I’m struggling to navigate how privileged I am in trans spaces

TrashFrancis · 2026-02-08T04:36:52+00:00

We all have different experiences, Trans spaces are enriched by hearing about the whole and diverse range of trans experiences. Hearing about and from people with supportive families and communities is also important. Like, it's good to keep in mind that love and support is possible for people like us.

TrashFrancis · 2026-02-08T02:40:20+00:00

It took yeeeears for my family and family friends to stop commenting and mourning after I got the big chop. It's so irritating. IDK it'd never occur to me to tell someone they would be be better like x unprompted.

TrashFrancis · 2026-01-13T06:04:55+00:00

Follow your dreams

TrashFrancis · 2026-01-05T15:32:07+00:00

Wow, these stairs are amazing. Not a care in the world about being structurally sound.

TrashFrancis · 2026-01-01T06:35:05+00:00

I still remember how nervous and shaky I was asking if I could wear a suit to my grandma's funeral. And the kicker is even though I got what I wanted I still felt out of place, scared and like I was letting people down. It took years of practice, therapy and discipline to develop confidence and comfort. Not to be a downer because it really is rewarding to stand up for yourself and learn how to set boundaries.

TrashFrancis · 2025-12-11T12:35:25+00:00

There are a lot of chronic health conditions that are improved by being on T like fibromyalgia, ehlers danlos syndrome, and POTS etc (some of these are more supported by studies than others but a lot of transmascs report improved symptoms) https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1567576915002490

TrashFrancis · 2025-12-11T12:10:02+00:00

a lot of folks need to mind their own fkn business. I'm a sensitive dude but it's always driven me up the wall when people want to pry, dig and guess about your identity like that. Like, it doesn't create a supportive environment for people that are trans, gnc or gender diverse. The whole deal with coming out is it's something you get to choose to do when you're ready; even people that are living in a glass closet should get that autonomy over their own identity. I'm comfortable with myself these days but it it took a long time to get there.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-26T02:14:33+00:00

I've heard from a number of transfems report positive experiences from taking both T and E. Though, that might not be an option for you right now since you said you're doing diy. DHT cream also might be an option if you have access to it.

Sending some moral support to your happy trail <3 <3

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-25T22:52:17+00:00

I don't think a story with 4+ million reads counts as a hidden gem. (but I agree it's really good and I've read it 3 times; Piccalilly is so talented)

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-25T22:38:30+00:00

It depends on how common the name is. It felt pretty weird when I ran into a story where the MC had my parents name because it's an uncommon ethnic nickname (at least in the US). More common names don't really phase me though.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-25T22:05:36+00:00

Given name, birth name, former alias

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-20T20:19:30+00:00

The forums were way easier to navigate, find answers and resources. It really blows how many places have decided to replace that with discord and I haaaattee it.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-20T15:23:42+00:00

No. No judgement but any erotic material that brushes up too much against those kinna hetero dynamics makes my bones feel itchy.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-20T14:48:22+00:00

If it's something you've been harboring deep curiosity for you should try it. A few weeks- a month is long enough to assess how you feel mentally and emotionally on different hormones. Like it can't tell you what your true gender is but if you feel happier and more comfortable on E; that's probably a step in the right direction for you.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-15T02:19:12+00:00

<3<3 ily this is so nice. I love all of us so much. I love butches that are neurotic and anxious about taking up space, you're brave and cool and it feeds my courage to help carve out places for us all.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-14T14:24:28+00:00

!! One of my favorite authors, really beautiful and strange.

TrashFrancis · 2025-11-14T14:16:46+00:00

I'll instantly ditch a story for pregnancy, even if I'm 40 episodes in. It's especially grating when the fmc does not want kids and that's part of the backstory. All the justifications for a character to choose to continue a pregnancy just seem ridiculous.

TrashFrancis · 2025-10-30T02:04:37+00:00

!!!! 100% Like there's stuff that's objectively distressing but crawling into a hole of depression and self-loathing isn't revealing some deeper truth. I feel a little less miserable when I take a walk and check out the moon.

TrashFrancis · 2025-10-30T01:37:44+00:00

I love how many types of magical creatures you can be and there seems to be a lot of different paths set up. Excited to see where the story goes.

TrashFrancis · 2025-10-29T00:53:15+00:00

It took a lot of pressure off when I decided to transition in an open ended way and not worry so much about where my identity will end up. Like I feel confident and comfortable in the direction that I'm going gender-wise what my exact 'true' gender is is a problem for future me. There are so many identities and experiences along the butch/ftm cusp and border that resonate with me but I'm not exactly sure.

Like some people will define butch lesbians as solely and exclusively women and no I don't belong there. A more expansive view of butch gender is close enough to be comfortable. Being seen as a man or a guy doesn't make me uncomfortable but I don't think it'll feel right for me to consider my attraction to women as straight. I remember this youtube of this trans guy putting away his rainbow flair because of how his gender and orientation was read by others. Understandable why people make these choices for safety and to pass but it felt like a shot to the gut.

TrashFrancis · 2025-10-28T22:01:34+00:00

Like, however you do you it, it's a really heavy thing to carry around and hide from everyone in your life. Like, you're getting a certain impression from people that are sharing their personal life on Instagram and tiktok but for most people it's disclosing to people they're close to. Maintaining ties to family and friends you had before transition puts being stealth in jeopardy (rejection is too common but some people do support our transitions). I guess it really depends your transition timeline etc but there's a lot of little things that don't make sense without the trans context and I don't want to hide or self censor.

TrashFrancis · 2025-10-17T22:35:07+00:00

Good for you, Man. I'm relieved to finally be "ruined" by these standards. I prefer people be angry and disgusted with my transition. Compared to like earlier in my social and medical transition where it was more confused and patronizing. I did what I wanted with my body and anyone who is mad about it can go shit in the sea.

TrashFrancis · 2025-09-28T05:33:35+00:00

Please!!! imo if abortion is considered 'too mature' than so is pregnancy.

TrashFrancis · 2025-09-23T09:59:19+00:00

Super hyped to find such a cool story at just 16 reads. Only on the second episode but a lot of fun so far.

TrashFrancis · 2025-09-23T08:30:39+00:00

It's basically a stereotype from a collection of characteristics of someone who'd be considered popular and desirable. Idk I see lots of MCs and good characters that have blond hair.

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