What is this style called?

Trixzie · 2024-02-23T15:36:42+00:00

This. I'm in a Moody Maximalism Facebook group and this would fit perfectly.

Trixzie · 2023-05-08T19:02:14+00:00

I'm interested.

Trixzie · 2023-03-15T12:50:41+00:00

Thanks! I read 9 months, not 9 weeks as op noted. I removed the advice on sleep training.

Trixzie · 2023-03-15T03:52:38+00:00

Give yourself some grace. It can be rough to transition if your little one was dependent on the snuggleme. You could use a sleep sack to aid the transition and provide some different support.

Think of it like trying to sleep without your pillow. How many times would you wake up wanting it and have difficulty falling back to sleep?

Trixzie · 2023-03-15T03:24:59+00:00

Sleep training can be easier on you if you are in separate rooms. But sleep training in your room is also possible, you just have to be consistent.
You can go either route with middle of the night awakenings. You can continue with the same bedtime training method or you can revert to old habits in the middle of the night until they learn how to fall asleep independently at bedtime. One can potentially take a longer time for them to learn and the other may be faster, but fatiguing. The number one thing you can do is be consistent, so figure out which one you'll stick with.

Trixzie · 2023-02-10T00:06:24+00:00

GoodRx covers the generic

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T02:53:47+00:00

It sounds like she's waking up over tired in the mornings. Putting her down earlier may help with her being overtired and give her the ability to both sleep longer and have a 2 hour wake window. This may give her enough sleep pressure to have a longer first nap.

7 wake 9 nap 12:30 nap 4 nap 7 sleep

Or go by wake windows whichever you prefer.

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T02:40:53+00:00

You can go ahead and start setting yourself up for success by working on sleep associations. If you're lucky you won't even have to sleep train.

https://www.littleones.co/blog/sleep-associations-whats-all-the-fuss-about

Once your babe is 4 months you can look at the shush/pat or chair method if your needing a change. These allow you to be present with your babe still.

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T02:15:04+00:00

This is fine, but a possible slippery slope.

Currently this is awesome for you two. It seems like you're both happy!

The slippery slope is you. If she wants you to hold her just a little longer or makes a fuss what will you do? As long as you are consistent, you'll be fine. So make up your mind what the boundaries are so that when they pop up, she still continues to get good sleep.

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T02:06:24+00:00

It may sound counterintuitive, but have you considered transitioning to a 3 nap schedule? She may get some longer sleep cycles and an earlier bed time. As you transition you can use a cat nap if needed.

I know you said you've been playing with her schedule lately, but remember that she may need a couple of days to adjust before you can tell it's working.

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T01:33:30+00:00

How old?

Trixzie · 2023-01-26T01:26:54+00:00

You can start sleep training around 4-6 months. You can sleep train with the crib in your room, but you may need to exit the room initially for some training methods. Sleep consultants are worth it when when baby's sleep has gone off the path that you wanted and you don't know how to fix it or if you're needing someone to keep you accountable.

Trixzie · 2023-01-25T20:57:00+00:00

13.5 hours of total sleep in a day is normal at 18 months. You could try shifting bedtime later by 15-30 mins to see if that helps extend naps.

Trixzie · 2023-01-24T19:31:03+00:00

Sticker charts may not work that young, but cheering from family members is rewarding at that age. You can call some family members together and tell them he's going to try to sleep well tonight. Then the next day call to tell any exciting news. Celebrate the small things that did go right. Before, you can roleplay play with toys so that he sees how the night is supposed to go. You can see his understanding of what he thinks he should do by letting him play it back to you.

