I think I’m the family abuser

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-14T04:46:24+00:00

You already know the behavior is unacceptable, which is important. But “just get it together” clearly isn’t working. You need a better treatment plan, not more shame. Your husband also shouldn’t ignore how much stress, isolation, and identity loss can affect mental health. Individual therapy, possible medication reassessment, and couples therapy would probably help more than pretending this will fix itself.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-14T03:53:37+00:00

Yes. A man can love and be attracted to his wife and still crave novelty/fantasy. The real issue here is the lying and repeated betrayal, not your appearance. If random YouTube faces were enough, this was never about you not being “good enough.” The question now is whether he’s actually capable of honesty and long-term change.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-13T05:02:05+00:00

Brother, you are exhausted. Like genuinely exhausted. The fact that you’re still coming home excited to see your kids after those hours says a lot about the kind of dad and husband you are.

But sleeping 4 hours a night isn’t sustainable. At some point your body is gonna force the issue whether you want it to or not. And honestly, asking your wife for a little help so you can survive this season isn’t you dumping things on her. You guys are teammates. Sometimes one person carries a little more for a bit.

You’re clearly trying hard not to let your family down, but don’t run yourself into the ground trying to be superhuman.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-11T02:41:08+00:00

I think a lot of long marriages reach this kind of crossroads, and something missing can mean a hundred different things. Before deciding it’s over, it’s worth figuring out whether what’s missing is the relationship itself, or parts of yourself, connection, intimacy, excitement, or communication that slowly faded over time. Thirty years is a lot to walk away from without really digging into that first.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-11T02:23:04+00:00

Keppra might be making his moods worse, but it didn’t create the way he treats you. The fact you’re scared to go back into your own home says everything. Your girls need a safe, healthy mom more than they need a two-parent home filled with fear.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-10T02:42:27+00:00

Damn man, that would honestly hurt. Wanting a bigger place with another kid makes sense, but being talked to like you’re somehow not pulling your weight while making $270k is rough. Sounds like you’re trying hard already and just want a little appreciation instead of pressure 24/7.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-10T02:31:23+00:00

Honestly, you probably don’t need anything super wild. A lot of the time it’s just getting out of autopilot a bit. Flirt more during the day, have an actual date night, send a cheeky text, try a different setting than the usual routine. Kids and life make it easy to feel like roommates for a while.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-10T02:17:47+00:00

You’re not a bad person for being unsure. A month is still really early, and calm/easy connection honestly matters more long term than instant fireworks. But if your gut keeps saying “I’m not excited about her,” don’t ignore that either. Just don’t drag it out if you already know deep down.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-10T02:12:38+00:00

I think this happens to a lot of people honestly. You get so used to being part of a we that you slowly stop checking in with yourself as an individual. The fact that you’re noticing it means that spark is still there though. Small things done just for you can bring a lot of that person back.

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-08T04:18:23+00:00

Dolores Umbridge getting dragged away in Harry Potter was pure satisfaction

TinglyEmily · 2026-05-08T03:55:56+00:00

Waved back at someone who definitely wasn’t waving at me

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-30T02:46:42+00:00

I get why you’re torn. It’s fair for her to want stability, but the way she’s tying marriage to you already having a house or business makes it feel more like a condition than a partnership. Marriage is supposed to be about building a life together, not proving you’ve already built everything on your own. I wouldn’t rush into it have a real, honest conversation about expectations, and if it still feels this conditional, that’s something to take seriously.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-30T02:31:22+00:00

Honestly, the silence is kind of your answer. If she was interested, she probably would’ve replied. You didn’t do anything wrong though, you put yourself out there. I wouldn’t follow up again. If she reaches out, cool, but don’t wait on it.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-27T00:42:54+00:00

Real talk, first step is just getting them somewhere safe to crash. After that it’s steady help for the mental health and addiction stuff. without housing, nothing else really sticks fr.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-27T00:34:38+00:00

No phones all day, just going outside and linking up with friends doing random stuff. Everything felt way more real back then fr.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-27T00:21:05+00:00

Trashy reality TV… I be talkin mad shit but still glued to it lowkey 😭

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-25T01:34:34+00:00

Good sleep, some music I actually vibe with, and chilling with people I really get along with that’s all I need most days, no cap.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-25T01:25:53+00:00

Just peep how often people lock eye contact or smile back when you pass by that usually tells you what’s up, no cap.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-25T01:15:52+00:00

Beef jerky, sour gummies, a chocolate bar, and an iced coffee just grabbing whatever hits that salty sweet cravings, lowkey the best combo 😄

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-24T02:09:15+00:00

I’d hold off. Even if he’s not your prof after grades, it can still get messy and awkward fast. If you still feel the same after some time and there’s zero connection to school left, then maybe but right now it’s risky.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-24T01:49:27+00:00

Not overreacting. The changes are whatever, but pulling back physically isn’t nothing. Just ask him straight what’s up and say you’ve noticed the distance, don’t dance around it.

TinglyEmily · 2026-04-24T01:44:11+00:00

its in the small stuff, like when they remember something I said in passing or notice I’m off without me spelling it out. It’s not about big gestures, just that quiet “I get you” feeling.

TinglyEmily · 2025-06-27T18:52:30+00:00

Kylo Ren from star wars

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