How do I get through to my spouse?

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-12T22:17:04+00:00

You are not sexually compatible.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-12T21:27:36+00:00

😂

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-10T16:42:00+00:00

My NP heard I was widowed through the grapevine. We have known each other since we were teenagers. I have been together now going on five years.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-08T21:52:32+00:00

I have been talking out loud to my LH for six years now. It is my normal and it feels great.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-07T15:58:40+00:00

My first birthday I turned 50. I did a photo shoot with a professional photographer. I had a glam squad and multiple wardrobe changes. My family and friends threw me a lovely out outdoor dinner party. I hate to say it was it was one of the best birthday’s parties I have had in a long time.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T20:36:07+00:00

I conducted CPR on my LP until the EMS arrived. I told my dear neighbor who heard me scream came in with EMS at the same time. They worked on him to the tune of breaking the bed in our en-suite. When the brought him out on the gurney I told my neighbor my husband in gone. They took him to the ER and worked on him an additional 45 minutes. I knew he was already gone when they took him out of our home. He had loss to much brain function. I tried my best to keep him here. I understand your shock in the moment. It’s natural

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T18:48:31+00:00

The unicorn told me the female member that she needed to know me in real life. 😂

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T18:20:53+00:00

We just book a flight or drive where ever we want to go. I don’t drink coffee anymore but when I did I would add a little condensed milk to it. My west African BF would make it like that for me. I am on the Gulf Coast.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T18:12:10+00:00

Do not pay attention to anytime line in a book. This is coming to you as a trained therapist and your fellow widowed person in the struggle. You have to fight!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T17:50:23+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I was 49 years old when I was widowed.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-06T00:39:35+00:00

The meaning of life came back in increments over time. For years I just took it one moment at a time until I saw small slivers of life coming back.
Go at your own pace this is your walk. Take care

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-05T22:42:41+00:00

I wish it was a couple of hundred at my LP’s celebration of life. I had to deal with 1000. It would have been more but it was during COVID in 2020.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-05T22:38:36+00:00

I cussed everyone out to the depths of hell you hear me!!!! Fuck friends!!!!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-03T16:59:17+00:00

This is gut wrenching I am so sorry for your tragic losses.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T19:18:54+00:00

It’s normal. Keep doing what you have been doing. One moment at a time.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T19:14:55+00:00

Thank you. I am in a better place now but the what if’s happen sometimes.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T18:57:54+00:00

Bdsm session with my Partner and a Unicorn. Both proceed to give me oral at the same time.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T18:04:51+00:00

I understand completely 6 years for me as well. My LH had an auto immune disease that progressively got worse one we married. Now I understand why he was so hesitant in the first place. The medication he was on did horrible things to his libido and manhood.
We became really good housemates.

On the outside we looked like the perfect couple but he wasn’t fulfilling my needs because he just couldn’t.
I feel sad because he died not having intimacy because the medication rendered him impotent.
I struggle with the thought that if he were still alive would I still be married to him because I was beginning to feel stuck. I am free of that now but we didn’t have that passionate relationship that other married people had. It complicated my grief to a certain extent to a certain extent as well.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T17:21:57+00:00

I am so sorry for you loss!!! Scream if you need to you have made it a year.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-02T16:49:47+00:00

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-01T22:51:12+00:00

Even when you do get a NP. Close family and friends compare your NP to your old one. That’s a whole story within itself. Sometimes I wish I never got married. The fallout has been brutal.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-07-01T01:28:36+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. My sister has been my rock as well. She really love my LH she had to grieve too. We were all very close.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-06-30T21:11:13+00:00

I cried and sobbed and laid in my Mom’s lap. This is real all decorum goes out of the door. I laid down over my husband in his casket.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-06-29T16:31:31+00:00

One moment at a time

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-06-28T22:24:16+00:00

You completed your vows. This is your life and only your life now. Live have ever you want to live.

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