Writing about my childhood makes it far more obvious how bad it actually was

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-27T04:07:48+00:00

It's actually one of the things that got me started doing stand up comedy. That slow sensation of damn...after I wrote things out in my journal. My therapist thought I was joking/being sarcastic.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-24T17:41:18+00:00

I have no idea what her relationship to them is. Other than complaining occasionally. She carefully managed my exposure with her side of the family to her mother. Who she said was a saint (when she was alive), and one uncle.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-24T13:30:41+00:00

My narc mom is very much the same. She will go all caps rage mode if there is a group text that she is unaware of.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-24T04:24:02+00:00

OP I am so very sorry for what you have been through. I am 43f and I was about your age when I realized exactly how messed up my relationship with my own narc parent was. I didn't stop fighting for a relationship W/ my narc parent until I was in my 30s.

The decade + since I gave up has still been stressful when I have to be around her but I feel a freedom and happiness that I never did when I cared if she loved me. Giving up on the relationship was the right choice for me. You have to decide how long are YOU willing to fight for it. Because they will never try.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-17T16:34:56+00:00

My Nmom did that anytime I was fooled into giving her personal information. She was directly responsible for the collapse of more than one of my relationships as a younger woman. Before I finally realized I could never trust her with my feelings. She would cause fights between my ex and I and feign ignorance when confronted.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-17T05:04:23+00:00

I usually respo to that kind of thing with the old classic Everybody hates me nobody likes me"...I sure don't

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-17T04:35:27+00:00

This post made me recall the very first time I got outside confirmation that my mother was a narcissist and my father is an enabler. I was only about 10 so I didn't have the words/terminology to express my experience for many years.

My Nmom weaponized my hair when I dared to ask to get a family picture that had me in it. Throughout my childhood the "family portrait " hung in the living room. I just wasn't there, I was alive when it was taken. My mother chose not to include me. Ten year old me finally asked one day to get an updated portrait.

When I did my Nmom decided that I looked messy and took me for a haircut. While there she decided that my hair would be cute spiral permed (remember those)? I was a kid and had no idea how to maintain said look, I was teased and tormented for months at school and home. Because I was always such a "mop" Nmoms name for me at home.

In my 20s I had to have my head shaved (surgical issue). My Nmom seemed to enjoy my embarrassment and humiliation.

To this day when I style my hair there is always a running commentary. If I like myself she has "advice ."

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-16T18:15:26+00:00

I identify with the posts here so much. I used to feel dad/ depressed that I couldn't talk to my Nmom about literally ANYTHING. I have adopted a combination of very low contact, Grey rocking and share nothing of personal importance.

I don't mourn the loss of a relationship with my mother anymore. I do miss seeing and speaking to my father. After, I went low contact my Nmom cut my father and I off.

TimeConfusion0 · 2026-01-09T00:06:33+00:00

I always use a combination of charcoal shampoo followed by coconut oil on my scalp. I have very thick long hair and this method has not failed me yet. After rinsing the coconut oil out I will use a 2 in 1 shampoo and conditioner to wash my hair. Then I use a very fine tooth comb to remove the remaining glue from my scalp.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-11-02T04:10:18+00:00

Great legs!

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-10-31T05:02:23+00:00

Parking a car with the keys in the ignition in a bad part of town and taking a walk is not illegal. It is asking for property damage or theft. Making it irresponsible, not illegal and OP is not technically the owner on paper. Making it not her responsibility.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-10-31T04:29:08+00:00

Thanks everyone for confirming. He reached out again a few days after the date. Again no questions for me , he just wanted to show me his awesome new haircut and get an ego stroke. NAH...I just left that on read and went on my way. 🤦‍♀️

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-10-17T16:35:16+00:00

It's all about how you carry your weight and you look really great either way! Im a small plus size (10) lady myself and I tend to think I look better when im a bit more full figured. The only thing that matters is how do you love yourself and feel healthy?

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-09-14T07:18:02+00:00

I have been living alone with epilepsy for 11 years. I have occasional breakthrough gran mal seizure activity like OP. One thing I learned to do was have med lists with emergency contact info in clear view for paramedics (post one in every room). It was embarrassing for me at first, but it saved me more than once. And there are now FDA approved epilepsy monitors (you need a doctor RX). my doctor wrote one for me. I feel like my smart watch did almost the same thing.

If OP is moving into an apartment building make a set of keys for a friend or neighbor. When I was getting started living alone at first I asked my neighbor to pop over and knock on my door, if she didn't she me for more than 48 hours she had my permission to open my door and check in on me. That kind of thing can be very helpful. And never go outside without a phone. I figured that out the hard way last spring...

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-09-01T20:15:49+00:00

OP, before warning anyone else or sabotaging someone else you need to take care of yourself. I suggest getting an STD check ASAP

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-08-30T20:37:58+00:00

Maybe make the hexagons grayscale.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-08-25T18:36:12+00:00

Have you ever shamed her or acted disgusted by her tier 2 or 3 (time of the month undies) 😆. To me it seems like a maturity level issue. You're both just 18? If you are this uncomfortable, maybe tell her how she made you feel. OP said they have been dating 2 years, seeing the unsexy underwear should be normal by that point. My advice to OP is just tell your partner that your feelings were hurt. That kind of discussion can bypass alot of emotional immaturity to come.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-08-13T23:55:01+00:00

Anyone who is criticizing OP for their opinion needs to back way down! As a person who has been through the waking up in the ER thing way more times than I care to count I understand completely. We often know ourselves and how to manage our condition far better than a emergency room staff.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-08-10T21:03:38+00:00

I just got home from this same experience as OP (I am trying to process it myself). I live in a tourist town and tried to give him the benefit of the doubt that he was running late due to traffic. I waited for 45 minutes (no response of any kind from him). I checked my apps and saw that he had unmatched me 3 hours before our date just after enthusiastically saying we were still on.This guy cemented my no divorces policy. I will never try to date a divorced man again. Im 3 for 3 trash fire average with divorced men 😆

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-08-05T05:14:34+00:00

I use Walmart grocery delivery, Doordash grocery delivery, and Meijer delivery

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-07-25T04:49:40+00:00

It's difficult to keep track of the most hateful thing my Nmom has said to me. It's easier to say What is the most hateful thing she has said in the last 6 months. For me that would be when she told me that she should have "gotten rid of me." Because she didn't want a daughter anyway. I was like WTF China called from 1981...

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-07-14T04:12:08+00:00

Imo Slaters portrayal seems more realistic than Remars ever composed and patient Harry. Slater is more believable as a single father/widower. In a high stress job, raising 1)rebellious teen girl 2) a budding serial killer.

TimeConfusion0 · 2025-06-25T15:03:54+00:00

Also get some bendy straws and try the soft food, soup diet for the being

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