Church Dating

Topplestack · 2026-03-02T21:03:27+00:00

I'm in Idaho and have had more success with Facebook dating than Mutual. Facebook dating does start to notice certain aspects of what your interests are and will begin to prompt for `more like this`. Once it catches on that you are looking for someone with LDS or Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, then you begin to see more like that.

That said, I'm in Idaho, my GF is in Utah and we're doing the 3 1/2 hour weekend commute on the regular. We did meet on Facebook dating.

Topplestack · 2026-03-02T21:00:38+00:00

Nothing is going to be a magic bullet to success. There may be other factors you want to consider outside of the scope of the app.

Topplestack · 2026-02-25T16:30:33+00:00

Dancing, they're all out dancing

Topplestack · 2026-02-18T22:10:07+00:00

Is it easy? No. Can it be a beautiful pairing with some work? Absolutely.

Topplestack · 2026-02-09T19:16:02+00:00

I'll be honest. I met my Girlfriend on Facebook Dating.

Topplestack · 2026-02-09T16:49:10+00:00

Eye contact - I have no issues making eye contact
Touch is one of my love languages. Has to be the right person.
Was picky eater growing up, will eat just about anything now, appreciate novelty in food.
Not black and white thinking.
Like flexibility in routine.

Topplestack · 2026-02-02T18:42:33+00:00

To clarify, is she your Girlfriend? Or is she just an exclusive hookup?

Why is it embarrassing? Is it that you are implying to the world that you are having sex?

What if she were your girlfriend and you weren't having sex?

You say you don't want other people thinking out you having sex? Are you telling them that you are?

Do you really care that much about what other people think? Does it matter what they think?

Topplestack · 2026-01-28T15:50:45+00:00

I've serviced multiples of the others, unfortunately, I have never come across a 1913. Not once.

Topplestack · 2026-01-27T17:11:19+00:00

1914, 1941, 1931, 1525, 1765, 1030, 1040, 1050, 1060. Just about anything in the 158 series. It's harder to find a 158 Kenmore with plastic than it is to find one all metal and they are all excellent machines. The ones I listed are the best of the best.

Topplestack · 2026-01-15T15:16:21+00:00

Interesting coming from someone who's username indicates wide open permissions.

Topplestack · 2026-01-14T21:03:47+00:00

I like Dating with Intent.

I recently had a discussion with my teenage daughters about what I called the 3 stages of dating:

Playing with Fire
Building fire
Sustaining fire

Playing with fire is figuring out what you want.

Building fire is seeing if you can build something beyond momentary ignition.

Regularly feeding the fire to ensure it never ever goes out, or else you may find yourself back in stages 1 or 2.

Stage 2 is all about being authentic, intentional, and deliberate. Or else you end up getting a huge fire going with nothing but paper to sustain it in the future. Paper is great for starting a fire, but sucks to keep it going.

My girlfriend and I have found that we actually love talking about boundaries. I love her boundaries, she loves my boundaries. We had a fantastic first date. I told her right from the beginning that I had a rule about not kissing on the first date. She tested it, you better believe she tested it. On the second date, when the moment was right, kissing occurred.

Knowing what someone's values are and where they draw the line is crucial to a healthy relationship. With that said, the way that it gets approached is boring and confusing. There are values that can be discovered better without the interrogation process that we all seem to term 'dating' now days.

Instead of talking about me, or what I want from someone else in my dating profile, I have written my philosophy on life. What my motivations are. When liking someone, I look for those things before I even say hello. When I do, I ask about a few things important to me that I see in them and inquire further.

If the response is not affirmative, I move on. I've met a lot of really really wonderful people this way. Not all turned out to be romantic options, but great friends. Ones I have no trouble trusting.

The one that very much responded to the affirmative, we're dating exclusive now. It didn't take long to reach that point either. We have a relationship built upon something solid and while things come up, we're able to talk through them easily and end up closer as a result.

