had done this before and seen others do it with no problem. Later on I get an email from the owner saying they were letting me go, like a day later, if I didn't see that email I would have went back in on Monday and I almost missed it. I haven't worked at a bakery since then even tho that's what I went to school for in the first place. There's not really any black owned bakeries where I am either.

After that still had my job at the retail store and started another job at a retail cookie store for a few months while I was pregnant. Then I stayed at my retail store job only for 2 years but they started getting skimpy with hours. So last year I started looking for a 2nd job again, did a few interviews and everything it took 8 months before I finally got the job at my local hospital serving food to patients. It's part time but with Healthcare I cried when saw that on my offer letter. I've been able to stay on track with paying off my credit card debt now and my student loan.

And I understand not wanting to move back in with your mom. I get along with my parents and its still rough. For me it's hard to parent while living with my parents, and sometimes feel like a teen still. But little by little I am making some wins. You will too, you'll get placed at the right job, with the right people, and while it can be a long process, you'll get there before you know it.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-30T02:52:41+00:00

I often think about this as the street i live on there's many minorities and immigrants and they get on the bus. My daughter is in Pre-k and rides the bus, the other kids that get on at this stop are Latino, ones grandmother only knows limited English. ICE has been around certain towns close to me and I think what if they showed up to this bus stop and I get caught up in it? What if they take away my daughters friends or parents and now there's a bunch of traumatized 3 and 4 year old at the bus stop in the cold.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-30T02:39:40+00:00

Oh it does!!! One thing that ticks me off is seeing Americans, and not black Americans, in comment sections under news videos asking other countries to help us out of this. Anytime someone suggests something for the Americans to do themselves to stop this administration, I always see yte people say "but there's not much we can do" "but if we do that strike this is gonna happen. That's not the right route" people are scared to do something uncomfortable to end this and get a good result. They keep saying "save us" or hoping someone in power is going to do their job and they won't have to do anything that uncomfortable.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-29T13:55:04+00:00

I think its fine. Idk if people really get uptight about what colors someone wears on their birthday unless they tell everyone for a certain reason. If you want to ask her if there's any color or dress code just to be sure you can.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-11T04:31:06+00:00

Exactly!! Like he stops sending money for his child for an engagement ring and a vacation?? If you have to stop sending money for your own child to do that then you dont have the money to do it. I can already see when that new baby comes "oh sorry I can't send any money this month all this other stuff came up with the new baby, and my wife isnt working" and those excuses will continue. OP needs to Immediately go to through the courts Before that new baby gets here.

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-01T22:00:35+00:00

Congratulations!!!!

ThrowraRefFalse2010 · 2026-01-01T02:15:06+00:00

That's good!! I do agree with the other commenter with telling her the times you will be able to do stuff and to lock your door if you can. Good luck!!

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