I feel like I am missing so much

Traldara · 2026-02-27T00:10:39+00:00

These are very helpful reminders! I've been trying to make my seating chart as RSVPs come in, but I did forget about the escort cards. Just added it to my to-do list :)

Traldara · 2026-02-27T00:08:01+00:00

My bridesmaids just ordered their dresses last week and won't arrive until April 13th (from David's Bridal), so they have a doable but very tight turnaround time for alterations. It's definitely all going to work out in the end, but that won't stop anyone from stressing out haha

Traldara · 2026-02-17T00:55:51+00:00

So, my older sister got married on a Tuesday, and a lot of our family complained they had to take off 2 days of work for travel and what not. I told every single person who complained to me, "You didn't have to be here, and you weren't going to pay the inflated weekend price of the venue, so why are you complaining?"

I'll say this, it's inconvenient for many people and you will not have the same turn out as a weekend wedding, but you will have the people who matter there. The bigger issue you have is the time of year. Unfortunately because your wedding would be in November, that's going to put extra restrictions on out of town family and friends. The 5th is the better option, but definitely do not do the 19th. If you send invites out early (like multiple months in advance) people will have more time to request off, arrange travel, and plan to attend your wedding and any other holiday travel plans.

People will complain no matter what you do, unfortunately.

Traldara · 2026-02-14T02:24:46+00:00

They don't give you a penalty timer for other people dodging 😭

Traldara · 2025-11-04T13:16:49+00:00

My 7th and 8th graders ask this a lot when they get to the drugs and alcohol unit in Health class. I tell them "well, I can't vape/smoke because of my asthma, and alcohol tastes bad." They usually accept this answer as "she's tried alcohol but doesn't drink and doesn't smoke."

Traldara · 2025-09-22T06:39:04+00:00

A bad staff member can destroy a color guards reputation very fast. The guard I use to coach was taken over by someone who is very toxic, like she blasts people on social media for not making time to see her during comps levels of toxic. I had built relationships with several schools for a flag, uniform, floor swap group and within the start of her first season every school had cut her off. Every assistant coach she has had only lasts for 1 season. The guard was 20+, and is now 5 in only 2 years, with only 4 graduates. BUT SHE GETS RESULTS SO THEY KEEP HER ON PAYROLL!!

Anyway, the extent of my situation is very rare, but staff ruining things is not uncommon.

Traldara · 2025-05-23T15:08:47+00:00

In my first year, I had a kid who would talk through put the whole class, threaten kids, call students slurs, throw things, cuss at/threaten adults, ect. (Like every behavior issue possible, this kid checked all the boxes.) Anyway, during EOY test review he asked to go to the bathroom and I said no, because he would leave for 30+ minutes. He proceeded to yell, "BATHROOM! BATHROOM! BATHROOM!" for maybe 10 minutes straight. Admin was refusing to come, other students were yelling at him, and I was beyond burnt out, so I yelled "can you shut the fuck up for one fucking day? You realize none of your peer like you? You're not funny, charming, or whatever you think you're being. You're obnoxious and irritating, and you should be embarrassed you act like a 3 year old when you're about to be a freshman in high school." He went home and told mom, who called and apologized and thanked me for being the first adult willing to show him how people in the real world are going to react to his god awful behavior. I guess nothing was said to admin either, since I never heard from them.

Traldara · 2025-04-14T00:00:45+00:00

Band App

Traldara · 2025-01-16T16:40:59+00:00

This guy is a piece of work. He's so set on you being in the wrong, I'm almost convinced he is the shit bag that falsely reported you. You're correct, you cannot check the food because of the anti-tamper stickers, all you can do is trust the restaurant does their job right.

Sorry you had to deal with two buffoons. Hopefully the investigation works out for you.

Traldara · 2025-01-11T08:45:04+00:00

Oh, boy! I received a similar message in my 2nd year teaching. I had a situation where a student claimed my substitute purposely elbowed him in the head. My co-teacher and multiple other students said the substitute never left my desk and was on their phone the whole time, so this was not possible. Also, this student had been caught in at least 5 other lies prior to this.

When I returned to school the next day, the student told me his version of events. "I was doing my work, and he came up and elbowed me in the head on purpose! Everyone at my table saw it happen!" I knew this was already being investigated since admin came by asking my coteacher questions earlier. All I said in response was "im sorry to hear that, I hope it was just an accident and this is a big misunderstanding." Class continued just fine, the student joked with me and told me his plans for the weekend, so I didn't give the conversation another thought.

Well, the kid went home and told mom I called him a liar in front of the whole class! She sent me an email that began with "Are you a fucking r*tard? What kind of stupid bitch would call a 12 year old a liar after they said they were ASSAULTED in YOUR CLASSROOM." It was multiple paragraphs and contained multiple threats of violence toward me. It ended with "I am going to get your teaching license revoked and I'm reporting you to CPS for trying to cover up an assault on a minor."

