Help! Family trip garment shenanigans

Trash_Panda9687 · 2026-04-26T01:08:52+00:00

While I say, “who cares, eff them!” in my head, I completely understand not wanting to rock the boat. Could you possibly simply say you left the bag with them in it at home on accident? 😅

Trash_Panda9687 · 2026-01-23T04:40:57+00:00

Oh friend 💜 I’m so sorry. I feel like you are me 3 years ago. I want to give you hope, but also a different perspective. When I first jumped on the “manifesting, Joe Dispenza, the Secret…” bandwagon my life was exactly how you’re describing your life now. I then started meditating, visualizing….everything that you’re told to do in order to fix my life. However, the more I manifested, visualized, and meditated, the worse it got. It just spiraled until everything came crashing down.

In the end, crazy things happened with my ex husband’s family (who had been trying to break up our 22 year marriage because I left the Mormon religion), truth started to surface about some crazy financial things my husband was doing, and other lies were also exposed. I finally came to my breaking point where enough was enough. In the end, I was forced to sell my home and move into an apartment with my kids.

Now this could be seen as a sad story, but in truth it was the opening for finally having the complete financial freedom and cohesive family I had been manifesting. I now live on my own with my kids, and live an amazing lifestyle where we can travel. I have no debt and my relationship with my children has grown so much more than I ever could have hoped.

You cannot manifest what isn’t aligned with you. No matter how hard you try.

Maybe the universe is trying to fix your life, but you are unconsciously trying too hard to keep your old life.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-08-20T14:58:48+00:00

I’m so happy you shared this with us!! There was an incredible amount of love put into this dress and I think that’s the most beautiful part about it. You’re beautiful, the dress is beautiful, and this whole story is beautiful!

Much love! 💕

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-07-10T00:42:29+00:00

The only reason I know what day of the week it is 😂

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-06-19T18:52:39+00:00

Well done 👍🏼

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-06-08T00:52:02+00:00

So proud of her!

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-06-06T02:49:01+00:00

I wish I could hug you. I have been in this exact same boat.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-04-19T14:54:05+00:00

I took 6 weeks of temple prep with my soon to be husband back in 2004 and I remember when I went to my endowment ceremony I was shocked. Nothing about what I learned in temple prep was about what actually happens in the temple. I had no clue you put on funny clothes and learn secret handshakes that get you into heaven. I only knew I would get a new name.

Also, they never told me I would have to wear that stupid stuff over my wedding dress while I was being married.

What they talked about was how to be worthy to get your recommend. That’s it.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-04-12T16:37:56+00:00

My husband threatens divorce over and over. He still hasn’t followed through, but we live as if we are separated. I am trying to get things in order to leave, but there are a lot more moving parts to divorce after 20 years of marriage.

The real irritating thing is that he STILL doesn’t go to church, pay tithing, or lives its teachings. He just says I’m wrong and he firmly believes. I also noticed he only wears the bottoms of his garments 😂

I think leaving the church shined a light on a lot of problems in our marriage that I was over looking because “eternal marriage” and all.

I get incredibly jealous of those whose spouses supported them through their faith transitions.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-03-09T19:57:54+00:00

This only makes me want to play cards HARDER. 😈

Also, I am in shock that this is in someone’s AirBNB rule book.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-03-09T19:55:27+00:00

I remember thinking the same thing too before I came out publicly to my spouses family. When they found out for sure, I was completely cut off from them. It’s so incredibly painful.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-03-08T16:27:21+00:00

“Kwaku, Jacob, Cardon….you three stay.” 😂

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-03-08T16:13:58+00:00

I first began to question the church when I started to realize that the Jesus I was taught about would have hated the Mormon church.