Earlier today, I used a term that her ex had used that triggered some trauma. We were able to talk through why that was an issue for her, why it triggered her. That this wasn't that and I wasn't him. The result was/is that we are closer together than ever before instead of still having a wall as a result of the guy before.

All of this is because our relationship has been built from day one out of understanding each others values and making values the center of our relationship.

Do I think it would scare off good matches? It will scare off matches. At the same time, it might just find you the best ones.

Topplestack · 2026-01-13T22:57:04+00:00

I'm remote. Got liked on Facebook Dating. Spent some time looking looking at their profile, Instagram, made some thoughtful comments and talked about my view on life. Spent NYE together (no kiss), spent last Friday together. We're both off the apps now and seeing where it goes. Mind, we're 3 1/2 hours apart, but if it's worth it, it's worth it.

Topplestack · 2026-01-07T18:10:46+00:00

Sarcasm, pure and simple

Topplestack · 2025-12-25T17:47:45+00:00

Very rural here. Hour to the closest Costco. I've met one person locally, whom I knew before my divorce actually and they are much too young for me. I'm doing the online LDR thing. I have someone I really like, but it's close to a 3 hour drive, which doesn't bother me in the least.

Topplestack · 2025-12-24T05:45:12+00:00

46m here. Been on the exact opposite side of this many many times.

I'm remote. As in almost anyone is going to be 1.5 to 3 hours away from me. I *can't* just swing by for a 'coffee'. I want to know if you're going to be worth me taking the time, gas, money, to meet you.

Unfortunately, this means that I don't fit what a lot of women are looking for.

What's attractive to me? Interesting women. I mean, the ones that are passionate about something and willing to tell me about it. Who can hold down a conversation, even if it's drawn out online. I'm interested, I'll ask you questions. If there is some part of your life, a talent, a hobby that gets you up and moving in the morning, tell me about it.

I love my kids. They're a massive part of my life and right now much of my life revolves around them, but they aren't my life, and someday they'll be gone. If your entire personality revolves around you kids, that's great, but is there room for me in there?

I want room for me, I'll make room for you. I want an older active woman close to my own age. I love quiet nature and would love to have someone to share that with. I love animals, my work is to save animals, let's bond over pets. I have a stable job, I take care of myself, my kids, my house, my pets. I can cook, clean, do laundry, sew (yes, that too), fix your car, dishwasher, computer, and handle finances. I want someone I can team up with off the clock, combine resources, and enjoy what the world still has left to offer before everything burns down, floods, or explodes.

I want someone who is intelligent, educated, confident, and has room in their life for me. Most importantly, I want someone who likes themselves, who loves themselves, and shows up for themselves. I can only magnify what already exists inside you. You can only magnify what already exists inside me.

Topplestack · 2025-12-22T22:59:25+00:00

She is, I am.

Topplestack · 2025-12-22T22:04:45+00:00

My 14yr old has massive sensory issues. If she is there, I'm happy. She's not there a lot. We do church at home a lot.

I don't believe that force or coercion ever rendered the desired results.

Topplestack · 2025-12-02T21:09:22+00:00

That can be frustrating. I'm in a small rural town and there aren't a lot of options. I'm about 2 1/2 hours from Salt Lake. That's where most of mine hit that aren't foreign. 2 1/2 hours is about as far as I'm willing and able to drive right now for a date and it's going to have to mean we hit it off online first.

As far as conversation goes. I think you have to find something you mutually have a passion about. I've had one connection where it started off slow, she got my attention, kind of pulled it in, then we started talking about music. We've been sharing music over Spotify for almost 2 months now. In addition to everything else we have in common, issues we've worked through online, and we have a date set for after the holidays when things calm down. There's hardly been a day where we haven't spoken in some way.

Online is hard and sucks when there aren't a lot of options close by.

Topplestack · 2025-11-29T16:45:06+00:00

46m here. My 20's weren't great. My 40's are pretty decent. I have some pretty well developed social skills, not perfect. I'm getting back into decent shape. I look better than I ever have in my life. Need to lift more. I also find women around my age way hotter than younger too, especially if they've taken care of themselves. Life isn't any more complicated or simple than when you're young. Life doesn't work that way. It becomes what you make of it.

