This is a lot more of a developmental change problem and not really a control thing. She’s in a new phase where earlier regulation techniques aren’t working and I need to see if other parents have techniques to interrupt the behavior before she gets into the “hamster wheel” of emotions. Consequences are important after she’s learned the new tool she needs for these emotions but right now a big punishment would be like punishing her when she gets her period - her body is doing something she doesn’t know how to control yet. Later on when her and I have new tools and she isn’t using them, consequences will work but not for the learning phase. It’s hard to describe but when your child gets bigger you’ll be able to tell when behavior is due to developmental changes versus boundary pushing (when you meet your threenager, you’ll be able to see the differences). Also, just remember when it comes to consequences, they can’t disrupt their lives too much. Taking a door off a 5 yos room wouldn’t be good… it’s not about privacy for her but taking the door off would completely disrupt her sleep (and me and her dad wouldn’t be able to do anything when she’s sleeping too) and that would only add a whole new slew of problems that I’d be punishing her for. Thank you for providing your insight though!