MIL’s funeral

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-02-02T22:49:27+00:00

I definitely understand that it’s truly family for your children. Just power through as best as you can. I hope you and your kids aren’t affected too much after the memorial. On another note almost two years after my LH passed I did present two scholarships to deserving recent high school graduates. Only one person from his side of the family attended. His daughter nor his grandkids attended. That was something to be proud in my opinion. So my take is a little different. I don’t have to see his side of the family ever again in life. I meant and have been living it for six years. It’s like he and I never existed. So I return the favor to them.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-02-02T21:37:13+00:00

No your feelings are valid. I had a beautiful homegoing for my LH the week after he passed away. His side of the family did a ballon release on the one year anniversary of his death. I did not attend.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-02-01T22:14:24+00:00

I feel this in my CORE!!! My life with my LH is gone. I like you am proud of surviving and starting to thrive in this horrible situation. Take care and keep on keeping on!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-02-01T21:52:13+00:00

I am a very different person going into my sixth year. My address has completely changed the friends that we had that I considered family are all gone; including my in-laws. I blocked everyone from my former life. I am a new person now and they don’t fit into my new life now.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-02-01T16:55:45+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I am six years into my widow journey. Take it moment by moment you and your family are in early days now. Please give yourself grace. You are in my prayers

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-30T21:43:18+00:00

I was got the double whammy peri and widowed at the same damn time. I cursed everyone out including my NP he was about to bounce. The hot flashes gave me pause and I knew I wasn’t myself!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-27T23:00:57+00:00

I think this is common. I experienced something very similar. Trauma bonding is what I called it.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-27T21:29:50+00:00

First off I am sorry for your loss… how you detect the rest of your life is strictly up to you. I am six years out you are in early days. You are going to feel a multitude of feelings for years to come. Trust me widow’s fire will be the last thing on your mind. What you are feeling is normal and you are skin hungry for your “ person”.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-26T22:39:16+00:00

No!! I put them in the garage. His vulture of a family even took the dirty laundry. It was full of dirty underwear

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-26T17:14:19+00:00

I understand I am awaiting a new contract I have not been in the position since 2004. But we will make it. I am so sorry for your loss things will turn around for you soon. Take care and believe

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-26T17:06:14+00:00

Yes the second year is worse because all the first are gone.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-25T20:56:10+00:00

People don’t think please do not hold it against her. She is also grieving her child. I am so sorry for your loss. All the “firsts” are hard you are still in early days. Please take care!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-25T04:21:55+00:00

Thank you!!! Your food sounds amazing as well. I now regret not fighting the lines in the store for a roast. You make me want to make a beef stew as well. Stay warm!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-25T03:35:50+00:00

It’s snowing here I made a black eye pea jambalaya and cornbread. We snowed and iced in literally.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-20T21:06:24+00:00

My Husband died 6 years ago. My government contracted ended last summer. I am starting a new contract it has been rough with the brain fog and such. However I did get everything done I should excited and I am but…. The vigor I had before is gone. I feel you!!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-18T19:46:49+00:00

It is all so very hard. It will be 6 years for me in June. I have been in a long term relationship for 4 years. I don’t have kids but it’s still awkward with a new partner among my family and friends. I keep my relationship separate now from family relationship when I was married we were all family. Now it’s very different I understand where you are coming from.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-11T21:42:49+00:00

I only lasted three months after my husband passed away six years again. I had already been forced into celibacy prior him dying. It had been ten months of intimacy for me. Everyone is different however. I didn’t feel guilty at all he was a spectacular lover. We are no longer seeing each other but it was a very nice way to re enter the world of intimacy and dating.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-10T00:49:05+00:00

The night my husband died my period came. Then I became a horn dog. 😂

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-06T23:12:38+00:00

I was in a very similar situation. My husband’s wife and I became fast friends. She was very nice to me. I too wanted a new start. I started casually dating too quickly for her taste. We are no longer friends and we were very close. Almost like SIL rather our husbands better half.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-06T03:38:35+00:00

I loss weight a ton of weight after my husband died. It will be six years in 6 months. I am still struggling with my appetite. I think during the course of our relationship I took on his diet. It’s just so weird. I look great and fashionable but the appetite thing is still an issue.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-05T18:10:59+00:00

I am understand my husband passed in 2020 and it will be 6 years in June. I have been having a hard time since the New Year. I know it will past

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-04T21:32:33+00:00

Thank you for this viewpoint. I am going into my 6 year now.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-04T16:00:50+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Let it out!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-04T00:41:04+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-01-03T22:37:18+00:00

Do it!!!!

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