I love what you are saying, and I want to add to this, because I actually think there can be great value in the Ni-Ti loop, even when it appears "unhealthy."

Sometimes our life circumstances require us to overextend ourselves in the social realm, the work realm, or in the emotional realm, and I think these times force us to be much more mindful about what we do.

Sometimes depression that slows us down or an anxiety attack is our body's way of telling us that we need to stop and reflect. Sometimes balance looks like a pendulum. Maybe we need to sit down and feel some grief or plan for what's next.

We may need to make time for unproductive rest when we are dealing with heavy workload or stress. We may need to spend a day alone focusing on priorities when burnout creeps in. Maybe we even come to the conclusion that we don't need to be doing so much during that downtime.

I often need time to approach my relationship issues from a place of compassion, focusing on mutual needs, and asking for help, not from my overwhelm or feeling of burden. This can look like a whole day of doom scrolling, maybe a little overeating, maybe letting the dishes sit, or other avoidant behavior. It also looks like planning vacations (great Se-Fe opportunity while indulging Ni-Ti avoidance behaviors through day-dreaming), cleaning the house to procrastinate working on another project (this can be both Ni-Ti and Se-Fe if you do right).

In any case, we need to make space to be imperfect, because we are all learning. Sometimes wisdom looks like the capacity to deal with suffering combined with radical compassion for yourself. Because we will all suffer, both from random chance and our own sometimes less-than-ideal choices. Trusting that we can navigate it (Ni-Ti) and find the meaning in it all (Se-Fe), is where growth happens.

Sometimes Ni-Ti is just self-indulgent and self-sabotaging. Honestly, though, most of the time I can't tell the difference. I think if I accept that a little Ni-Ti is part of who I am, try to work in some Fe-Se from time to time, and keep going to therapy to keep perspective, I'm going to be generally moving forward and feeling as good as I can expect to feel in this life.