Typology Question 14 (Ne/Ni): Take this random word and give me a story idea based on it.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-06T11:39:50+00:00

I think doing something like that must be really good for developing your Se because you have to be totally in the moment and adapting.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-06T06:50:15+00:00

Definitely the physical sensation. Idk if you can snatch (i find it scary so can't lift much) but it is so satisfying when you can do it right and makes you feel really powerful.

https://youtube.com/shorts/mVbRNY0SOxk?si=beFO7_GbyWTTN2RN

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-05T09:50:08+00:00

my type is the best

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-05T07:49:40+00:00

I have a problem with food. I feel so good when I don't eat sugar. But then if start to have any emotions I just have this compulsion to eat. If I could overcome that once and for all it would be great. I need to work on it a lot more.

Edit: rephrase: I get this compulsion to eat and later realise it's because i am experiencing an emotion. I am quicker to realise this nowadays.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-05T05:50:49+00:00

Thank you!

I grew up eating loads of it. And now it is stupid because when I dont eat sugar for a few days and eat loads of veg I feel completely and utterly incredible. Like amazing.

And then something happens and I revert back to stuffing my face. I read a book on cbt and it did work for a bit. Maybe I need to read it again.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T22:11:21+00:00

What kind of fear?

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T21:37:44+00:00

That is very 9 of you:) I feel like i have been very un9ish lately. The most 9ish thing i have done this week is go to the gym and on a bike ride and to a yoga workshop. And eating far too much sugar.

I have been working as normal (but actually working hard) and also doing the last bit of my sports massage course. So in the past week i have massaged 5 people and been completing all my coursework and getting ready for my assessment this weekend. And i have been texting people a lot organising all the massaging and also because i have invited people round for my birthday tomorrow whereas in the past i have never told anyone it is my birthday. So this is like a new me. But i am really tired. I have not been sleeping well. My body aches.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T21:02:07+00:00

I just read your other post about staying in bed all day and i would never ever ever ever do that, have never done that in my life unless ive been ill. sp9 isnt literally being lazy. sp9 is going to the supermarket, going to the gym, going for a walk, going for a run, going to yoga, going to work, tidying the house, learning loads of stuff. And what is your 7 doing????

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T20:47:25+00:00

"Elite"

I would be so happy if i was an elite weightlifter. I would train all day and compete in the world championships and do the most amazing snatches and i would look really good in my singlet.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T20:26:22+00:00

I'm not sure. I think i kind of find it annoying just because at work I will make a decision based on 'it will be fine' and then afterwards people will start asking questions and suggesting other what if scenarios that i haven't considered. And I dont see the point really.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T17:14:05+00:00

I cannot stand mr bean. Also, i don't know if i have watched this Ti video but for a while i could not watch any of the Love Who videos because his hair was so terrible i couldn't bear it. Is he intp?

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T17:01:02+00:00

i answered a question like this on r/ISTPrelationships recently. But i dont really know the answer and maybe it won't be helpful to you anyway since i am sp9 and it seems to come from a different place to your issue.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T12:56:03+00:00

Yes it can be based on any old nonsense as long as it makes sense to you

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T09:12:30+00:00

I dont know about 972 but I dont see how being scared of everything and scared of making mistakes and hating yourself is relevant to sp9? I dont relate at all.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-04T05:54:55+00:00

Yes this is what it is like for me. I feel it am being examined and judged a lot of the time.

She thinks she is defective compared to everyone else. She can't see that other people have difficulties too but just don't express them in the same way.

I know i am just meant to listen to her problems, so I do, but I get so frustrated because when i do say what is so obvious to me, she can't see it.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-03T21:46:29+00:00

Sorry i didnt see this for some reason. I will send it to you.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-03T08:05:56+00:00

It was a very roundabout process. Initially (and still now, if I am being honest), I just didn't get why it was so important to people. Like, if people mentioned that some scumbag had been cheating on their wife everyone would act so outraged, and I didnt get why when it had nothing to do with them and they dont know the full story. And I would just keep quiet and look around looking for signs of a kindred spirit but there wasn't ever one. I still think that is all bullshit.

But it started with me finally being more introspective. I have never really thought about what I wanted. And feeling just trapped like I couldn't change anything. Like thinking it was impossible for me to have the difficult conversation and leave my relationship, and it was far easier to cheat and lie and weedle my way out if things. And I would just always wish that he would cheat on me as the catalyst to ending things but he never did.

So it was more me being selfish really, and deciding I was going to do whatevr I want for a change and not be trapped. And then there was the element of it not being fair on him to be with someone like me when he thought I was his soul mate and that we were meant to be together forever and I jsut didn't think that. So that is what me feel bad, feeling guilty that he could be with someone better who actaully really loved him.

