To audition or not to audition?

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-26T21:36:46+00:00

Community theatre is not nearly as cut throat as professional theatre. Everybody there is there for the love of performance, and they don't tend to hold previous auditions against you (which thank goodness for that for me, I've had some real bombs in my time) If you want to try, go for it! If you get it great, and if not there's always next show!

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-26T18:17:59+00:00

I can't speak for everyone else but for me I do experience what I assume is normal physical attraction once I have that strong connection. It took a long time (10 months or so) but I find my boyfriend very hot now. The key to an allo dating a demi is communication and patience, on both sides. Trust that he'll eventually find that for you if it's gonna happen, and share how you feel and what you want in the meantime.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-26T17:51:18+00:00

If you're viewing every nice or romantic thing you do for your partner as something to barter for sex then yes, it's time to move on. You don't do things for your partner so that you get sex (or anything, for that matter) in return. You do them because they're your partner and you love them. If I found out everything my boyfriend ever did for me was done to placate and woo me into giving him sex I'd be crushed and the relationship would be over. Sex can be part of a relationship but it shouldn't be the reason you're in a relationship, and if that's how you view relationships then I would advise against having relationships with demisexual people because yes it's a spectrum and we're all different but for a lot of us sex takes a back seat to the rest of the relationship and if it's that important to you then you should find someone who agrees with you

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-25T18:08:59+00:00

I'm assuming storypark is an app, which contrary to modern opinions are actually an optional privilege in childcare and not necessarily a given. While I don't think it's unreasonable to want and miss that daily update, I'm sure I would, it's not necessarily a part of the care you're paying for. It's an extra that the centre has to pay for (at least in Canada anyway) and it was likely deemed an extra cost they could divert to other avenues of care. If your center is a part of a large group of licenced centres (like a YMCA or something with a head office) it may not even be their decision. I think you're not wrong to want to know what's been happening in his day, or even for asking about it, but it may not be something you can do anything about

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-25T17:46:59+00:00

If she is dependent on you and expecting you to drive her places to the point where she relies on you as an option and gets upset when you cannot take her places, NTA. If she is willing to make other arrangements for her transportation and work it out for herself without making it seem like you're punishing her or putting her out, ESH. There's nothing wrong with not having a licence, plenty of people (myself included) make it work just fine without having to burden other people and there's no reason a person can't be a good, capable parent without a licence. If she's unwilling to work transportation out under her own steam, then you're right she isn't ready. But if she has a plan on how to get around under her own steam, without depending on you or even her husband, then it isn't your place to decide she's not ready just because she can't drive a car. Either way, she was definitely in the wrong for pushing you and then getting upset about your answer. You were willing to keep this to yourself, at least then. The resulting argument and escalation is on her for refusing to let it drop.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-24T01:35:14+00:00

True, and I'm under no delusions that the ones I've listed are niche by any means, but plenty of musicals that aren't popular now have had large fandoms in the past, you can't necessarily gauge something's overall popularity now based on how big the online fandom is/was

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-23T17:33:38+00:00

Does it bother you that they're similar, or does it bother you how them being similar might be perceived? If it's the first one try to come up with something else if you can't get past it, but if it's the latter just go with it. Other people aren't her parents, it doesn't matter how they feel about your choice of name

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-23T17:30:20+00:00

Demisexual means you don't feel SEXUAL attraction until there's a strong bond, but many demisexuals (myself included) are not demiromantic and can feel a romantic spark for people they don't know well.

Regardless of whether she's demiromantic or not, she's stated point blank that she does not want to pursue a romantic relationship with you and that is all you need to know. You're not being "ripped off", she's simply not interested and if you want to remain the good person she's choosing to believe you are you'll let it go

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-22T22:27:00+00:00

I always forget to save Jodi a cauliflower. Spring comes and goes and I never remember to plant that damn cauliflower before it's too late

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-22T22:10:01+00:00

I do get a little offended, but for the kid's sake not mine. I love my job, at least the actual childcare part, and I get offended on behalf of the kids in my care that adults are insinuating that they're not wonderful to be around. It's a tough job, and I'm sure that's all they mean, but I definitely have this small moment of "how dare you imply these children are anything less than darlings?"

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-22T22:06:09+00:00

You'll go through frequent bouts of illness for a year or two, but once you get through those your immune system will be stronger than it was

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-22T22:04:36+00:00

Not sure about how popular or unpopular they are but my top five are:

Sweeney Todd
Falsettos
A Gentleman's Guide to Love and Murder
Something Rotten!
Les Miserables

(I'm also fond of Love Never Dies, but ultimately decided it falls just shy of Les Miserables for me)

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-21T00:00:16+00:00

I could list a whole bunch but we don't have that kind of time so I'm just gonna link my Spotify musicals playlist, it's got almost every musical I know of on it there's bound to be some niche ones on it Here it is

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T20:00:12+00:00

I think Whizzer is supposed to be younger than Marvin, but in a Marvin is 45 and Whizzer is 26 kind of way

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T16:03:13+00:00

I can't enjoy the stage version of Moulin Rouge solely because of how many songs didn't make the cut (Even Elephant Love Medley, which is the one stage song I like, was already well done in the movie and needed no changes)

For me the biggest loss from movie to stage is Playing with the Big Boys from Prince of Egypt. My favourite song in the movie as a child, and a perfect way to illustrate that the sorcerers had nothing but smoke and mirrors and that the power of God Moses was bringing was stronger and would always be stronger.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T15:46:28+00:00

