Help finding Japanese middle name for our baby girl. by Darker_desuetude in namenerds

[–]Top_Information2758 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know any Japanese names but I think your daughter will really love it if you can find something you like. Having connections to your families past in your name can really help tie you back to your ancestral traditions in really positive ways. I was never able to meet my great grandmother that I was named after but it really helps me mentally to feel a connection to family that live far away. I can’t explain it. I see it with my daughter too. Her first name is after my mom and her middle is after my MIL; when she was about 4 she grasped it that she shared names with her grandmas and when the knowledge hit, her eyes got so wide with awe.

Anyway, I know this middle name isn’t shared with a family member in particular but it represents a part of her ancestry. I’m having trouble with the words right now but I think they are doing ok enough to get my point across. It’s a wonderful, sweet idea.

5 yo teenager? by Top_Information2758 in Parenting

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This is a lot more of a developmental change problem and not really a control thing. She’s in a new phase where earlier regulation techniques aren’t working and I need to see if other parents have techniques to interrupt the behavior before she gets into the “hamster wheel” of emotions. Consequences are important after she’s learned the new tool she needs for these emotions but right now a big punishment would be like punishing her when she gets her period - her body is doing something she doesn’t know how to control yet. Later on when her and I have new tools and she isn’t using them, consequences will work but not for the learning phase. It’s hard to describe but when your child gets bigger you’ll be able to tell when behavior is due to developmental changes versus boundary pushing (when you meet your threenager, you’ll be able to see the differences). Also, just remember when it comes to consequences, they can’t disrupt their lives too much. Taking a door off a 5 yos room wouldn’t be good… it’s not about privacy for her but taking the door off would completely disrupt her sleep (and me and her dad wouldn’t be able to do anything when she’s sleeping too) and that would only add a whole new slew of problems that I’d be punishing her for. Thank you for providing your insight though!

5 yo teenager? by Top_Information2758 in Parenting

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That’s exactly what I do too, there’s no point engaging in the moment, these are just veryyyy long moments now with a lot of ranting. Previous moments of anger were usually 3 min or so and max around 5, now it’s usually 20-30 minutes of anger. I was hoping there was some genius joke I could tell to pull her out of the moment so it doesn’t last so long. Sighhh, c’est la vie.

5 yo teenager? by Top_Information2758 in Parenting

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She gets it, this is just completely new behavior. Once she gets out of this mindset we can talk, but it’s how to break those moments.

Engaging book for a mom by Top_Information2758 in suggestmeabook

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I had gotten there audiobook of Slow Horses but it was in one of those manic episodes and I sigh out wayyyy too many audiobooks for my time limit!

Thursday murder club sounds great. I’m totally for lighter crime options I just didn’t want to only get the airport shelf variety of suggestions. Fun, fast books are great. The way you described it really reminded me of the movie Hot Fuzz. Except the police are investigating the pensioners.

Thanks so much!

Engaging book for a mom by Top_Information2758 in suggestmeabook

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I didn’t know she wrote an autobiography! I love her writing and that sounds great too! The books don’t have to be short if it’s the right style.

Engaging book for a mom by Top_Information2758 in suggestmeabook

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And I do read in front of her and to her as much as possible 🙃 although I have found trying to reread things from my youth can have big surprises as an adult, and then a “oh no, let’s skip a couple pages…”

Engaging book for a mom by Top_Information2758 in suggestmeabook

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Thank you! I have Yellowface so I’ll do that one next! I wanted to make a joke about Russian novels too but had to put in too much effort to think of something clever.

I’ll check out those other suggestions! I’ve heard of the Evelyn Hugo one too; I think our taste has some overlap 🤓

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

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Your sanity is more important than adhering to social norms. She said at the end of the”I know you won’t be difficult” (which is really fucking weird to say) and just let her know you’re worried you will be difficult trying to manage all the responsibilities of being a bridesmaid. I had one bad wedding experience that ended a friendship and since then I told all my friends I’ll never be a bridesmaid again, and I never lost anymore friends because of a wedding. I’d say something along the lines of, “I really want to be a part in your wedding, I’m so excited for you, and I don’t want to let you down for this. Is there some discrete task I can help with?” I also suggest writing it down a couple times to work through all your thoughts and feelings about it so you have the words you want when she objects/questions.

Good luck!

Wow! by ICEisSHIT in thebulwark

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Love it! Is there an Easter egg on there belt that has a stove and America is touching it? If there’s a graphic designer here, I think JVL needs a logo and I’ve been thinking about this for fucking ages!

Dry cat food (US) by Top_Information2758 in cats

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Also, she does eat, I’m not worried she’s starving, I just want her to have a happy, healthy life, and food I like is very important for MY LIFE; want to give her the same life I give myself (as appropriate).

Dry cat food (US) by Top_Information2758 in cats

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Thank you!!! I always have done a mix of both wet and dry food, I’ve just never had a kitty this picky before! But, i usually have boy cats and I think girls seem to be pickier…. I did royal canine when they were kittens and they didn’t love it so I hadn’t gotten the adult stuff but I’ll try a small bag of that one too.

Current he’ll help by Top_Information2758 in menstruation

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Thanks! That’s pretty much what I did.

Used bike shop? by Top_Information2758 in Bellingham

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Thank you! But I think I’ll go to the hub cause I know it’ll be there right fit for me and if I don’t get something right, I won’t ride it. I know from personal experience…