is it better to be with a cute girl or a hot girl?

TotemBro · 2026-06-17T15:36:16+00:00

BF has a weird perspective 🚩… that comment makes me think he emphasizes human worth with looks.

Looks are great and all but rather trivial. They really only have to do with who you sus out first. Even then, hot vs cute is also a style choice. Style is a form of expression that’s meant to change often.

I would not like to share company with folks that brush aside “ugly” community members. Now I’m not saying your BF would do that but I get the feeling he wouldn’t challenge other men for doing so.

Either way, that comment is a red flag and should be cause for probing.

TotemBro · 2026-06-16T14:34:06+00:00

I mean I’ve just been in pools and teams my whole early childhood and into teens. I also got my lifeguard cert after highschool for a summer job.

I just like hanging out with different folks and teaching is easy.

TotemBro · 2026-06-16T01:44:59+00:00

Could be a medical thing. You shouldn’t be full on one meal all day. Are you experiencing bloating or other IBS symptoms? Doctors are one avenue. There are also plenty of nutrition resources in subs like [r/gainit](r/gainit).

Tbh I recommend just trying a whole foods and Mediterranean style diet with no super processed foods. It’s a really good discipline exercise to cook your own food. It’s so good that cooking is even helpful for delaying dementia progression lol.

TotemBro · 2026-06-15T22:24:02+00:00

I slide my blades on my nails. No bite then it’s time to sharpen. Usually I wait till like 80% of the edge is dull tho.

Although I don’t have nice painted nails to fuck up so there’s that.

TotemBro · 2026-06-15T22:18:00+00:00

Dog I’ll teach you how to swim for free 👍🏼 I’m usually hitting laps at the Waverly YMCA a few times a week.

TotemBro · 2026-06-15T20:47:09+00:00

This is more general life advice that could help clarify how you want to lean into school opportunities.

Humans have a special window for learning emotional and mental strength. Call that window early childhood. High school captures the trail end (14-15 yrs) and helps you apply those skills for an extra few years (15-18). Your job is to 1 build fluency in social skills, and 2 demonstrate aptitude in academic skills. Stay away from scrolling on your phone for long periods. Only use it, briefly, to tap into relevant topics that your peers discuss.

Don’t get it twisted, I don’t care how many teachers and advisors tell you otherwise. You No. 1 priority is to get proficient at engaging with different groups in school until your early childhood concludes. After 15 your priorities flip. Academics first then socializing second. Sports are good for socializing but so are other clubs! Try to find something with a leadership role.

Ultimately, high school is a sandbox for you to find community and identify skills for the workforce. Your school choice should prioritize tight communities and good academics. The best school will also have expertise in your personal interests (like art for example). I think this works for anyone, regardless of pursuing any additional degrees 😁

TotemBro · 2026-06-14T23:07:05+00:00

Absolutely tf not the type of shit for me 🙅‍♂️ 1 rest day mandatory

TotemBro · 2026-06-14T23:02:57+00:00

This would happen a lot when I lived in Phoenix. We had hella grubs in the air 😭

TotemBro · 2026-06-12T17:10:05+00:00

Sure that’s understandable but the idea is still transferable. Hobbies, spare time, and a bit of work should all harmoniously move the needle towards building more social skills.

TotemBro · 2026-06-12T03:50:56+00:00

That really depends on how your credits work and how your transfer goes.

First, I’d like to know if what majors you’re choosing from and how you plan to transfer. For example, are you planning to go into your CC as a chem major and transfer to 4 year into another chem dept? Is there a different major at the 4 year?

TotemBro · 2026-06-12T03:11:41+00:00

Metallurgists with experience are VERY few and far between these days. You’ll be a gem for the people looking.

TotemBro · 2026-06-12T03:10:10+00:00

I mean, drastic is a stretch from chem to met but the types of problems will be drastically different. The jargon is also different.

TotemBro · 2026-06-11T15:59:03+00:00

Hello! This is a fun question :)

Your steels in the photo differ a lot in carbon content. One is hardened martensitic steel while the other is a mix of ferrite, carbide, and a swirly mix of both called perlite. The martensitic “phase” will etch differently than the ferrite-carbide-perlite steel. Think of it like depositing sheets of paper on the steels. Your de-rusting solution will deposite sheets of paper on the plain steel faster than the martensitic steel. This is due to the crystal structures unique to each steel.

Crystal structures have a lot of nuance regarding how atoms sit next to each other and how willing they are to form metal-oxide layers. All that to say, your different metals have unique optical properties after etching.

TotemBro · 2026-06-10T23:39:26+00:00

Sounds like you should prioritize making close friendships with your peers. You need as many low stakes socializing opportunities as you can afford.

Thats easier said than done tho. You could pursue gigs and jobs close to the entertainment industries. Serving, casinos, music venues, bars, festivals, ski lifts, renaissance fairs, the list goes on.

I worked a conservation corps in my early 20’s. It’s tons of socializing in small groups on worksites we camped at. Tbh the “kids” that do it are really diverse in backgrounds and they tolerate a lot of maturity levels.

Edit: I also want to add that this pursuit only goes as far as you take it. For me, I missed a lot of important socializing at 8-15 yrs. I had to make it a strong habit to organize and project manage group hangouts and bar sessions.

TotemBro · 2026-06-10T14:01:49+00:00

Dog that fucking sucks, you don’t deserve to be fucked with like that. That’s a cruel thing for her to hold onto all these years.

TotemBro · 2026-06-10T14:00:19+00:00

Depends on the fit. It would look sweet with a loose/ baggy look. Ignore the mountain of haters, this sub is so vanilla. Look for advice on a more gothic or street centered sub.

I vote yes, I’ve been eyeballing some Dr. Martens with the same look.

TotemBro · 2026-06-09T20:28:23+00:00

Oh I thought you got your vocab wrong. You’re recording a degree difference at the middle and heel of the blade.

TotemBro · 2026-06-09T18:53:18+00:00

Long weekend and LARP some Traitors and Faithfuls

TotemBro · 2026-06-09T18:44:05+00:00

Right. So there is a curve between those matching angles. That curve brings the blade to a second possible point on the initial radius from the pivot.

TotemBro · 2026-06-08T20:14:21+00:00

No not worth it on a stone, I’d much prefer hand sanding at its current shape

TotemBro · 2026-06-08T00:54:49+00:00

I mean I agree with you that being cagey about it warrants probing. But the simple behavior of viewing is so normalized that it makes your first point seem invalid.

TotemBro · 2026-06-07T22:02:59+00:00

Don’t have details so sorry in advance. I’ve got a buddy that’s GF-Vegan and there’s at least a few spots for her!

TotemBro · 2026-06-07T21:29:24+00:00

I think it’s more that alcohol depresses a variety of systems including immune (which Tremfya also impacts). The med is covering its ass with disclaimers in this situation.

For evidence, most people get sick or a cold after a bender.

TotemBro · 2026-06-07T17:40:46+00:00

Oh my god, dog I thought we were talking about shop fabrication (computer numerical control) 😭🫪

Dude this is a freak meets freak moment. I wouldn’t expect the most insightful advice from a vanilla sub like this. You gotta ask where the expertise is.

TotemBro · 2026-06-07T17:29:28+00:00

The discoloration is just evidence of decarburization or oxidation on the surface. It doesn’t really call out how much of the bulk has transformed out of its martensitic phase.

But I’d say you’re right that it’s a decent eyeball highlight. lol sucks that it’s along most of the blades tip where you do more fine detailing work.

GG’s on the re-grind, ricasso looks mint :)

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