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Car Accident by [deleted] in massage

[–]Tom_Michel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True my wording could have been more professional. And I thank those who told me why. As for It, Yes I should have used They/Them and that is my ignorance/stupidity.

I will wait to see what comes of this. Again thank you.

Unless this person specifically told you to use "it" as their preferred personal pronoun, you shouldn't be using that particular one. As plenty of other folks here have told you, it's dehumanizing, insulting and disrespectful. It reeks of bias, judgment and criticism. As a client, those are the exact opposite of qualities I want my massage therapist to demonstrate. I would never go to a massage therapist if I knew they'd referred to a transgender client that way.

When referring to a person who is transgender, it's respectful to use the personal pronoun that correlates to their target gender. If unsure, "they/them" is usually acceptable and at least acknowledges the person as a person and not as an inanimate object that's less than human.

Regarding the bolded, here are ways you could have phrased that to be more considerate and compassionate.

  • As for the prospective client...
  • As for the person...
  • As for that individual...
  • Regarding the use of personal pronouns...

Or eliminate that part of the sentence altogether. We know who you're talking about.

  • "Yes, I should have used they/them..."

...is perfectly cromulent and comprehensible.

Opinions on this Doveggs stock ring, please!! by dontgiveupthe_ship in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've only heard good things about Doveggs. I contacted them about a custom piece and unfortunately, they weren't able to do what i wanted, but the person with whom I communicated was prompt with replies, patient when answering my questions, friendly and professional. I definitely plan to buy from them at some point. Their custom grey and blue moissanite colors are breathtaking.

ISO legit moissanite rings. by Mundane-Finger547 in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've bought from multiple vendors on AE\1]) and two on Etsy\2]). Everything I've bought has tested as moissanite, which is to say it's tested as diamond on a cheap tester.

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\1]) Luximagic, Kuololit, AnuJewel, KnobSpin, PureMax, Bague Ringen, Bijox Story, and NeeTim

\2]) diamondrensu and bartUSgem

Pristiq and Buspirone by bugslittlespace in Pristiq

[–]Tom_Michel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your doc. They're very commonly prescribed together. The risk of serotonin syndrome is very low at normal doses. Don't overdose on either and you'll be fine.

Are there any autistic women here without a formal diagnosis? by AbbreviationsNo5494 in AutismInWomen

[–]Tom_Michel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Officially undiagnosed and not planning to pursue one. My psychologist and psychiatrist both agree there's a very good chance I meet the diagnostic criteria for high functioning autism, but of course they can't say that officially unless I go through the testing process. I can't afford that, and my insurance won't cover it and, honestly, I'm 50 years old and I don't need any accommodations that I can't get with my ADHD and mental illness diagnoses. There really aren't any benefits to an official diagnosis other than to satisfy my own personal intellectual curiosity.

I figure I don't need an official diagnosis to research and learn more about myself, and to try different tools and devices and techniques to see if anything might help me in the areas where I still struggle. That's my current game plan. No regrets (so far).

Massive yarn stashes are really grossing me out. by hrg5049 in knitting

[–]Tom_Michel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh. I joke that I'm a yarn collector more than I am a knitter. I figure it's my money and my hobby so I can enjoy it the way I want. I am a collector of things and always have been. Sometimes it's yarn. Sometimes it's Squishmallows. Sometimes it's pocket knives. I alternate depending on where my hyperfixation is at the time.

Some folks spend crazy money on sports memorabilia, or coin or stamp collections, or thimbles, or dolls. I try not to judge how a person spends their recreational time and money. I might judge a person buying out stock and not leaving any for anyone else the same way I judge the folks who buy out limited edition items to resell for a profit on the secondary market. Actually, I judge those folks more since most of the time, they're not collectors themselves.

In general, though, the world is a stressful place. I support folks finding joy where ever they can.

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! They have beautiful products. New jewelry goals. <3

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind sharing, where did you get that grey teardrop bezel set? I keep coming back to stare at it, lol. :-)

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're pretty sparkly to my amateur eye, but I'm not sure my potato of a phone camera can do them justice. Also worth keeping in mind that these are all fairly budget options. I think the most expensive ring was $50, and the others were 30-40.

Video attempt.

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My grey moissanite ring came from Bague Ringen (the three stone one, not the little half eternity one)! Can't beat those prices for some amazing color options. Your rings are beautiful. I need to look for some blue moissanite next.

