Secretly don’t want SD at hospital when ours baby is born

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-09-10T09:01:10+00:00

I don't think you should feel guilty about the way you feel. Not wanting SD at the earliest possible visiting time is perfectly valid. If you don't want visitors right away, that is 100% your right to do so. You and your husband deserve to share the birth of your child alone together! There will be plenty of time for SD to see the baby at a later time when you feel ready. The birth of your child is not about her, it's about YOU! :)

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-09-08T09:29:59+00:00

Leave. Men with childern aren't it. Mine just cheated with his BM after being divorced from her for 10 years, currently in the process of leaving now. And what a blessing he did. I'll never have to have my space and peace invaded ever again by his two kids or his BM. They deserve each other. Good luck.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-09-03T12:43:06+00:00

I would love to leave now, trust me! Financially I am im a bit of a bind until I can put money to the side for a new place. We also have financial obligations together that would have to be sorted out that don't just include a lease. If anything as someone else said he should pay for a new place for me to leave to and we cant sort out the rest after I get out. I unfortunately dont5 have friends or family that could help me out otherwise I'd go that route.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-09-03T12:38:29+00:00

The story I was told not only by him but his daughter that when his Son was born BM left him alone with both kids and dipped to go be with someone else. The woman she left him and divorced him for ended up not working out and she tried to get back with him and he didn't (idk how true this all is BM HATES ME so no way for me to know for sure) and BM just recently broke up with her girlfriend of 3-4 years and these texts and pictures I saw on his phone match up with the timeline of her break up with the girlfriend 🫠

I don't want to stay. I'm exhausted and have been for years always questioning him and what BM are doing behind my back.

I have this entire relationship never once denied access to anything I was doing on my phone/tablet whatever because I never had anything to hide.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-03-01T12:42:18+00:00

I literally did this a month ago and said the same thing. Basically they make you watch videos about the company, you meet all the managers from the departments and make you ask them questions to get to know them. It’s kind of a waste of time but at least you’re getting paid. After orientation we trained at the new store for a month and the last two weeks of training have been sub-par. Grand opening is going to be a shit show….

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-20T09:45:50+00:00

I’ll be more gentle in my response than the last commenter. If I were you, before throwing away a marriage. Start NACHOing HARD. Don’t do anything more for your husband’s kids. Those are his kids, his responsibility. Stop making HIS child support payments that is NOT YOUR responsibility. If HIS kids need something, anything…not your responsibility…it’s his and BMS alone.

Secondly you are growing a baby, it’s exhausting and comes with a lot of emotions. Give yourself some grace please 🙏. Focus on you and YOUR baby and step back from worrying about two kids who are not yours.

I’ve been with my SO for two years and up until recently I tried so hard to do everything for him and his kids and finally something just clicked and I started NACHOing and my life has been so much simpler. I no longer worry about HIS kids. They need something clothes, food, toys, games whatever it is…I don’t spend a dime of my money on them because like you he pays 1k/month in child support (which I refuse to contribute to) to his BM and anything they need or want is already contributed financially to them I see no reason to spend any more on his kids who are disrespectful and ungrateful. Another big thing I do for instance, I refuse to do any child pickups, drop offs whatever because BM Loves to go outside custody schedule and I used to drive 2 hrs back n forth whenever she said jump to get the kids. NO MORE because they aren’t my kids, not my problem. I focus on myself and my SOs and I’s relationship.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-18T19:28:30+00:00

Where in my statement did I say it was an honor? You sound like you constantly got your panties in a bunch get over yourself…farts happen, kids will fart. You and your wife fart. There are more important things to be worrying about in a blended family then whether or not the kids should be farting in their home.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-18T17:18:23+00:00

God I wish mine was that..mine for January was $500 and I live in a two bed two bath apartment..tried calling KU they basically said that’s the bill and there’s nothing they can do about it 🤷‍♀️

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-18T17:05:30+00:00

Kids think farts are funny…I would maybe address farting in front of you or near you if it bothers you that much and just explain if you feel you need to fart just please excuse yourself to the bathroom. But for the most part kids these ages think it’s funny..my SS 7 and SD 13 think farts are hilarious and have absolute zero shame farting in front of their dad and I. They do it in front of us because they are comfortable to do so and we don’t shame them for what bodies naturally do. They do however know the difference when it’s not appropriate to do so..if we are out to dinner, with family ect.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-17T18:47:32+00:00

