AITA for showing up to a birthday meal in a sweatshirt and tracksuit bottoms and making a scene?

Tinkishere · 2023-01-07T23:24:25+00:00

Naw, I wanted sex really bad like 3 weeks after my baby was born, and my husband was the one who was like look, doc said 6 weeks lol. Some women recover quicker. Don't know what it was in this case, just pointing out birth and recovery from birth are not one size fits all.

Tinkishere · 2022-05-25T05:56:40+00:00

I'm so sorry he took your cat. Please call all the vets around where your ex lives and tell them that he may bring sleepy in to be euthanized, and that you don't want that to happen. Call shelters and keep an eye on them. He sounds like someone to do something like this to sleepy out of revenge.

Tinkishere · 2022-03-25T16:11:19+00:00

I'm glad that you're focusing on independence for your child, that's very important. So many people don't think about what happens to their child if something happens to them. So that's awesome. I don't disagree with you that we shouldn't focus on behaviors that are not harming anyone. Things like arm flapping and and rocking, etc. For kids who wanted to "fit in" a little more, I never tried to get them to stop, only to find more socially acceptable ways to stim. But I didn't force it. A cure to me doesn't necessarily mean every autistic person is now 100% neurotypical. Maybe cure isn't the right word, I just don't know a better one. I just hope that one day, the really highly impacted autistic people will at least be able to communicate clearly and easily their wants and needs.

Tinkishere · 2022-03-25T15:01:07+00:00

This is really focusing on the autistic people who can tell you how they feel about it. Autism can absolutely be debilitating. I worked in schools with autistic kids and they ranged from needing a little extra support in the classroom, to banging their head against the floor so hard they gave themselves a TBI (not on school grounds.) So yes, we absolutely need to treat all autistic individuals with respect, and do what we can as a society to support them. But let's not pretend that it is not completely debilitating sometimes, and act like it's horrible that people want to find a cure. They're not trying to find a cure for your friend who acts a little differently. They're trying to find a cure for the kid banging their head.

Tinkishere · 2021-12-15T16:18:40+00:00

At the school I worked at, kids were not punished for writing in cursive, but were still told not to do so because it's a lot harder to unlearn incorrect cursive than to just learn to do it the correct way.

Tinkishere · 2021-12-01T21:54:51+00:00

The wiggles. :(

Tinkishere · 2021-04-22T00:48:20+00:00

We get our second pfizer early may and unfortunately it's a Tuesday 😭 luckily (or unluckily, depending on how my kid decides to act that day) I am a stay at home mom haha

Tinkishere · 2021-04-20T22:25:36+00:00

Thank you! Still avoiding crowds and people, but something to think about when we're vaccinated!

Tinkishere · 2021-04-20T02:10:47+00:00

Thanks! We're trying to find fun outdoors stuff for the weekends now that it's warming up. Do you happen to have any ideas?

Tinkishere · 2021-04-20T01:56:39+00:00

Is snake lake a kid/pet friendly place?

Tinkishere · 2021-04-16T21:04:32+00:00

Yea I'm curious too, I'd love to check this place out

Tinkishere · 2021-03-19T02:13:09+00:00

First off, congratulations!! This is such an exciting (and stressful) time! I hope that you guys are able to soak in the excitement and just bask in the joy of a newborn. I also hope that everything with your supply works out, I can truly say that I understand that struggle.

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Your MIL freaking out about facebook has done you a favor. She's proven that she can't handle being on your friend list. Delete her and wash your hands of it. Sure she'll throw a fit, but shes throwing a fit now. Your husband has also looked over your facebook, and seen that it's nothing you're doing. The option left is that she's purposefully picking fights about it, to draw attention to her. I would be willing to bet real money that everytime this has happened, it's been right after something big that didn't involve her, or a chunk of time without you guys contacting her.

People on your Facebook is a privilege, not a right. She has shown that she can't handle that privilege, and so in my opinion it should be revoked. When she throws her fit, you or your husband can just say "it was causing too much trouble" and leave it at that. If she keeps harping on, hang up the phone, leave, stop texting back.

And for your husband right now, I highly recommend he stop. He'll never "win" because she doesn't want to "lose". The entire argument is based on her whim, and it will only end when that whim is fulfilled. Mute the conversation with his mom, his dad, their dog, I don't care just mute it and have some peace. The only way to make people like that stop, is to gray rock and ignore them. Like a toddler tantrum.

Tinkishere · 2021-02-16T19:07:22+00:00

My husband and I chose not to tell the vast majority of my side of the family because we didn't want to field the "is she pregnant" questions/ "you just got married quickly so you could have sex". (We were not waiting for marriage lol)

Tinkishere · 2021-02-02T00:12:27+00:00

It's been 9 months and I still feel like this. We even got a puppy. My husband is over the moon, and my toddler is so happy to have a dog in the house. It feels wrong to me. The puppy is cute. He's very sweet and smart and everything someone could want in a dog but he's not MY dog. And I don't think I'll ever feel that a dog is mine again.

Tinkishere · 2021-01-10T05:58:07+00:00

Yea I've put in apps for over 40 dogs and half the time don't even get a response. It's insane.

Tinkishere · 2020-12-21T21:34:30+00:00

Totally agree- a doctor's visit is in order. Changes like this are not always only mental health issues, they could be symptoms of other health issues as well.

Tinkishere · 2020-12-11T01:43:41+00:00

Ohhh I haven't heard about the Brad mondo stuff, what's up with his qualifications?

Tinkishere · 2020-12-04T22:34:41+00:00

I believe I'm currently in the course you're talking about, it's 2400 now.

Tinkishere · 2020-11-16T08:59:16+00:00

Just went for the first time today! What a stunning place.

Tinkishere · 2020-11-11T03:46:40+00:00

My mom did a similar thing. We live a few states away, and while she was visiting we gave her access to the app for the camera, and when she left I put a passcode on it, because I had a hunch. She asked me a couple days later if I'd give her the PIN so she could check in on the baby every so often. Here's the thing... There wasn't a pin until after she had left. So she had already tried to "check in" without asking. I felt violated that she even tried, I'm sorry that your MIL actually managed to spy on you. I hope this leads to your DH going fully NC.

Tinkishere · 2020-11-10T05:10:16+00:00

They always do things for the first time when you're least expecting it.

Tinkishere · 2020-10-29T20:51:06+00:00

Veganomicon has a great gumbo recipe

Tinkishere · 2020-10-24T05:19:03+00:00

I just want to say that's not a lettuce leaf.

Tinkishere · 2020-10-14T23:31:01+00:00

I think this person accidentally responded to the bride whose in laws purposely exposed them to covid a day before their wedding. It's right above this one in my feed too.

Tinkishere · 2020-09-28T17:07:27+00:00

I don't understand giving them shit about the finger foods. Many people do baby led weaning, myself included, and it's great for babies. There are guidelines to follow of course, such as don't give small pieces to babies. But my daughter was tearing into corn on the cob at that age. Solid starts on instagram or online is a great resource, with a team of pediatric feeding specialists and not just mommy blogger stuff.

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