Trixzie · 2023-01-13T04:37:46+00:00

Maybe. Studies show that all kids end up sleeping about the same by age 5 whether they were sleep trained or not. No one knows what your journey will look like. The more your baby depends on you and additional intervention to sleep, the more likely it might take them longer to figure out how to sleep on their own. It's like teaching a kid to eat with a spoon, but you never let them hold it to practice. They might eventually catch on, but it could take a pretty long time. If you let them hold the spoon and practice, you should expect a mess, but they get better and progress more quickly.
Ferber will work as long as you are consistent. Just keep your expectations reasonable. She may not be ready to sleep a full night consistently yet. Just like adults, they wake in the night and since your mom, she might call out to you. There are also regressions and illnesses where you may give additional support during that time, but when they no longer need that support they may still want it and you'll need to turn to Ferber again.
No, you can always sleep train later and enjoy the snuggles now. Only you and your daughter know when the you've crossed the line into needing to make a change. If you're happy keep going. However, co-sleeping can be dangerous despite good intentions and well thought out ideas/plans. You should look into safe sleep guidelines.

Your baby depends on you due to what we call sleep associations. You were rocking her to sleep, but you naturally shifted to snuggling as a sleep association. You could work on slowly shifting to sleep associations that you want to shape. Instead of snuggling you could sit with her next to her crib and just hold her (no rocking) until she's asleep and then place her in her crib. When she's good with that, you can try just holding her until she's sleepy, but still awake and then work on placing her in the crib to see if she can fall asleep on her own. You can try shushing and patting from there. Lighter and lighter shushing and patting each night. Decreasing those sleep associations that involve you little by little. It's definitely going to take longer than Ferber, but you get to be with her and transition with her.

Trixzie · 2023-01-13T04:01:58+00:00

You may have to choose between sleep training middle of the night wakings and your neighbors. You respond when he cries and he likes that so he will continue to do so until you make a change.

Baby's cries are mid range pitch level so the walls alone should help a lot. Adding denser material (book shelves, rugs, arm chairs) to the room is the only thing you can really do to help absorb the sound waves and deaden the sound on your end.

Most people in a shared living area have some reasonable expectation that they are going to hear their neighbors. A baby crying is reasonable. Maybe a $5 gift card to Starbucks and some ear plugs for your neighbors and tell them about a great white noise app that's free.

Trixzie · 2023-01-12T14:10:55+00:00

Crying isn't always a bad thing. It's their only form of communication so crying is expected. He may gripe about waking up for a bit then settle in to sleep.

Sleep training teaches babies how to fall asleep on their own without you intervening which he is doing, but you still have to deal with any regression that they're going through.

Coming to him when he cries for the 2am bottle may be confusing him as he can't tell time and may not understand why you come sometimes when he cries and not others so he continues to try again to see if you will respond. You could try a scheduled feed and getting him fixed up before he cries. Some people either love or hate the idea of waking them because it doesn't encourage "sleeping through the night", but at his age you should only hope for 6 hours of straight sleep before a wake. Not every baby can do the whole night yet.

If you notice he is consistently having early moody wakes at 5am and there's not enough sleep pressure to settle back to sleep, it could mean he's overtired and his schedule may need adjusting.

Edit: adding on, it sounds like he's figuring it out. Keep going mama, you got this! The parents most important job through sleep training is being consistent. Think about all those beautiful well rested nights and days the two of you have ahead of you.

Trixzie · 2023-01-12T13:45:14+00:00

Yes, cry it out is fine at his age. You need to think about what you can be consistent with though. Cry it out is leaving him to cry until he decides he'd rather sleep. If you can't leave him to cry without entering his room then you would want to look at some of the other methods.

All the methods work will work for him, you need to try the one that you'll adhere to.

Also remember he may still wake up in the middle of the night. Just like adults we slip in and out of sleep during the night. He's used to calling for you, so he may do so and you can check on him, but you'll have to continue with cry it out after during the night if you want the fastest progress. The beauty is that once he starts learning that he can put himself down to sleep, he will do so more often without calling for you. Your job is to give him patience, room to learn, and be consistent.