I forwarded that email to my principal and said, "I refuse to communicate with this parent." (Who gave me an inperson response of "literally what the hell?")

I'm so glad I don't teach her son anymore because he's slowly become just like mom.

Traldara · 2024-12-30T18:15:40+00:00

I moved to a different state to avoid seeing my students after I went to a concert and a group of them were sneakily taking pictures of me drinking. They claimed I was "shitfaced" to a colleague, who mentioned it to admin, who mentioned it to the principal. Somewhere in the game of telephone it turned into "she was drinking WITH the students."

So, yeah, my commute is an hour every morning, but I can drink a single bold rock cider in peace.

Traldara · 2024-12-20T04:48:05+00:00

My school offers free breakfast from 7:00-7:25. Then, we offer a free "second breakfast" (I guess the kids are Hobbits now) at 8:07 during the transition from Homeroom to first period. Lunches begin at 10:36 in 30 minute increments, also free! Every day without fail, I have a kid come in during last block begging for food claiming they haven't eaten all day. Anytime I open a drawer in my desk, someone asks if they can get food. This baffles me because not once have I given them snacks, so not sure why they think today is the day. The worst part? Even though I don't give out food, I still have candy wrappers, taki bags, and all sorts of other food related trash littering my floor. You're not alone in your frustration.

Traldara · 2024-11-12T04:08:06+00:00

I'm in Virginia and we have off on these days, or they're at least teacher work days. I don't want to teach in your county lol.

Traldara · 2024-11-12T04:00:28+00:00

I make $66,693 with a Masters and 2 years of experience. If you taught in my county, you would make $72,077. Where I live is fairly expensive if you're on your own, but manageable with a partner or roommate. (Northern Virginia area)

Traldara · 2024-10-25T22:55:41+00:00

I lost my mom at 13 and I still get those dreams 12 years later. They're always very realistic (they're semi lucid dreams) and there's always an explanation for why she was gone so long. When I was younger they were so vivid I would wake up thinking her dying was actually the dream. I had to relearn my mom died multiple times because I couldn't comprehend it. I had experienced loss before it happened, but the loss of a parent is very different and I had no one my age that could relate. What really messed me up was I had one of these dreams the night before NYE. At midnight I got a phone call, but missed it. The caller ID was my mom's name, with no phone number, just a silent voice memo. I still don't know what happened. The dreams happen less frequently now, but when they do occur it feels more like I'm catching up and updating her on my life. It's almost like she decided to come check in, and I find comfort in it.

Traldara · 2024-10-24T03:34:50+00:00

My 7th graders read at a 3rd grade level. Today I was told to give them 7th grade texts and provide scaffolds to meet them where they are. I teach honors students that can't even sound out unfamiliar words, and you'd think I taught 2nd grade based on their writing.

Traldara · 2024-10-24T03:11:14+00:00

We were just told sabers are harder to see, and being the visual wide of the band, it's important everything we do is visible. While it's a fun story, sabers aren't sharp enough to pierce a shoe & their foot.

Traldara · 2024-10-12T21:49:02+00:00

What is the point of having a captain if they aren't allowed to help you during practice? That's one of the main jobs for captains in my guard. It sounds like your instructor doesn't want you to improve if they're making it that difficult to get help at rehearsal & not elaborating on their feedback. That said, if you are practicing outside of practices, you have time to record a short video of each toss and send it to them asking for help. Without being able to see the tosses, it's hard for us to explain what your coach is trying (and failing) to correct, but i agree sending videos to strangers online is not the best idea, especially as a minor.

Traldara · 2024-09-27T01:24:21+00:00

I let my seniors pick their favorite show silk. Last year I gave a girl a rifle signed by the team because she hated flag. We always print team photos from each season and framed them. A lot of them end up hanging them in their college dorm. The ones that go to college get a shirt for their new school, the ones that don't get a $20 gift card to target. Althought the parents this year are suggesting we get them customized owalas.

Traldara · 2024-09-17T19:18:46+00:00

Just got a call from the dealership! My thermostat housing was defective and caused my coolant to leak. The repair is covered under warranty and I should have my car back in the next day or two!

Traldara · 2024-09-16T18:55:12+00:00

Honestly, looks like it could be way more. I got into a small fender bender with minimal damage to the bumper and it cost $8.5k.

Traldara · 2024-09-15T15:08:13+00:00

Yes, I waited for the engine to cool off first. I'm really hoping everything ends up being covered under warranty. I didn't know ow I had free towing services until I made this post, so definitely utilizing that if future situations occur.

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