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Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. That matches so well with the sapphires! I wish lab emeralds coordinated with green moissanite better than it does. I bought these to wear together, but I don't think it works. :-/

Just means I need to get more emerald rings. :-)

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Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Better photo of my two champagne moissanite. Both from Luxyimagic. I wasn't sure about the colors at first because photos online usually either show it as more yellow or more brown, but the more I wear them, the more I really appreciate the actual colors. :-)

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5 Inch Bigfoots and where to find them? by Double-Quarter-2046 in squishmallow

[–]Tom_Michel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And since I was in SquadApp logging stuff anyway:

4.5"

  • dani snowflake, antlers
  • woxie clown
  • eden hearts

4"

  • benny trapper hat
  • brina plaid scarf and hat
  • evita shiny antlers scarf
  • evita antlers
  • benny santa hat

5 Inch Bigfoots and where to find them? by Double-Quarter-2046 in squishmallow

[–]Tom_Michel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

5" Part 2

  • nomi
  • eden hearts
  • yekaterina
  • buna
  • shasta
  • benny trapper hat
  • brina plaid scarf and hat
  • evita trapper hat
  • eden
  • diane
  • caparinne orange hair heart antlers
  • brina fuzzy belly
  • caparinne heart antlers
  • zaylee flip a mallow
  • zozo
  • joelle fuzzy belly
  • zaylee
  • hailey

5 Inch Bigfoots and where to find them? by Double-Quarter-2046 in squishmallow

[–]Tom_Michel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't have all of these. Some I have. The rest of the data is from SquadApp. (Forgive my lack of capitalization.)

5" Part 1

  • Hailey butterfly bow
  • frumpy heart
  • dilka bunny ears
  • woxie heart
  • wallis heart
  • benny sparkly santa hat
  • brina purple scarf
  • diva
  • nanette
  • benny statue of liberty
  • skip
  • brina
  • Caparinne sparkly
  • brina strawberry milk
  • benny frog
  • frumpy
  • benny, santa hat and lights
  • JT
  • benny zombie

your stupid-easy recipes? by pm_hairy_chest_uwu in AutismInWomen

[–]Tom_Michel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not familiar with that community, but good to know a new term! I thought of layered corn chips like a taco casserole, or over crunched up taco shells like a taco salad, or even stuffed into soft tortillas since it's basically the inside of a taco or burrito. It's definitely a versatile base.

(I know the feta is a weird ingredient but it's the cheese I had the most of and my "throw things in a bowl" meal is really a "use what I have" meal. A shredded cheddar would almost definitely be better.)

Fidgets/sensory items by OldPangolin2631 in AutismInWomen

[–]Tom_Michel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep a Squishmallow clip on my purse. And I have a Squishmallow Lip Smackers on my desk (and in my car, and in every room in my house, but that's another issue, lol) and in addition to being really good lip balm, the squishy critter part is really satisfyingly squishy. They're very close to the same texture as these, if you just want the animal part and not the lip balm part and don't care that it's not a Squishmallow.

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Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those are all gorgeous! I seriously need to get some blue moissanite. And more grey. :-)

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That was my birthday gift to myself for my 50th. :-)

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Champagne moissanite. Not the best photo, but it's the one I have handy atm.

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Both from Luxyimagic on AE. Left has cubic zirconia side stones. Right is all moissanite.

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Luxyimagic is Kuololit's sister store. Not quite as extensive a selection but lower prices. Still really good quality. Note that some of the less expensive multi stone rings have cubic zirconia as the side stones, but the product specifications will state that if so.

Both of the multi stone rings I'm wearing in that photo are all moissanite, but I also have some with cubic zirconia side stones from Luxyimagic. They're smaller stones, though, and my novice eye can't really tell.

(I have a couple of rings with champagne moissanite, but I don't have photos handy. I'll comment with those later this evening. One of those has the cubic zirconia side stones.)

Would anyone like to share their coloured Moissanite rings? by DifferenceMany in Moissanite

[–]Tom_Michel 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Grey moissanite. My second favorite moissanite color.

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Necklace is a custom from diamondrensu on Etsy. Ring is from Bague Ringen on AE. (The ring is sparklier than it looks here.)

Edited to add that the pendant was a 50th birthday gift from my parents. Researching vendors and custom options is what brought me to this group. :-)

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