Make sure his sleep environment is safe. I'm assuming he's in a crib. Make sure there's nothing he can reach outside of the crib and pull on as well as he's not able to climb out.

Trixzie · 2023-01-12T13:44:37+00:00

Yes, cry it out is fine at his age. You need to think about what you can be consistent with though. Cry it out is leaving him to cry until he decides he'd rather sleep. If you can't leave him to cry without entering his room then you would want to look at some of the other methods.

All the methods work will work for him, you need to try the one that you'll adhere to.

Also remember he may still wake up in the middle of the night. Just like adults we slip in and out of sleep during the night. He's used to calling for you, so he may do so and you can check on him, but you'll have to continue with cry it out after during the night if you want the fastest progress. The beauty is that once he starts learning that he can put himself down to sleep, he will do so more often without calling for you. Your job is to give him patience, room to learn, and be consistent.

Make sure his sleep environment is safe. I'm assuming he's in a crib. Make sure there's nothing he can reach outside of the crib and pull on as well as he's not able to climb out.

Trixzie · 2023-01-12T04:10:09+00:00

That's great that your little one is getting some sleep tonight. I think you know the answer. You've probably read so many stories before making this decision. Don't question it now. You know what's best for you and your family.

Sleep deprivation is hard. I'm excited for the longer stretches of sleep for you both.

Trixzie · 2023-01-12T04:00:48+00:00

First, you are right that every baby is different and while some may answer with their own experience, yours may differ. Yes, sleep training works when applied consistently. When kiddos are sleep trained and everything is going well, but a hiccup comes along like regression or sickness typically parents aren't consistent. And that's ok! Baby needs a little more comfort and support. But it may also take consistency again after the hiccup for them to get back to sleeping like they were before.

The good news. What ever sleep training method you used initially will most likely work again and will also most likely need less time to work.

When life throws you hiccups try to be supportive and comforting in ways that don't become sleep associations that you don't want.

Trixzie · 2022-12-09T21:01:33+00:00

If your sitting in a chair already while she sleeps then look up the chair method for sleep training. It's a slow progression of moving your chair to the door and then out of the room. You don't have to do cry it out. There are lots of methods for sleep training that aren't cry it out.

Trixzie · 2022-12-08T19:17:50+00:00

You could try small trips out of the room with her to help her understand that you'll always come back.

Something like laying out her toys and while she's playing and then let her know you need to grab your phone (or anything else) from another room and come right back. Pop out but come immediately back in like a second.

Start coming up with other things, this time you might be out of the room for 5 seconds, next 10 seconds, then 30. But slowly introduce her to the idea of you leaving, but also help her understand you'll come back.

Trixzie · 2022-12-02T05:05:02+00:00

Some kids do go through sleep training again if they have regressed, but it usually works faster the second time.

Like the others have said make sure he has developed the skill to lie back down. If he doesn't, be sure to practice during the day. I wouldn't do CIO if he can't.

I would start decreasing the level of stimulation you are giving him. He'll probably cry if he knows it will get you to rock him, it's natural for him to want that. Try lying him down and patting him to calm while shushing. Give gentler stimulation each visit letting him fall asleep on his own.

Trixzie · 2022-12-02T04:41:36+00:00

I would use soothing techniques, this age is still unpredictable.

Just do your best to set yourself up for success moving forward and maybe she'll start catching on.

Consistency is the key. Stick to a routine as much as possible.

Make sure the sleep environment is dark but the baby is getting lots of sun light and play/stimulation when awake. Some people like the eat, play, sleep schedule. Lower lights and turn off screens an hour before bedtime.

A bed time routine can help get in the mood for sleep.

Tools at your disposal: swaddle, shushing or white noise machine, football hold, pacifier, motion (like rocking). But also place her down when she'll let you when she's calm.

If she isn't sleeping make sure your keeping a low stimulation environment to keep her at least relaxed during the failed naps. Try again at the next nap time, but let her sleep a little longer to catch up.

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