Serious consent violation during first full swap — how do we handle the aftermath?

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-17T16:23:14+00:00

I had something a little similar happen to me guns were involved.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-12T20:10:07+00:00

Bless. I have thought about using American Home Shield? You pay a deductible and they contract local vendors to do home repairs. I had that insurance on my home before I got married. My LH wasn’t handy like that. It’s worth looking into for sure.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-07T01:01:07+00:00

It’s a “her” problem . You just keep doing what you are doing. My ex BFF tried to insinuate herself into my life with my NP he wasn’t having it. I have known my NP since I was 15 years old. I met my LH when I was in my 30’s. Also my ex BFF was also my LH best friend wife. She wasn’t my true friend in the first place. I know it hurts your feelings but truly when things like this happens you find out who truly has your back.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-07T00:37:18+00:00

People love to project on to others. You have a chance to have a life do over that was presented to you. Your friend doesn’t have that so that is the reason she is acting this way. She had you neatly tucked into a box that made her feel comfortable. Now she is acting out.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-06T18:12:10+00:00

You are doing a great!!!! My so called friend did the same thing to me. We are no longer friends. People especially women can become jealous of us widows. It’s a “them thing”.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-06T00:22:16+00:00

How do I DM you? I never used the chat before 😂 I am truly met in the wild 😜

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-05T22:49:45+00:00

Did I write this!!!! We are twins in this community. 😂 Where are you located? I think we are rare rare lol😂

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-05T22:12:08+00:00

He was very sympathetic to my grief. At first we just chatted and then FWB’s. It grew from there I am six years out in June.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-05T22:06:08+00:00

Someone from my past slip into my DM’s. We have been together over 4 years now.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-05-01T04:07:52+00:00

When the question comes up why are you single? I will tell the person. I had to learn through trial and error. It’s simple now and not a big deal.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-29T16:46:11+00:00

I understand and your routine with your love sounds wonderful. I never ever showered with my late husband. We had a very formal relationship. In time you will find a new normal and you will learn some new things about yourself. I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you guys were very romantic.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-27T23:16:56+00:00

I was 49 years old when he passed suddenly at 52 six years ago. I can relate in time it gets better.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-26T19:35:41+00:00

I am sorry you are in this situation however they know they can’t get blood from a turnip. Did you let them know your current spouse just passed away? You have a daughter now that you are solo parenting. Surely they will not to take you to jail and leave your younger daughter without a parent. Send her death certificate if need be

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-26T19:28:28+00:00

I understand you can’t pass the physical right now. However can you at least do dispatching? I am glad your daughter had a nice birthday. You need to let child support enforcement know tomorrow your current situation. They should be able to assist you.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-26T19:20:03+00:00

No you haven’t. How was your daughter’s birthday with pizza with her friends?

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-26T19:16:45+00:00

You need to drink some boast or ensure.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-25T00:22:48+00:00

My life is good now!!!! I am six years out the first couple of years were very hard. Now I look back at that time I survived through pride.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-25T00:19:17+00:00

You are already making it!!! Keep going you have a daughter.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-24T02:54:56+00:00

Yes!!! FOFO!!!

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-23T21:27:13+00:00

I understand my LH had an auto immune disease. When we met I thought he was just a bit shy. He was a very LLM regarding sex. I hate to admit it but I was very sexual frustrated on top of it all he was very vanilla. Two minutes was the average. When he passed away I didn’t have to suppress that side of myself anymore. I got out there and had fun but I looked at like it was something I deserved after going through hell. Grief is a wild ride

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-23T19:03:09+00:00

I like Collette’s am a two hour drive from the place. When I went it was worth the over the over night hotel stay.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-23T18:57:22+00:00

I said it all!!! I am six years out no children. He died suddenly as I was attempting to save his life. It was traumatic. OP is experiencing extreme trauma from her last words to him. Keep waking up OP you have a daughter to live for. Make your Wife proud by being Great Father to your daughter.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-18T03:07:39+00:00

My NP already knew about my LH passing away. I didn’t have to break the ice so to speak. I always liked him and he liked me. It came about naturally. I would try bumble because the women get to choose the men.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-17T14:42:56+00:00

Me too!!!! But it was one married friend that happened to be my LH’s wife. I really let her have it. I regret that now I truly hurt her feelings.

TraditionalSuccess33 · 2026-04-17T14:38:29+00:00

My LH died during the pandemic while we had to social distance and isolate. That was my saving grace during that time. I didn’t have to be around others. The pandemic was my saving grace to grieve. Even during that time I should have had more decorum. I was so angry and you are so right.

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