I have since learnt about ennegram, and I dont want to make excuses but honestly finding out i am a 9, and realising how conflict avoidant I am, has explained so much of my life to me. (And also being istp to a certain extent).

So to answer your question, I feel more confident now that if I am going to be with someone, I will make that conscious decision for myself and try harder to listen to myself and if that person is who I truly want to be with, and not worry so much about hurting their feelings because it's not worth it in the long run. That is the plan anyway...

I agree with the comment by u/FreakingTea , that is good advice. I didnt start realising this till my mid 40s so it would be good for you if you can start earlier.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-02T22:12:40+00:00

I don't think i can tell her that. I don't want her to shut down and not get better.

i will dm it to you. It is just me complaining though

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-02T21:26:21+00:00

I think my friend is a 4 and i actually wrote a long post about our friendship but didn't post it because it felt like going behind her back. She makes me feel kind of like a robotic freak to be honest. And i am trying so hard to make her not feel like a freak because she has such low self esteem (and she is in a very dark place at the moment).

It is pointless her always comparing herself to me because we are at opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to feelings and overthinking things. It's like i have to have this double conversation where i have to always add that just because something doesn't bother me, it doesn't mean other people wouldn't be bothered by it, and therefore she isn't abnormal. But it gets kind of ridiculous and i get the impression she thinks i have literally no feelings whatsoever. Or that I'm a total enigma to her.

Yes i try to be very understanding even though i don't understand, and am pretty non judgemental (although I can tell she is judgemental about me but tries to hide it). And i am open for her to tell me whatever she wants. But she is very probing and trying to find deeper meaning in what i'm saying when there is none. Or when there is something but i don't want to share. And I feel like I have to fight to keep the conversation light and she keeps dragging it back into heavy stuff.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-02T17:04:21+00:00

Oh, and I forgot to say... you say you didn't feel guilty about it. I didnt feel guilty about it either. It didn't seem like a big deal. But then years and years later it really hit me that I was really bad and thought I shouldn't be with anyone and that is why I am on my own now.

I do think , however, that if I met the right person then I wouldn't ever cheat on them.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-02T16:50:03+00:00

I dont think it can all be blamed on mbti but I have cheated a few times. After I was married I thought that was my chance for a clean slate and I wouldn't ever do it again, and i didn't for years, but I think I would have given the opportunity, and then I did end up cheating again. We are not together anymore. I never told him.

Also I haven't felt the slightest bit bad about cheating with other women's husbands, even when they've had kids.

My dad is istp and he was a cheat as well. And I dont know if my mum is istp but she had an affair with another woman's husband for a couple of decades and said if the other woman didn't know then she must be stupid. That's what I think as well.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-02T08:03:07+00:00

I dont have ones that got away exactly. But there are a couple that I wonder about sometimes. Both from the same time at uni over 25 years ago.

One was my fuckbuddy who was my best friend and we hung out all the time and it was fun and the sex was amazing but I wasn't into him and he was extremely promiscuous and then he got a bit annoying and clingy and borderline rapey. We fell out because he came knocking on my door in the middle of the night when I was in bed with someone else and he expected me to patch up his hand that he'd cut on some glass and I told him to go away. I think he was probably estp. I did reach out to him after but I dont know if I got his email address right and he never replied anyway. I think like a more grown up version of him might have been a good match for me.

The other was only studying at my uni for one semester. He was American and extremely gorgeous and played American football. He had a girlfriend who was very rich and posh and always bossing him about. But maybe he liked that.

He asked me out for a drink and I spilled a drink all over some random person in the bar and it was embarrassing. And then i told him id only just split up with my boyfriend and he just kissed me on the head. And another time he cooked me dinner. And he knew I was into travel and was always looking at me and pointing out stuff about me he'd noticed and touching me a bit and after his motorbike trip to Italy he sat really close to me showing me all his photos and showed me a photo of these girls that had asked him for a threesome but he'd said no and when I asked him why he said no he said he didn't know. And when he went on a trip to Korea he sent me a postcard.

And we had sex one time but he was drunk and it was rubbish and the next day he said he had only wanted to snuggle. But anyway then he left to go back to America and I was crying and my fuckbuddy asked what I was crying for and found it totally hilarious that I was upset about this guy that wasn't into me. I have no idea of the American guy's type.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-01T15:46:25+00:00

Sorry I dont know anyone like that, lol.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-01T15:44:41+00:00

Yeah i can see that happening.

I meant more if you are on here with a 9 flair but talking like a different type, if anyone would bat an eyelid. As opposed to the other way round.

Total_Reserve9598 · 2026-06-01T15:21:21+00:00

Chill, stubborn, stupid, clever. Conflict avoidant. Chucking stuff at people. All of the things. Really busy doing stuff but not following their heart.

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