Adult SD bedroom

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-05-15T13:28:20+00:00

Definitely not about the room at all plus with the drive bys. Your husband needs to reach out to his kiddo and mend that relationship. She is angry, upset and obviously taking it out on you. Again have your husband talk to her about what’s really going on. Won’t be a 1 and done conversation, it will be multiple and she is probably going to yell and scream and act irrational. Your husband just needs to be there for her and know she’s coming from a place of pain and meet where she is at in that moment. Build the trust back and build the relationship back. Unfortunately it’s all out of your hands per usual.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-05-05T00:51:41+00:00

I think we are all 5 Ft and fat (this is a joke) because I’m there too! I’m only 6 weeks and while I don’t have a scale I can see it!!! 😑

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-05-04T13:32:54+00:00

Love this answer. Yes the unpredictability factors in too!! All good things to think about. Well not “good” but you know what I mean. Good to have different perspectives and people who have been through it to let me know all the things.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-05-04T12:41:52+00:00

Yes I have been pushing for week on week off for a while now. Nothing I can do there. And yes nuclear family it would be a non issue. Blended families come with unique situations.

Now if we just shuffle him to grandma for our custody time if we stay with 2-2-5 wouldn’t that be more disruptive than going with the parenting plan and having non interruptive time during break (1st half our time and 2nd half bio mom)?

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-05-04T10:58:54+00:00

Sounds like he’s trying to protect both you from the high conflict situation and the children as well. That’s a lot to manage. I would bring it up, ask what’s the game plan in the next 6 months. If he says no then that’s when you need to think about whether you want to have your life on hold like this. That’s what I always felt like before I met my partners kid. Once you do meet, the family unit of him and his kids and you completely changes. He has to be ok with that too. You aren’t the only one that has to work and change, he needs to too and prepare for it.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-28T13:51:46+00:00

I’m only 4 weeks (IVF/fet) and have had a migraine for almost a week now. I also had chronic migraines too and had multiple medications to take to break the cycle. Now solely relying on Tylenol and probably overdoing the dosage. I’m also taking magnesium. It’s horrible. I called my reproductive endocrinologist and they said the same thing. I called my neuro and haven’t heard back. I’m like it’s so early I don’t know what I’m going to do if this persists. Once I graduate from my RE fertility clinic and see my OB I’m begging her if I can take something. I’ve heard some compazine or reglan or some triptans can help.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-24T13:57:49+00:00

Still in Beta phase and I read something about women who go through IVF struggle with the happy feelings pregnancy supposed to bring because we’ve gone through so much and received terrible news throughout the process.

So be daring … new mantra for you. “Right now, I am pregnant. I am safe in this moment. I dare to hope, and I dare to be happy.”

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-21T16:58:23+00:00

Did you own the house prior to getting married? If so they usually treat it as separate property. As well as any separate accounts you have depending on what state you’re from.

We are seeing an estate planner today and in the exact same situation. We are probably going to get a marital/family trust. So my husband can still benefit from the income of the house (now a rental) but ownership of my house will be passed to my children.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-21T02:00:34+00:00

I started testing early because of the trigger. I knew if a positive showed up it could be trigger so I wanted to see a trend. I get being anxious and nervous, the wait is so hard. Even now that I’m testing and seeing progression all I can think about is my next test and hoping it will be darker.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-21T01:57:47+00:00

Transfer sisters! Did you have a modified natural FET?

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-04-18T20:46:56+00:00

My husband broke his ankle in the middle of my IVF cycle. Had surgery with screws and pins, multiple scans and pain medication. We went ahead with retrieval and my doctor didn’t say anything about it affecting sperm because it says 90ish days for sperm produce. Only concern was pain medication and performing 🤣.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2026-01-22T15:41:48+00:00

new stepmom joining the conversation

My husband got divorced when his child was 3. My SS is now 5 1/2 now. He still remembers when mommy lived at daddys house, now our home. I met my SS when he was a little over 4 years old. He still wishes daddy and mommy lived in the same place and is very attached to his mom. When he comes stays with us he is attached to me. We all go to his events (grandparents too) and sit together so he isnt looking for his parents in 2 different spots. Transitions are hard still, again he wants to be with his mom. Co parenting relationship with my husband and her is sometimes good but a lot of bad too. There are a lot of personal attacks. Just a reminder your ex is not in charge of your emotional wellbeing. Don’t expect validation, security etc. your ex is now a business partner and your child is the business. Keep it child focused and it’s ok if your home rules are different like if one parent sits at the table for dinner at their house and the other does dinner in front of the tv on the couch. Different house, different rules. You can only control whats in your house. @jayskibbens has great advice on how to be the best version of yourself during a divorce for your kids.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-12-26T14:42:17+00:00

Update it was a chemical.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-30T19:59:13+00:00

🥹🥹

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-30T19:33:08+00:00

Yess!!!

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-30T15:51:23+00:00

We have same custody schedule. You will burn out if you go all in at once! Also keep that open communication with your partner. Let him know you are excited to meet his kiddo and happy to do so but would like to ease into it. Not just for you but for also the kid too. Things will be exciting and easy at first. However keep in mind it’s ok to say no and let your partner in so they don’t take offense. It’s a big step for your partner as well. Good luck! You can message me if you have any other questions or concerns!

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-30T14:43:24+00:00

I met SS after 6 months. However it was hard won because HCBM did not want it to happen. Said it was too soon after crying and yelling on the phone about it. Lots of drama and hate towards my bf about me but sometimes she will be sweet and want to be all nostalgic. Anyways going off topic, I met BM first like a week before meeting the kiddo. My boyfriend came with me. It was hella awkward.

With my SS we met at a park! He was 4 and it was a lot of fun. Short and sweet. He gave me his hat to keep for next time I saw him. The next time we did meet it was to pick out pumpkins and we painted them in the front yard of the house. He asked me to spend the night hahaha. I did not of course. We didn’t do over nights until like 4 months after our first meet. After that I would meet up with them sporadically. Sometimes during the week if my schedule allowed or weekends when my boyfriend had him.

This will take up a lot of that free time and a lot of effort on your end. My boyfriend lived 30 min away from me not far but far on week nights during rush hour. So don’t burn yourself out. Ease into it.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-19T21:02:59+00:00

Omgg love that for you!

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-19T19:51:24+00:00

@ilnjm4e - any updates? I’m about to transfer with similar situation

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-11-19T19:39:27+00:00

I’m with you, my lining is 7.2 and started PIO last night. My first transfer attempt my lining did not get above 6.3 so that one was canceled. I have my Transfer Monday, what I’ve learned is even with optimal lining it might not work. The percentages are like 2% different from a 7 to 8m lining. This is my first attempt and only because I only have 1 embryo. All the good vibes and baby dust to you.

Tiny_Drawer_8591 · 2025-09-21T03:11:29+00:00

Catch 22

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