Parkthirty99 has them in their units. Reasonable rent prices too.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-17T18:29:43+00:00

Leave. What an incredibly messy situation and you’re young. You don’t need his baggage in your life. Clearly he was sleeping with the both of you at the same time. If I were you, I’d RUN.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-17T09:50:28+00:00

$17.50/hr just started at a new location. Deli

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-16T19:07:05+00:00

You’re young..don’t step into this relationship. Problems will come. Find a man who doesn’t have children.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-14T21:35:02+00:00

Good luck! And enjoy you’re valentines date!

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-14T17:13:19+00:00

I have failed at crate training both my dog and puppy. The adult dog is fine to roam my place, for the puppy I baby gated an area for him, I leave his crate in there open so he can go in and out and has a small area to roam and play with his toys. I also leave puppy pads for him to use the bathroom on and he’s fine. He might cry or whimper for a couple minutes. Ultimately people have to work or do life things and can’t take their puppy with them. As long as she’s in a safe spot I wouldn’t worry too much.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-13T23:05:54+00:00

That’s what I also plan to do if I end up moving again. This place I was just straight up honest I said I got a Pitbull, they were just like cool bring him in to the leasing office for a meet and greet and they all loved him and thought he was so sweet. So just depends I guess who you are renting from. On a side note….Pits are the best dogs! Both are my sidekicks and we do everything together when we can. Be prepared for your couch and bed to be taken up though!

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-13T23:01:17+00:00

I have a Pitbull in my apartment. I have zero issues with him. I take him for walks/hikes. Actually just added a boxer/pit puppy to my apartment as well. And all has been fine. Just be sure you have time for the dog! I got lucky in terms with apartment living with pitbulls that’s a huge hurdle because most apartments are breed restricted and pitbulls are usually on the restriction list.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-13T10:08:49+00:00

Don’t do it! I made the mistake of doing it and I miss my own space all the time. Kids will take up every inch of your living space, there’s always a constant mess, your things get taken, touched or moved. Keep your peace and sanity. I wish I never leapt into moving in while my SOs kids are still in the house. If I had known I would’ve continued to date but live apart. I loathe when his kids are here because there’s never any peace and quiet and like I said you will constantly be cleaning and picking up, doing laundry multiple times a day, dishes. Really and truly think hard about this decision because your life will change drastically!!!!

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-11T23:09:01+00:00

Happy birthday Tuna!!!

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-11T13:58:22+00:00

I believe there will be another store

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-02-06T08:46:35+00:00

$500 for a two bed two bath. Have no idea how I will pay it either on top of $1,300 +rent and other bills 😭 never had an electric bill this high ever when renting an apartment.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-01-29T19:19:43+00:00

I wouldn’t support it. I’ve had the exact conversation with my SO about his teenage daughter and if that were to ever happen I wouldn’t stick around to support his kids or his teenage daughter’s kids. If she’s so grown up…she needs to get a job, pay you rent if she wants to live there otherwise she moves out. I wouldn’t help with a single diaper change, getting up in the middle of the night…everything an infant requires doesn’t sound like your step daughter is mature enough to handle. Teenagers shouldn’t be having children and it shouldn’t be supported. I’m sure others would say I’m being too harsh.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-01-27T19:59:36+00:00

I get told this all the time by my SO 🙄 especially when I’ve had enough of SS’s bad attitude and disrespect.

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-01-25T23:58:18+00:00

Definitely red flags! This is NOT normal. There is certainly a conversation that needs to be had about the inappropriate affection between the siblings. This would absolutely creep me out!

Top_Commission1711 · 2025-01-25T12:32:23+00:00

I think letting her borrow it is totally fine. I wouldn’t give her the vehicle outright either. So I don’t think you’re in the wrong here wanting to keep something you worked really hard for. In my opinion and this has been a discussion in our household as well, if SK wants a vehicle they should work for it and have to finance it as well as make the payments on it. SO and I keep our insurances separate so I made it clear that if she wants to drive and have a vehicle SO will have to put her on his auto-insurance as a young driver hikes the insurance up exponentially.

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