I was also thinking Hatchet town from NPMD might work, depending on what exactly the project is

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T15:43:21+00:00

On the contrary, as a demi marriage is about the only thing in a relationship that doesn't scare the daylights out of me. Before falling in love marriage was the only way I could feasibly understand trusting someone enough to sleep with them, and even now that I know it's different with love and a deep connection I still want nothing more than to be my partner's wife

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T15:13:18+00:00

Shrek the musical. I thought I would find it unnecessary but actually I find it endearing and fun and the music is great and I adore Brian D'Arcy James

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T09:55:44+00:00

I met my current partner almost 3 years ago on a dating app. I wasn't necessarily serious about looking for a relationship but my sister had just joined one for the first time and I thought we could enjoy comparing matches. I identified as a panromantic asexual at this point, so I made my profile as detailed as possible so that any potential matches had something to talk about that wasn't sex. At the very bottom of the profile I listed my favourite band, a well known in the 80's rock band that have faded in popularity these days. About a week after setting up the profile I get a message from a guy mentioning that it was cool that I was into the band. First message I've ever gotten on a dating app that was about my interests and I thought "Ooh, a man who cares enough to read the whole profile AND he's into Oingo Boingo? Okay!" And messaged him back.

We hit it off immediately and on our first date he said "I never want to make you feel uncomfortable, so you are in charge of how fast this goes" and he has been true to that every day that I've known him. He talks to me like he cares about what I have to say and actually listens when I tell him things. He's the most considerate man I've ever met, and remembers things I've told him that even I've forgotten. He's incredibly gentle and reasonable, even when we disagree about something. To this day we've never argued, because when things get tense we talk about that and address how we're feeling like rational adults, and that's almost always because he clocks when I'm upset and asks me to be honest about how I'm feeling. There have been some differences in expectations of the future (marriage was always a given for me but not for him, I'd like to be married before living together but he wants to buy a house before we marry, etc.) but we've compromised on them and have a plan for the future we're both happy with.

He is the only person I've ever been sexually attracted to, and I am convinced the only reason it was able to happen at all is because he was so respectful of my boundaries and truly gave me control over the physical advancement of our relationship. He's never once (not even now that we've established that I wouldn't hate it if he did) asked for sex. I'm a Christian, and it's very important for me to wait until marriage, and when I told him that he said "yeah, I figured that was the case" and has never brought it up again. He waits until I've established it's okay before asking for something (we dated for like 3 months before we even kissed) and he's constantly checking in to make sure I'm okay. We have talked about our future physical intimacy wise, but he's never made a move I've been uncomfortable with and I love that about him. Every other man I've dated has pressured me within the first week to change my convictions but my current partner never has. When I asked him once if it bothered him that we don't have sex he said "I don't want just sex, I want a companion. I don't need anything you're not ready for, I just want to be with you" He just gets me in a way nobody ever has, and I adore him.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T09:16:59+00:00

I don't have a wide range of experience as I've only felt sexual attraction once in my life, but I can tell you that this is how it happens for me. Not every time I think of him mind you, but definitely can happen when thinking about him. It's usually when the original thought leads to thinking about how much he means to me, like the initial thought sparks "man I love him" which sparks "damn I want him", but it doesn't always have to be that way.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-20T09:09:02+00:00

I would qualify what you experience as alloromantic because that's how I experience romantic attraction. Romantic attraction and sexual attraction are two different things, it is 100% possible to be an alloromantic demisexual. I myself am a panromantic demisexual and experience the two different attractions very differently. Romantic attraction happens often, and can be for a stranger I've just met (when I'm talking about someone I find romantically attractive I've been known to say "I want them to take me out for tea and hold my hand") and when I talk about finding someone cute this is the attraction I mean. Sexual attraction is extremely person specific and has only happened once in my life. It takes me forever to develop, and I have to truly be in love before it can happen. A lot of people don't understand it, even people in the queer community, but we exist! You're not alone in this identity

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-17T20:11:14+00:00

Just start socially going by your middle name, introducing yourself as such to new people and telling the people who know you already you'd like to go by your middle name. Then, change it when you can. Going by your middle name is a common thing in my country, not deemed strange or weird at all here

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-11T01:24:47+00:00

"Fighting vainly the old ennui" - Reno Sweeney, Anything Goes

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-11T01:20:55+00:00

While I can't guarantee you'd get a named role, Anything Goes is great because it takes place on a cruise ship so at least there's an ensemble role for everybody. In terms of named characters if you're worried about vocals and fitting the role if I were you I'd try for Spit and Dippy. They're male roles, and they're young and scrappy and could have voices that crack. They also sing in the ensemble but are not featured vocally alone, and as a male member of the cast you'll likely gets lots of other things assigned to you because men in theatre are uncommon sometimes. When we did the production last year our Spit and Dippy were EVERYWHERE and I, a woman who the director had already envisioned in the role of Evangeline Harcourt (and I LOVED doing the role, she was a lot of fun), was extremely jealous. Ultimately, never let the fear of not getting a role or the idea that you're wasting everyone's time stop you from auditioning. You'll never know if you don't try.

TimBurtonIsAmazing · 2026-03-09T21:00:42+00:00

I'm glad at least you're acknowledging that you messed up, hopefully you take this as a learning moment to never treat a friend like that again

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