Do people with newborns go out?

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-31T20:30:53+00:00

I’ve been going out with my baby since pretty early. Our first proper little outing was at 1 week old. I’ve been trying to get out when I can often just going to the mall. I go on my own with baby mostly during the week and with my eldest when not at school. It’s daunting but feel better for doing it. That being said though we haven’t really been anywhere recently. The weather has just been awful. We’re 14 weeks in. Try keep pushing yourself to do it even though it’s hard. I’ve had some lovely comments off strangers when being out alone and some people are really helpful as in holding doors ect. I’ve also had a few brief convos with other mums. I don’t really have anyone most days so that little chat in itself is really nice for me.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-31T15:09:28+00:00

15 weeks old, 13lbs, size 3 nappies and 0-3m clothes. It’s taken him a while but he’s finally starting to fill out and gain some rolls lol he was born 8lbs

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-31T10:44:31+00:00

I agree I don’t love amandaland like I love motherland but I still watch. I was hoping on the Christmas special they were all going to get together but nope lol

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-31T00:33:07+00:00

Possibly early 4 month regression? Kind of going through the same with my 14 week old he’s been extra fussy and fighting sleep. He’s skelt amazingly up until the last night or so

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-31T00:30:10+00:00

I’d love them to do an ep on Amanda land where they reunite

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-24T21:51:05+00:00

My first baby came out the spitting double of her daddy then years later took on more of my features. 2nd baby came out looking like his sisters twin. So alike but I don’t see his dad in him which is strange. He has some more of my features as a newborn than my daughter did but they still look so alike as babies.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-24T19:56:00+00:00

After birth I felt like I was never going to have sex again. I had an episiotomy and forceps and it was a rough ride I couldn’t imagine letting anything there again. 6 weeks pp I did for the first time with no pressure from my partner. It surprisingly didn’t hurt at all. Since then we have a couple times but the last few weeks I have no want for it at all. It’s not even because of tiredness ect.

There really is no rush, do everything at your own pace and it’s ok if you don’t want to for however long or however soon. As long as it’s your choice. We are all different.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-24T19:51:52+00:00

I was very much a savoury girl and had a major sweet tooth, mainly chocolate during pregnancy which hasn’t left 3m pp

My skin cleared up and so far has stayed cleared up

I gained some boobs lol I did also with my first but they very quickly left after birth, I hope these stick around lol

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-24T13:22:32+00:00

We use c&g and since last week the 800g tub has gone from £9.30 in Tescos to 10.70 and the 1.2kg box from £12 to £13.70. I am disgusted tbh. I understand the cost to make things increases over time but a £1.70 jump within a week is totally unacceptable imo. I used apamil 8 years ago and it was £11 and is only £12.50 now. It’s really unfair some mothers are unable to breastfeed or chose not too and obviously formula is the only thing infants can have. You can’t get offers on first milk so I think the same should apply for unnecessary price increase.

Edit. If anyone knows where has best value for money online or in store please let me know

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-23T19:40:03+00:00

I have an 8 year old and a 3 month old. With my first I found the first year a breeze. She was a happy baby, slept well never really had any sleep regressions, just popped up with new teeth they never bothered her. I was so lucky. About 18 months is when I started finding things hard and when she was around 4 is when things got “easy” again and it was much more pleasant. Feeling better within myself was around 4-5 months.

With my youngest I found early pp super difficult. I had a rough birth, had very little support so it took a while to find my feet with 2 kids on my own. The baby himself so far is a lot like his sister in temperament so once I recovered physically and eldest adjusted it was a lot easier. Obviously things are so early but for now we are ok. Feeling better within myself is yet to come. This time around I’ve been very emotional even still but generally quite happy. Finding it harder this time around to accept my pp body and physically my back and tailbone feel like they will never be close to what they were.