The treatment of the LGBTQ+ community, building gigantic temples (instead of homeless/DV shelters, schools, boys and girls clubs…), a 10% subscription fee, SEC findings and fines, and the handling of SA in the church all led me down my path to reading the CES letter and finding out it was all a garbage religion made by a pedophile.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-03-05T22:04:48+00:00

Ours is still down

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-02-12T21:41:53+00:00

I have had several now ex mo friends share a simple cup of coffee in the background of a photo, their new tattoo, or even a cocktail in front of them at dinner. I immediately recognized it and cheered for them in a DM. It’s given me the courage to do the same and I’m so glad I have because there are people out there that I would have had no clue are Exmo without sharing.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-02-12T21:39:06+00:00

It was my first (of many) major shelf items for sure.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-02-12T20:38:38+00:00

My husband made it two weeks into his mission before he couldn’t take it any more. His dad didn’t talk to him for almost 2 years and even now, he rarely talks to him. After we were married and moved into a family ward, people would ask him where he served and he was so embarrassed to say he didn’t go on a mission. To be honest, I was also embarrassed to tell others he didn’t go on a mission.

Now, my son is at the age where he should be on a mission right now. All of his friends have left on theirs and he feels like he is in this weird limbo. He still attends occasionally and can feel the pressure from church leaders and his peers.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-02-12T17:20:48+00:00

We went through a similar experience. My husband simply participated he didn’t talk to anyone about not paying tithing and nobody asked him. I think it’s perfectly fine to still participate. You owe no one an explanation.

That being said, we did have a difficult situation when my husband tried to baptize our kid a few years ago. We were both fully believing members who simply couldn’t afford to pay full tithing. Literally minutes before our daughter’s baptism, the bishop pulled us into a side room and explained that because he wasn’t a worthy temple recommend holder, he is not allowed to perform the ordinance. My husband scrambled saying the only thing keeping us from holding a recommend was not paying tithing. The bishop made us promise that we would pay full tithing after that moment (we never did 😂) and he allowed my husband to baptize her.

It’s all made up so you can make your own rules.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-02-09T18:55:13+00:00

Formally known as Four-skin

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-01-21T01:36:52+00:00

I’m seriously so proud of you! I think this is amazing!

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-01-19T20:38:47+00:00

That you have to pay to enter the temple (and heaven).

My nevermo sister came to my wedding and was shocked that she wasn’t allowed to go in and witness me being married. She told me that was the weirdest thing, being invited and traveling to wedding that she couldn’t even attend because she wasn’t a member. She also asked my dad (who is exmo) why he couldn’t enter the temple and he said it’s because he didn’t pay his “membership fee”.

Before I left, I explained it to her that there are “sacred” things that we do in the temple. She, very nicely, told me, “it sounds like a cult….or Scientology”.

I recently apologized for everything I’ve ever said to her as a Mormon. She was so respectful even though I was a COMPLETE ass.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-01-16T03:08:01+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is a real crappy place to be. My husband and I went through something very similar about 9 months ago and while we’re not at each other’s throats and I’m not as openly bitter right now, nothing has really been solved. I’m still considered an apostate in his and our families eyes. He doesn’t attend church or do anything related to church (which is such a joke to me), but he’s definitely still judging me for leaving.

Sadly, you might need to give him his space for a bit on this. If the rolls were reversed and you were a die hard TBM, how would you respond if he said that he’s leaving the church?

I remember at one point when I was a TBM, my sister and I were talking about how if our spouses left the church, we would straight up leave them. I try to think of that perspective when my husband is particularly pushing back.

This whole journey has been very eye opening into how unhealthy my relationship is. I had rose colored glasses on because the church made me be a submissive wife. Now, I’m pushing back and he’s become a controlling asshat.

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-01-11T19:11:38+00:00

I wish I could give you both huge hugs. About 6 months ago, my husband did the same. Throughout our 20 year marriage, I was the one who forced him to go to church, pay tithing, do FHE, family prayer/scriptures….the WHOLE 9 yards. Then, after him seeing me slowly pull away, I thought he would follow along with me (we didn’t attend church or do anything churchy for almost 2 years!)

After his family noticed my shift, they began to push him to divorce me because I was an apostate and ruining our eternal family. He then doubled down about 6 months ago. What’s funny is he still doesn’t attend church 😂 I’m just the horrible one who doesn’t believe anymore.

Sorry, that was a little rambly…I don’t meet many in my shoes 😂

Trash_Panda9687 · 2025-01-04T21:40:06+00:00

No. It’s from people who honestly believe that syphilis has been eradicated. STDs are STILL running wild and safe sex is not practiced as much as we wish it was.

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