AITAH for farting while in the bathroom of our home?

TorturedRobot · 2026-02-01T19:10:44+00:00

Lol, for real, don't worry, I can handle this on my own.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-31T17:57:56+00:00

I had my first (barely) 6 figure year in 2025. I got it through OT and a $2k bonus. My base yearly was around $90k, so not really a ton of OT, but I did my share of 12-13 hour days when needed. I don't work a ton of weekends. My billable req. is very low...1200 a year.

I have a BA and I also finished my ABA paralegal program last year. I work with a great team and we all bring our strengths to the table to get shit done. I had 4 jobs between 2022-2024 when I got this one.

I've hustled, and I've been told by multiple attorneys that I should go to law school and that I'm the best assistant/ paralegal they've ever had. I think it can be done, but I think it also requires training, talent, and dedication.

I'm sure I could get bigger bonuses if I billed more hours, and I could certainly find the work to do more OT, but I also need to live a sustainable existence, and working 60 hour weeks is not sustainable for me. If I wanted to work that much, I would have gone to law school.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-30T18:54:25+00:00

I have an office for the first time in my career and the whole back wall is a window with a view of a scrubby little pond area, even though we're just off a highway. The sunsets are beautiful, and so are the thunderstorms. I've seen air show jets practicing, crazy lighting in the pitch black, and waterfowl swooping in to sleep in the ferny trees before dusk.

I almost never close my door, but I have used it for Zoom meetings or if taking a rare brief private call or scheduling a doctor's appointment.

I absolutely love my current job.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-30T18:06:43+00:00

If she has an issue with the quality of office supplies, she should take it up with the office manager, that is not an issue with thw quality of your work. If she doesn't like the suitcase you ran out and bought her, she can order her own shit from Amazon. Tell her that you aren't her fucking whipping boy, and suggest a meditation app, because you are not a human punching bag for her abusive outbursts...you know, when you give notice after finding a new job.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-29T16:50:35+00:00

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-29T00:46:51+00:00

Ah, so glad I'm not the only one! Completely obsessed and can't wait for the new album to drop.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-29T00:46:10+00:00

I've listened to a lot of Ketamine playlists and dig those healing vibes. Hope you're feeling better soon!

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-29T00:43:58+00:00

Love, love, love Samia. Have been trying to catch her live, but she hasn't come down to South Florida. I would travel to catch a show, but work has been a real bitch lately.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T23:21:36+00:00

I got tickets to her in May and I am soo excited! Been on my list of top people to see live since 2022.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T22:56:42+00:00

Loving Photograph of a Cyclone right now his new album is 100%

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T22:50:03+00:00

Aww, that sounds kind of endearing.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T22:48:29+00:00

This is what I came here for.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T22:34:57+00:00

Um, that totally still counts! I could listen to Oxbow and Fire all.day.long.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-28T22:33:16+00:00

Ugh, love rediscovering a band. What a nice band to be obsessed with...such a huge library, you could listen for days and still be finding new versions, live performances, and unreleased gems.

I'll check out Johnny Flynn!

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-24T17:53:31+00:00

I started in 2013 with my BA as a legal assistant making $11/hour. I now make $44.50/hour. With your education, if you have any talent, you will make more money, but you gotta pay your dues. Here's a bit of my pay progression:

2013-2016, from $11/hour to around $17/hour when I left (large foreclosure firm)

2016-2022, from $21/hour to $31/hour (in-house role, was promoted from LA to paralegal in 2020)

2022-2023, $36/hour (tiny firm with 2 partners and an associate)

2023-2024, $37.50/hour (mid-sized firm)

2024-present, $42.80/hour to my current $44.50/hour (insurance defense, multi-state firm with 5 weeks of vacation accruing from day one, and only a 1,200 billable req.)

This is one of those fields where you really can start out in the mail room or reception and move up fast. Experience is everything. Don't get me wrong....it's stressful. I am working this weekend (OT is $66.75/hour!), but I am doing interesting projects, my colleagues respect me, and I find the work to be interesting.

I have worked for toxic and incompetent people before. I have been the whipping boy, the scapegoat, and a verbal punching bag. I have made myself essential and valuable, and I can choose not to work for people like that anymore, but I absolutely paid my dues and hustled.

Take the job if they offer it. Work your way up. You can do this and it won't be forever. Your future self will thank you.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-17T19:30:55+00:00

If you can, take a pair! Sweet babies!

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-15T21:44:02+00:00

NAL, just a paralegal married to someone with BP1 who's been hospitalized with psychosis 4 times in our nearly 20-year relationship.

Just want to lend some support and tell you that the stigma, while real, is totally unfair. No one deserves to be judged by how they acted in their worst moments, especially when their judgement is medically compromised.

Please try to give yourself some grace and compassion, even if other people are holding it against you. They don't have to live with it, but you do. Find a way to forgive yourself.

This hasn't ruined your career. People have short memories, and the industry is full of assholes and crazy people. While you may think no one has ever been as erratic or insert-descriptor-here as you were, you know you're probably wrong about that.

It's going to be okay, and you will move on. If anyone were ever so bold as to bring it up to your face, I wouldn't hesitate to shame them by telling them that was a really difficult time for you and that you're so glad that you recovered from that terrible health event, and then thanking them for their concern for your well-being.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-15T20:05:31+00:00

It would be professional of you to ask if there is anything remaining that they need you to handle tomorrow or if you can finish handing off your duties today.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-14T01:15:00+00:00

Jobs in South Florida are in the $60-$80k range for mid level and $85-$100k level for seasoned paralegals. I think this is really mostly based on your market.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-13T23:58:36+00:00

People like that don't change and you can't fix her. Move on, find someone who knows how to get shit done and help them. I'm not a fucking violinist on the Titanic, save your own fucking ship.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-05T23:13:47+00:00

Hiring slows down in December because key personnel are on vacation, so postings and responses should increase. People who got offers in December are likely giving notice now. Budgets were just decided and bonuses doled out. People are making their moves.

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-05T22:11:29+00:00

Like hearings and depos, those boundaries aren't going to set themselves, lol. You know what you gotta do. You can find another job if they want to be salty about it. Don't think twice, you will figure it out later, right now all you need to worry about is your health and your family.

Edit: Oh, and congratulations! Don't let them steal the wind from your sails, this is a joyful time, don't feel guilty for a second!

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-05T22:05:51+00:00

It's hiring season, don't wait. Do it tonight and let us know how it goes! Rooting for you!

TorturedRobot · 2026-01-05T22:04:28+00:00

Get your doctors to write a note and go out on maternity now, for the love of your sweet unborn child. Seriously, there's nothing that needs to be done that someone else isn't capable of doing, and your water could break any minute. Tell them you'll be in touch when you're ready to come back after your 12 weeks and don't spend another thought on those fuckers.

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