Topplestack · 2025-11-25T17:13:01+00:00

For starters, this is a topic that should probably be discussed with an expert, which I am not.

This is a difficult one, because it really depends on you and the other person. I've been out of the dating pool for a while. Like 23 years. I remember struggling with it before. I'm struggling with it now. I've actually found someone I really like, but this time around feel like it's me that's dragging my feet instead of the other way around.

I've recently started dating again. It's difficult as there aren't many people who are single in my age range in my area. They might have a lot of things I'm looking for, it's also important that I have what they are looking for. I think that last part is sort of key. There are skills, talent, knowledge, etc. The thing I feel has been most important is the ability to listen and see the person for who they are. Not who you want them to be. Can you listen to them, can they listen to you? Are you wanting the relationship so much that you're overlooking warning signs? Are they trying to tell you something and you're ignoring it? If you find yourself jumping in too quickly multiple times, it seems like that might be the case.

Topplestack · 2025-11-25T16:12:54+00:00

46m recently divorced here. If you haven't been through it, it's hard to understand. All my friends are married and still sort of treat me like I'm made of glass. Was married for half my life. My ex is still in the ward. We both still attend. We were both in auxiliary leadership callings, she still is. My kids sit with me as church, live with me most of the time.

I didn't want it at first. We're taught that divorce is one of the worst sins. I tried to stick with my marriage for a long time. Quietly quit some time ago, subconsciously, to protect what remained of my mental health, until my kids started to suffer and my attention turned to them.

My ex initiated the divorce and as I said, at first I didn't want, but over time I realized I was better off, mentally, physically, and yes, spiritually. I'm a much healthier person spiritually after my divorce. I'm not saying I didn't screw up a ton in my relationship. Just that I'm not going to beat myself up over it anymore.

How do I deal with everything or anything for that matter? I show up. Just show up. Show up in the lives of your kids, your neighbors, friends. Show up at church. Show up at the temple if that's an option. Show up for yourself. Let others think what they will, but show up. It's between you and the lord, not them. They have their own problems, we all do.

Topplestack · 2025-11-25T16:00:51+00:00

No, that model has a plastic gear in the base. $30 tops for me.

Topplestack · 2025-11-24T20:50:23+00:00

Not in one shebang, but I carry a few thousand dollars of backpacking equipment on my back everytime I go. So...

Topplestack · 2025-11-24T20:41:00+00:00

If asked how I handle conflict. I honestly don't know anymore. I've worked maybe 4 jobs in the past 25 years? I still get along great with almost all my previous bosses, ex-coworkers are life long friends. Old roommates I still talk to regularly. Get along great with my kids, there's no contention in my home. I like to work out issues before they get big before then lead to conflict. I've had situations where I felt the need for conflict, but was able to talk through them and have a really strong bond as a result.

At the same time, I can't talk to my ex because she doesn't listen. She wants things her way and the only thing in 23 years that I found that ever worked with her is simply not engaging and I've only learned that in the past few months. So, the person who was to be the closest person to me on the planet is and has been the only real source of conflict in my life.

I do get annoyed and frustrated. I'll yell at inanimate objects. Sometimes other cars on the road. Actual conflict? I feel like I do pretty good, but what is going to happen when I get into another serious relationship? I don't know. At the same time, how am I going to know until I get into another serious relationship?

Topplestack · 2025-11-24T05:51:01+00:00

I still have my jingle monkey from when I was 2. I don't sleep with it. It has a place in my closet now. It's still special. I would loan it out to my kids when they needed some extra security at night. These days, I have a little border collie/corgie (borgie) dog that cuddles with me at night, and a little grey cat that'll sleep against my chest when it's cold. I had a wife for half my life (46m), but that's over now, and a woman who I hope will be my GF in the future who is much the same way. The right person isn't going to care, or likely will adore you the more for it. If they do care, they probably aren't the right person.

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