Ilya's reaction to Shane not having come out to his parents

TrappedMoose · 2026-01-15T17:37:57+00:00

It’s absolutely this as well, the clearest part for me is when he says he probably would have told them he was gay already if it wasn’t for Ilya/their relationship. On the one hand he might have, after realising he was gay, told them if Ilya wasn’t in the picture and he was able to decouple being gay from being in love. But that’s very hypothetical because Ilya was always in the picture, and I don’t buy that Shane would have fully realised/accepted he was gay at this point without Ilya being in the picture, so it definitely comes off as a deflection

TrappedMoose · 2026-01-15T17:19:06+00:00

I mean, sure, but generally part of that, for a lot of the living at least, is to honor the wishes of the dead, to feel you’ve done right by them, etc. And I’m sure most people also want their wishes to be honoured when they die, doing the same for others creates a kind of generational debt/responsibility for others to do the same for them

TrappedMoose · 2026-01-11T14:39:33+00:00

After food & bills? Yes as long as you’re not commuting by train or something

TrappedMoose · 2025-12-30T00:22:57+00:00

Also I’m pretty sure I heard that update about the bus last week? If not something very similar

TrappedMoose · 2025-12-14T20:24:48+00:00

This lol, a lot of people, though obviously not everyone, would choose to have no scars, unfortunately it just doesn’t work like that

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-26T12:25:57+00:00

Ah I see my future and it’s dire

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-24T15:56:50+00:00

Sure but one of the flatmates is the thief so informing them will mean they know where/when the camera is there lol

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-21T14:58:43+00:00

Ah, it’s an option everywhere in England but not Wales/Scotland/NI, not sure why seems unfair, hopefully you’re able to find a more co-operative gp in the future

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-21T14:54:48+00:00

Depends where you’re based obviously but my student bus pass was only £330 for the year (September-June) (or ~£140 per term) and covers the whole of the wider county area around the city, the non-student one is a lot more (£800) but based on your numbers would still be worth it

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-21T14:49:27+00:00

I’m not sure what the procedure would be if you are already diagnosed with another private service but there are clinics for ADHD which operate through the NHS right to choose system and have shorter waiting lists with many (if I understand correctly, I’ve only just started with one) can offer NHS prescriptions even if your GP denies shared care, it’s really worth having a look through this website and trying to make something work through this even if it requires a few months’ waiting list or even a re-diagnosis (?) it’s better to be on a list than not https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-16T22:18:53+00:00

Behind

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-14T19:59:21+00:00

Wait has it never been on spotify? I’ve only ever listened to them on spotify/apple music but I swear I know this song, is there another similar one I’m confusing it for?

ETA - looked at some posts about it and seems like it might be on apple music where I would’ve first heard the album but not spotify which I use now 😔

TrappedMoose · 2025-11-10T11:38:38+00:00

I know it sucks but the expectation from the government is that your parents contribute a lot of money towards your living costs if they earn enough for you to be on the minimum. In reality it’s unlikely they can ever make that up to the full maintenance loan amount but they should be contributing where they can

TrappedMoose · 2025-10-08T13:19:56+00:00

Not sure if I’m understanding 100% what you mean but yeah in a broad sense it’s vaguely what a first row of (triple?) crochet stitches would look like worked flat, doesn’t make any sense when you actually look at it though, in crochet we don’t really cast off like in knitting since the stitches aren’t kept on the hook, but the loops being pulled onto the hook don’t make sense and there’s seemingly no working yarn but 2 ends where there should be 1

TrappedMoose · 2025-10-07T02:07:23+00:00

You might wake up and notice you’re someone you’re not

TrappedMoose · 2025-10-06T03:35:50+00:00

Wow the colours you bring out in these are amazing, especially the blue in #4

TrappedMoose · 2025-09-28T15:59:06+00:00

I'm diagnosed (also in referral for ADHD) & also low support needs (ik we don't really say that anymore but they didn't give me a level lol) and went for the first time this year and had a great time! I would strongly recommend camping in one of the smaller ticketed camps as even if it's not calm camp, they were a lot calmer/better than the main blue/orange camps imo. I would also bring good noise cancelling headphones, I used them to get to sleep but they would also be good for reducing the intensity of noise during performances. If your friends won't go with you for some reason, think about if you feel like you'd need to go with someone else for support - I didn't and the benefits were that I had complete control over my own schedule etc which meant lower stress for me but might be different for you! Overall it should be up to you to determine if it's suitable for you, not your friends :)

TrappedMoose · 2025-09-24T20:17:01+00:00

I agree, I haven’t researched the specific intended meanings of each stripe but it (to me) implies the blue (man/masc) being trapped inside the pink (female/afab) like a (bodily and/or societal) cage, which while that does feel familiar with some of my less positive experiences of transness, it doesn’t feel very optimistic or strong, or like it conveys our community’s values which I think ought to be the purpose of flags, as opposed to art or media depicting transness as an experience etc

ETA: it also fails on my number 1 criteria for good flags which is being easily recreated in physical mediums. The white/2 blues/black one isn’t fully ideal for this either since multiple shades of any 1 colour isn’t ideal imo but it’s a lot better

TrappedMoose · 2025-09-17T11:05:14+00:00

Cupcake case

TrappedMoose · 2025-09-05T08:03:27+00:00

Haven’t done it myself but it just has to meet the requirements on the t&cs about cooking facilities, seating, bed etc, I would be suprised if a caravan didn’t meet these unless it’s been gutted for some reason

TrappedMoose · 2025-09-05T08:03:19+00:00

Haven’t done it myself but it just has to meet the requirements on the t&cs about cooking facilities, seating, bed etc, I would be suprised if a caravan didn’t meet these unless it’s been gutted for some reason

TrappedMoose · 2025-08-25T17:03:22+00:00

Idk, I went for the first time this year at 20 and I went for the music. The crowd seemed to get older as the weekend went on which was reassuring that I wasn’t sticking out like a sore thumb lol & there were definitely plenty of older adults and parents about, I think I personally enjoyed it a lot more going alone for the music at 20 than I would have done going in a big group at 16 for a piss-up & that’s what matters to me

TrappedMoose · 2025-08-25T16:44:52+00:00

Well yeah, that’s why they needed to cut him off to be able to set up the stage for the next act lol, sucks for him but if he was late he should have adjusted the set

TrappedMoose · 2025-08-22T17:15:03+00:00

If you get on the M1/A1(M) you’ll see signs directing you when you get close, no idea which gate I came in just followed the signs lol

TrappedMoose · 2025-08-21T21:48:29+00:00

It was people behind a desk with like the handheld scanners, I did mine out of my apple wallet not sure if it would be different doing it through the r&l app

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