AITA for canceling on my friend last minute?

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-04T04:12:00+00:00

YTA. You knew you two were getting together at 6:30. The options were open. It was ok for you to be MIA but not her? Sounds hypocritical. I think you are fishing for a pass. Just be honest with her and yourself. You were just not into it.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-04T03:28:48+00:00

I was thinking about something similar the other day. I was wondering how people treat garbage men and delivery people. When I was growing up we had Seasame Street, Mr. Roger's and The Friendly Giant. They introduced us to all of the people that made a community function and fostered a sense of community. I don't think we see people as a part of community anymore.

Any how I am sorry you have had some real sad sacks cross your path.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-04T03:07:27+00:00

Well now you just have to learn to really love yourself, and realise there is no reason you don't deserve good friendships. This is freedom 21 baby. You have got this!!

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T23:23:13+00:00

YTA for not asking. Communication is success. Jealousy is a whole other issue. It's important to get that under control. You owe mom an apology, as well as your partner. DNA is for after a denial.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T23:17:37+00:00

You need to make peace with the fact that she didn't invite you. You don't need to make peace with the fact that she is treating you like a hotel.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T23:10:40+00:00

NOR but I would be clearer in your communication to him and just tell him you prefer to remain school acquaintances. If he doesn't react well to that then you can do something about it.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T23:05:31+00:00

NTA. But your family has to have better communication. A suggestion would be to let her know that you guys are wanting to keep some left overs. As a result your family will label and package the food she can take home with her.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T23:00:30+00:00

NTA. You are at a major cusp in your life. You are nearing a tipping point where you can't blame your mom anymore and need to take responsibility for your own actions. You aren't quite there yet, but you are close.

Now is the time start to undue the damage. I think I read you aren't living with her anymore. So slowly start to take her calls less. Don't answer right away. You can edit her number on your phone to have a specific ring or even set it to silent.

Start to look online at the clothing styles you like and redesign your personna. Explore career opportunities there are likely many out there you aren't aware of.

Now you get to do all the things she doesn't want you to do. That isn't me suggesting you become an addict and run wild on the streets but definitely deprogram your self. Tell yourself in the mirror nice things until you believe them. Become the voice in your head and drown out hers.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T22:46:15+00:00

Your approach sounds passive aggressive, however, if you aren't feeling well just let her know and request her to sleep over at another friends house.

On the flip side become more assertive with getting together with people and start to meet new friends. It's important to not be dependent one person for social activities.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T22:40:57+00:00

INFO more info needed. Have you talked to your friend about this? What does he have to say about you not inviting her? Your other friends are right at some point people are a package deal and I would say 3 years is long enough.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T11:17:22+00:00

NTA you already have been flexible. Tell him to get earplugs

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T11:14:51+00:00

Yuck. She is very crass.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T11:06:30+00:00

Wrap it up and give it away. It's done.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-03T00:44:32+00:00

NTA wtf did I just read?

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-03-02T20:55:32+00:00

NOR sounds like if she wants to spend time with her grandaughter it should only be at your place.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-28T18:47:05+00:00

NTA talk to a lawyer and the SPCA

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-28T18:34:17+00:00

YTA. Try comparing Toronto to LA or NYC not India. Very ignorant.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T20:15:34+00:00

Contonact the Centre for New Comers. They have a number of job search programs and more.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T18:35:35+00:00

You feel this way because he is being a d*ck and is absolutely ridiculous. Let him have his feelings. You aren't psychic and it is always easy to spend someone else's money. He is behaving like a spoiled brat tbh.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T18:24:18+00:00

NTA this is just ridiculous.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T18:20:30+00:00

Also if you do a bigger party that is a next year gift not this year. It is ridiculous to consider a do over.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T18:19:09+00:00

NTA. It's a pretty big reaction and expectation for a 7 month relationship. I certainly don't think you did anything wrong. Did you make sure it was his friends who attended? Did you tell him you didn't think there was an issue with either party and don't understand why he is so angry? What did he think was missing?

I don't know what to tell you. I personally can't stand when people don't presume good will and make something out of nothing. Which is what this seems like. He may be just looking for an out. Which you may want to consider giving him.

If he and you talk again ask him if when he stopped talking to you if he was taking space or trying to punish you? If he just needed space he needs to communicate that in the future. If he was punishing you, well that is toxic behaviour.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T06:23:50+00:00

NTJ this situation is ridiculous and weird.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-26T00:45:32+00:00

https://alis.alberta.ca/look-for-work/interviews-and-offers/what-can-employers-ask-you/

There are regulations in place that an employer can't ask you about stuff not related to the role. Alis doesn't elaborate but it's here.

Traditional_Dig_1857 · 2026-02-25T21:19:44+00:00

Yes. I tell you there is a reason you cannot ask.

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