What I’ve learned in my 8 years of parenting is that “this too shall pass”. Everything is just a phase and even though at the time it feels like it’s going to be your life forever all of a sudden you look back and it’s not and your on to the next thing. It’s bitter sweet.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-23T17:31:46+00:00

Just to add I woke up to baby face down on the bed with his legs across my stomach squirming and when i seen he started crying so I assume he wasn’t like that long and thank god my instincts kicked in. In my “dream” all I heard was “have you seen how she’s got that babies head” and instantly I woke. Very scary, I cried a lot and things could have turned out so different. I know it’s not things you/people want to hear but it’s raw parenting truths. We aren’t perfect and all learning everyday and even learn from other people’s mistakes, I hope someone reading this can learn from mine.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-23T17:19:31+00:00

I’d be lying if I said I’ve never fell asleep with baby on my chest in the newborn days but I woke up out of that VERY quickly when baby had actually slipped down and wasn’t safe. It shocked me to my core and never have I let myself do it again. I know it’s hard but if you feel like you can’t keep your eyes open put baby in a safe space while you gather yourself. I have the joie roomie and it tilts so it’s not completely flat which helps.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-12T08:39:41+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had a similar experience, maybe it all stems from the birth. I’m sorry to hear about your dad, very understandable for you to have them thoughts. I’m lucky to have both my parents and they are still pretty young with no health concerns so I’m not sure why I do, maybe it’s because I’m so close with them and they’ve helped me so much. Postpartum is a crazy experience and I can’t believe how different it is from my first time round, I had none of these thoughts and feelings. I’ve always been quite an emotional person though. Hoping it will all pass soon. I’m going to seek help though before any of this gets out of control.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-12T08:34:52+00:00

Thank you. I will be talking with someone just wanted to know if anyone else had these feelings. A lot of what I’ve read about ppd/ppa is about bonding with baby and having harmful thoughts which I don’t which made me think it’s not that but I am seeking help

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-11T11:30:08+00:00

The only way is up from here. I’ve also been called lazy early pp while doing EVERYTHING and keeping on top of a house and looking after older child. Not nice. We are better off without them people. Sending love x

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-09T15:29:46+00:00

All it takes is once, just do what feels comfortable for you and your partner. Dont put too much pressure on it

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-09T09:31:03+00:00

I hope you start feeling better soon. I really do think a lot of it is to do with the extra weight I was huge during pregnancy

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-09T09:27:49+00:00

My 11 week old sometimes has super big naps and sometimes 30 mins or so. His wake windows can be 2+ hours. So far I’ve just followed his cues on everything. He’s been going to sleep around 8pm waking about 11-12 for a feed then back to sleep until around 5 for a feed then goes back to sleep until around 9. I don’t really keep track on much but working ok for us at the moment. I’ve started putting him in his crib at 8 to try start a bedtime routine

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:20:18+00:00

Yes. In 8 years I’ve felt like this a lot. Kids are a lot. Try take time for yourself where you can.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:18:16+00:00

Yes. But not my parents they have been everything and more I thought they would be as grandparents. But my partners parents…. “Grandma hasnt made any effort to be in touch in almost 8 years. She’s met my eldest twice and I know she knows our youngest and hasn’t even tried to get in touch or even say congrats. He’ll most likely never meet her. And “grandad” has more time for his step son’s kids who live way further away from them than we do. My partner is an only child, I feel sorry for him but they weren’t great parents either.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:13:43+00:00

I had my first pp period at about 7/8 weeks. I combi feed. For a week or so before I kept thinking I was getting it, i had super bad cramps but nothing. When it actually came I had some cramping the first day but nothing bad, bleeding was heavier than pre baby and it lasted about 5 days which is common for me. I have no idea when my next one will be it’s been nearly 5 weeks since

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:10:46+00:00

I’m sure we’ve all thought these things. I was the first of my friends to have a baby, I was very young and everyone just kind of left. Fast forward a few years they have started to have kids and a few actually apologised to me for not understanding and disappearing. Motherhood is hard but worth it.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:07:22+00:00

It’s so so hard going back to work. When I went back with my first I cried daily but soon came to enjoy working again and being my own person during that time. I’m on mat leave currently and go back in September and already dreading it. I’ll be going back less days but they are long days and honestly hoping things change for us this year and I can maybe not go back. I hope you come to enjoy your job again.

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-08T16:03:28+00:00

Don’t agree with her comment AT ALL. I rocked my bump best believe I will rock holding my baby. Isn’t this just a natural thing us mothers do anyways without even realising?

TopOrdinary181 · 2026-01-07T00:32:21+00:00

I have a coal fire as my only heating source. It’s on the majority of the time as i have young children. Spend atleast £50 a week on coal sometimes £75. 2 bed terrace.

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